Hi there,

Thank you for reading my post. I am am a happily married and living in the Cambridge, MA area. I am seeking women who are similarly situated and would be interested in forming a secret online (to start with) friendship to explore our mutal interest in things bdsm related. After we get to know each other through email and IM, I suggest we get together for coffee. What I am trying to say is I will not rush this, I find that if we both do not invest some time to get to know each other that rushing into a play situation is not satisfying.

I have been "into" (if that is the right word is here) BDSM since I was in my teenage years. I started out on the sub side but over time found that being on the top had its own unique thrill. Over the years, I have had several play opportunities with various partners although I have never been close to what might be called a lifestyle player. I am, however, well versed in both the psychological and physical dynamics bdsm play.

My ideal partner would be a woman who is also relatively happily married and/or attached, pretty conventional but who also had a craving or yearning to explore her interest in BDSM. I don't have a preference as far as age although somewhere between 30 and 55 would be good. Not looking to exchange photos either, although if you want to send one that's great. i would rather meet to see if there is an attraction (although mental connection is really the only thing that counts for me).

In case its of interest, physically, I am 6 feet, 185, clean cut, blue eyes, professionally employed with my own business. Somewhere between an extrovert and an introvert.

Finally, one requirement I have is that you should be willing to spend some time writing emails and corresponding. If I get a lot of one line or short non-descriptive emails I expect we are not a good match.

That's all for now. I look forward to hearing from you.

J.