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Hetero Female Mistress, 42,  DC, Washington D.C.
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IvoryMistress

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(For those who wondered, I used to be on back when it was CM. I rejoined on 2015.)

I am starting to look for a long term, romantic relationship again. Here are some of the qualities that I generally find to be most appealing



I generally prefer white guys, college educated, good manners, professionally motivated yet still know how to have fun, socially liberal, and with a naughty sense of humor.

--cis male (bc I like a flesh blood cock)

--someone who is interested in having a family. Im in my late 30s and am looking to settle down and start a family with the right kinky man. (--want to spend time getting to know each other 1st!) Im open to dating someone who already has children, but ideally I would like to have 1 or 2 of my own. Am also open to adoption or being a foster parent.

--muscular (some padding is ok, but I love a firm body)

--masculine (Im not interested in cross dressers or sissies)

--switch or a submissive who can take some intense sensations. (I think the term pain gets thrown around a lot but it doesnt really describe what I like to inflict on my partner. I much prefer to push with intensity that only sometimes crosses into actual pain.) I am not interested in switching, but I have done co-topping with other partners who were switches. Im also open to dating a dominant man as long as he understands I wont be switching.

--sensualist with a high sex drive and great stamina. If you cant last for at least an hour at a time, this wont work.

--Not to be too blunt but I am a bit of a size queen and require at least a 7 inch long cock that is also somewhat thick. THIS IS NOT NEGOTIABLE AND IS A DEAL BREAKER. The only exception is 6 and 34 inch length and well above avg girth. I have had enough experience to know what works for my body and what doesnt. Toys dont work well for me either.

--age range of 34 - 50

--upbeat personality

--SINGLE, not in an open relationship. While I am open to having a relationship with some flexibility in playing withfucking other people, I am not interested in poly or being someones extra partner.

--at least somewhat experienced with BDSM and comfortable attending BDSMkinky events. Ive been active in the scene since 2000 and enjoy attending events once in a while.

--prefer at least 5ft 8inches (Im just over that)

--is available to actually get together at least few times a month. This also means you need to be relatively local. Ive done a couple of long distance relationships and am very tired of never seeing my partner. I am not interested in moving, unless it is somewhere in the MDDCVA area.

--romantic

--enjoys travel. Ive been to around 40 states and almost a dozen countries.

--non-smoker, DD free (as am I)

--prefer a clean-cut look but a few tats or piercings are ok...

--I am highly allergic to cats and fairly allergic to most dogs, so while I think they are cute and I like them there is no way I can live with them --I can live with some dogs, depending on the allergic response. (I do have a small parrot and will not get rid of him.)

FYI, do not wear skinny jeans, especially ones that sag in the crotch as that is a complete turn-off for me! Safeword on men in skinny jeans!!! lol Fitted slacks that cup the package are fine but not little bitch jeans -)



If you are a conservative Republican (Tea Party style, not a moderate), anti-choice, anti-gay, not environmentally concerned, and probably a few other things I will have to add later, then we are definitely *not* a good match.



The list goes on but this gives a starting point.

As for some of my qualities

I am an experienced Dominant. Ive been in the scene for about 16 years. My personality is fairly outgoing and usually laid back --except when I have you tied up and at my mercy, of course. I am artistic and creative, both in regular life and the bedroomdungeon.

Variety is my main kink. I get bored doing the same things over over.... but in general I tend to enjoy cbt, king, strap-on, footbody worship --in no particular order. The best thing for me is the connection that I share with my partner, seeing them respond to what Im doing, and building on our dynamic as we explore different activities. There are a ton of other things that I enjoy but I dont fee like listing them all. My hard limits are scat, animals, minors, most blood playneedlescutting, drugs.

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 IvoryMistress

 Dominant Female

 DC 

 Washington D.C.

 5' 8"

 42

 Hetero

 Caucasian

 02/01/15

 09/23/21

Actively Seeking:

Submissive Male

Switch Men

 Lives For:

 Travel

 Genital Punishment (Expert)

 Foot Worship (Expert)

 Photography (Expert)

 Sculpting

 Loves:

 Art Galleries

 Fine Dining

 Shopping

 Anal Play (Expert)

 Body Worship

 Domestic Service

 Massage (Getting)

 Mental Bondage

 Orgasm Denial

 Spanking (Expert)

 Strap-Ons (Expert)

 Likes:

 Beachcombing

 Movies

 Museums

 Renaissance Faires

 Volunteerism

 Bicycling

 Walking

 Weightlifting

 Bondage

 Canes and Crops (Expert)

 Chastity (Beginner)

 Electrical Play (Expert)

 Exhibitionism

 Local BDSM Community (Expert)

 Munches

 Wax play

 Whips

 Intellectual Discourse

 Liberal Politics

 Philosophy

 Female Supremacy

 Agnosticism

 Dislikes:

 Bar Hopping

 Crossdressing

 Conservative Politics

 Hates:

 Diapers

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Journal Entries:
3/12/2018 12:26:06 PM
April 21 & 22 I am producing a FemDom weekend in Baltimore, MD! During the day on both Sat & Sun there will be a Retreat with highly focused education classes to help you develop (and find!) relationships with FemDom dynamics! This Retreat is open to Dommes and also subs of any gender. On Sat night, come out to our 2nd annual FemDom United party!!! Dress in your best/sexiest fetish clothing and join us for the biggest FemDom event in the area. Dommes and subs of any gender are welcome. Contact me for more details on both events.

2/12/2018 9:02:32 PM
I don't get on cam to "prove" who I am. If you want to get to know me, come out to one of the public BDSM events I attend each month. Amazing how many guys can't bother to come to an event. The main purpose of munches & meet-ups is to provide a relatively safe space for people to meet. As a woman, I am definitely concerned about my safety. If you can't respect that (& aren't concerned about yours), then don't bother contacting me.

10/31/2017 7:20:45 PM
Available for phone sessions this evening.

Sat, Nov 4th is my next foot fetish party. It's happening in Frederick, MD. Contact me for more information. The parties are always so much fun!

8/23/2017 3:14:05 PM
In Feb 2018 I am traveling to Italy!!! I'll be attending a BDSM conference over there. Please help support my "International FemDom Diplomatic Mission" by contributing to my travel fund ;-) At least 3 other Mistresses are making the trip with me! We're hosting a couple of fundraising events over the coming months. Contact me to find out more or to offer a donation. Thanks for helping spread FemDom energy across the Atlantic! 

7/16/2017 9:20:07 AM

Sandal season just calls for a foot party, so we are bringing out the gorgeous feet of Maryland again! We are having another fantastic Frederick Foot Fetish Party in Frederick, MD on August 12, 2017.


We're bringing some of the sexiest foot models in the MD/DC/VA scene together so all you guys in DC, MD, VA and WV and PA can indulge in a toe-tally awesome time! (We've even had guys come all the way from Philly & Delaware to spend time with our experienced models!!!)

 

The party website is DCFootModels.com

-- models will be added soon.


5/29/2017 11:13:56 PM
To the guy who just blocked me after whining time after time about being my slave... And to several of the random writers of the one-line notes that I receive regularly: My profile specifically says I am looking for someone local, which you are not. You are also older than the preferred age range. You never bothered to confirm that you fit anything other than being open to kids. I prefer someone who will actually respond to what I'm asking rather than going on about how real they are... I'm quite real and active in the BDSM community. I have no problem finding real subs. Just looking for the right one.

4/26/2017 11:10:19 PM
Spanking 101 class by Ivory Mistress
Sunday, April 30 -- 2pm - 4pm
Frederick, MD -- private location
$20/person

Spanking is a very popular activity, from couples dabbling with something naughty all the way to heavy players. It may have even been your introduction to the world beyond vanilla sex. In this class, Ivory Mistress Jae introduces you to spanking basics as well as advanced techniques. She’ll discuss the psychological aspects in spanking scenes, motivations for seeking corporal play, as well as basic safety. Then it’s on to meatier matters, like utilizing different implements and varying your approach to create specific scenes.

You’ll learn how to identify if you and your partners are more interested in domestic discipline spanko scenes, a punishment session, or perhaps a wild endorphin ride, etc. Understanding these critical differences will foster better communication between you and your partners, creating a rich environment for amazing ass beating sessions!

Ivory Mistress Jae has been involved in the BDSM scene for 17 years. She is an international leather titleholder and presents across the United States. Spanking is such a favorite activity of hers that every year on her birthday she turns 100 so there will be lots of spankings to give out! (And in the Dominant’s birthday tradition, she finds helpful people to receive all of those spankings!!!)

After the presentation, there will be plenty of time for questions and light refreshments! The class takes place at a private fetish photography studio, making it very discreet and comfortable.

Since this event is being held in a private location, Ivory Mistress Jae will be doing a brief interview with all attendees before sharing the address. Thank you for understanding.

2/24/2017 6:07:48 PM

It's been a while since our last foot party, so we are ready to bring out the gorgeous feet of Maryland again! We are having another fantastic Frederick Foot Fetish Party in Frederick, MD on March 4, 2017.


We're bringing some of the sexiest foot models in the MD/DC/VA scene together so all you guys in DC, MD, VA and WV and PA can indulge in a toe-tally awesome time! (We've even had guys come all the way from Philly & Delaware to spend time with our experienced models!!!)

 

The party website is DCFootModels.com

-- models will be added soon.


12/18/2015 1:46:27 PM
Condescending douchebags need not apply. So when you guys wonder why Dommes are short tempered or don't respond to your messages, it's bc we get to sort through bullshit from trolls. Here's a great example from someone I politely rejected bc he isn't local. (Nevermind that my profile is specific about wanting someone local.) I guess I will continue to be selective with my "low standards" and turn down pricks like him.

 
 

Well my dear if you are so quickly butt hurt just because someone is more intelligent, articulate and confident in their abilities and their knowledge of how the world actually operates then you might be then yes I agree, we would not be a good match.  You obviously have much lower standards and confidence in yourself if you are so easily rattled by little old me.  Run along child.  You are dismissed. 


12/14/2015 9:55:18 PM

Ivory Mistress Jae is offering a series of "Sensual Education" workshops for women only. These are fun and informative "Ladies Night" events!

Spice up the season with a Sensual Hot Wax workshop hosted by Ivory Mistress Jae. She is a professional educator on women's sensuality and offers a wide range of programs. Why not warm up your winter night with this fun workshop?!

"Sensual Hot Wax"  -- 1/23/2016 in Maryland

Heat, wetness, a melting touch… Hot wax can be a sensual delight! Unfortunately a lot of people have bad first experiences with getting burned by hot wax and are afraid to ever try it again. Ivory Mistress Jae has helped many friends re-explore this kind of play with fantastic results. She will demonstrate techniques to make it a hot and sensual time, as well as how to play safely with people who have a lot of body hair. And with her love for the arts, Ivory Mistress Jae looks forward to showing you how to safely make your hot wax body molds into colorful and decorative designs! For an added bonus, hot wax is also used in spa treatments and is a great way to pamper your partner or yourself. We will cover some of those techniques as well.

After the presentation, there will be opportunities for personal experience, individual attention, plenty of time for questions, and light refreshments --including chocolate!

Special door prize of warming, edible, massage oil for one lucky lady

The workshop takes place in an upscale, artistic venue which is being used exclusively for our event, making it very private and comfortable.

http://ivorymistressjae.com/events/


11/4/2015 8:10:10 PM


Sat, 11/07 Come to my class & you might win fantastic free lube!





 @ the Baltimore Playhouse

"Fun and Safety with Intimate Toys" --with a play party to follow. 

There are a lot of exciting toy options for intimate play times! For this class, we’ll be paying special attention to dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, and strapons. Ivory Mistress Jae will show a variety of ways to utilize the toys, as well as discussing key features of each.

In addition to all the sexy fun stuff, she will also discuss safety and hygiene techniques for these special toys that get up close and personal. She will have several toys on hand and you are welcome to bring some of your own if you have particular questions about it. And don’t be shocked if there happens to be a dildo hand puppet helping to explain things during the class! And she'll show you how to play Butt Plug Ring Toss ;-)

As an added bonus for attending, Ivory Mistress Jae will be giving away a bottle of lube to one lucky attendee. (The winner will be drawn at random, but with some kind of deviant process involved…)


10/26/2015 12:45:05 PM

This Friday night (10/30) I am teaching a class on gags at the Baltimore Playhouse in Baltimore MD! Here is an event deion:

Ever have a lover who won’t stop talking or a brat who needs a reminder to shut the fuck up before they get in real trouble? Perhaps you like to keep safe from bitey bottoms? This class is dedicated to fun as well as functional uses for gags. In it you will be introduced to a wide variety of gags and ways to maximize each one, as well as DIY options for gagging your partner. Eliminating someone’s ability to verbally communicate is a great tool for all kinds of psychological play. Additionally, it can be a sensual way to develop non-verbal communication skills with a lover. Ivory Mistress Jae will delve into all of these, and also discuss safety and hygiene considerations.


$20/ per person
8pm for the class but the dungeon will stay open until 2am for those who want to play or socialize after the class.

Please be sure to RSVP either at the event page on FetLife: Login - FetLife

 or directly to the Baltimore Playhouse Baltimore Playhouse Resurrection



10/21/2015 9:16:04 PM

I am so excited to be presenting a new class featuring one of my favorite topics: Cock & Ball Torture!!! The program is "CBT: Predicaments and Sadistic Games" at Studio 58 in Frederick MD. I promise there won't be any blood, but there will be lots of moans and groans ;-) I may even let a lucky penis-equipped volunteer from the audience experience some action along with my demo boy. Come on out for hot mid-week torments!!!!

https://fetlife.com/events/381153


9/15/2015 9:45:20 AM
End of Summer foot fetish party! Sat, September 26, 2015  in Maryland
http://dcfootmodels.com for all the details  :-)

8/21/2015 7:09:14 PM

I am excited to be making a special appearance at Gina Harlow and the Deepthroat's ROCK n ROLL Fetish Ball!!! https://fetlife.com/events/367264

Here is Gina's post about the show, which should answer a lot of questions:

I'm in a punk rock band with some very talented local kinksters doing extremely fetish friendly Rock n' Roll shows in Maryland! My band, Gina Harlow and the Deepthroats, is putting on monthly fetish balls with guests bands for incredible live music, dungeon equipment and fetish shows, naughty games and contests, and tons of exotic outfits!!!!

www.ginaharlow.com

This month "Gina Harlow and the Deepthroats" are appearing with guest band "Sewage" coming from NYC. The show is in Wheaton MD, with doors opening at 8pm and the show goes until 1am. Tickets are just $20 each, with a cash bar available. (Must be 21 & up.) Credit cards are accepted at the door but the bar is cash only.

The special fetish event is a stage show "Wedding of the Bitchgirl" --we are seeking contenders to win the hand of the Bitchgirl! (No, it's not a real wedding --it's for an awesomely kinky good time.) Contends will compete in the Golden Coochie Bachelorette Show. Last month's "cupcake cunnilingus" was such a hit that we are bringing it back as one of the rounds of competition this month. You'll have to wait and see what other surprises are in store... If you want to be a contestant for the Golden Coochie, rsvp to gina@ginaharlow.com)

Fetish attire is strongly encouraged Just be sure to keep it legal --panties need to be on boys & girls, and girls need to keep the nips covered.


6/10/2015 11:13:48 PM
I am traveling to Denver CO around June 24 - July 4. I'll be attending Thunder in the Mountains, as well as offering a few private sessions on the trip. Am open to meeting a potential boy out there, as I used to live in CO & would consider relocating there again. Feel free to message me about a date (if you are single & meet most of the requirements in my profile) or a pro session (if you are not available as a potential personal boy).

6/7/2015 9:16:51 PM

Ivory Mistress teaching "Advanced Corporal Punishment" 6/11/2015

I am excited to share my love of spanking and heavy corporal punishment this coming Thursday at Studio 58 in Frederick, MD! This class is great for players with some experience as well as newbies. And anyone looking for a little hands on help, feel free to ask me to join you later at the "Stay & Play" portion of the evening!

https://fetlife.com/events/345829

Spanking is a very popular activity, from couples dabbling with something naughty all the way to heavy players. It may have even been your introduction to something beyond vanilla sex. In this class, Ivory Mistress Jae takes you beyond the standard spanking techniques and into a heavier, more deeply impacting world! She’ll discuss the psychological aspects in spanking scenes, motivations for seeking corporal play, as well as basic safety. Then it’s on to meatier matters, like utilizing different implements and varying your approach to create specific scenes. You’ll learn how to identify if you and your partners are more interested in domestic discipline spanko scenes, a punishment session, or perhaps a wild endorphin ride, etc. Understanding these critical differences will foster better communication between you and your partners, creating a rich environment for amazing ass beating sessions!

Ivory Mistress Jae has been involved in the BDSM scene for 16 years. She is an international leather titleholder and presents across the United States. Spanking is such a favorite activity of hers that every year on her birthday she turns 100 so there will be lots of spankings to give out! (And in the Dominant’s birthday tradition, she finds helpful people to receive all of those spankings!!! Plus invites a few friends to help deliver them because sharing is caring after all.)


5/18/2015 11:38:48 PM
I'm teaching a foot worship class in Maryland on 5/21: The Seductive Powers of Foot Fetish! I still need a demo helper so local foot lovers drop me a line. And if you just want to attend and watch, I am happy to send you more info.

4/19/2015 2:54:36 PM
I am having a Spring Foot Party in Maryland on May 30th from 5 - 9pm!!! Come on foot/shoe boys, this is a great chance to get close to my feet and meet other really cool and beautiful foot models. I personally interview all the girls who attend to make sure they really are into foot fetish activities :-)
http://dcfootmodels.com/

4/13/2015 9:54:13 PM
It's time for another fabulous Dinner with Dommes! I am looking forward to being the host Mistress and I hope to see a bunch of you there. As I am starting to create a new dungeon and take sessions again, this is a great way to connect in person with me. And if you are interested in attending the Women Rule parties, this is a chance to get vetted for them.
 
These dinners features some of the most beautiful and accomplished Dominatrixes in the DC area, along with charming submissive men and friends of the Dommes. It's a very unique and fun experience which our area is privileged to have. Come out and make some fabulous new friends.

4/14/2015 in Washington, DC. Message me for details.

4/4/2015 12:39:20 PM
Some friends of mine are in a naughty punk band & are playing this Sun night in DC!! Who wants to go with me?! http://www.ginaharlow.com/category/tour-dates/


3/8/2015 9:52:29 AM
Been back on here for about a month now and it feels like a few additions are overdue. (Not that most of you will bother to read these or pay attention to what I am saying, but perhaps 1 or 2 will manage.)
For those of you who actually fit the general parameters that I listed in my profile, I do apology for a delay in responding or if I have forgotten about you. It works out that there are a lot of guys filling up my Inbox with time-wasting nonsense... so by the time I done weeding through all of that, I am just cranky and ready for a break from reading more messages. Or the ones who write & "seem" to fit what I am looking for until we've been chatting and I find out they were a bit misleading...

Here is my current list of pet peeves/suggestions/cranky venting:

--If you are in another country or another time zone or more than a few hours away by car, I am not interested in trying a relationship with you. I don't care if you can relocate bc you aren't available in person for me to get to know. I ended a long term, long distance relationship recently and am quite aware of what goes into that kind of situation. You need to be able to get together once a week or so if we have a good connection, not once every few months.

--If you are married or in a romantic relationship with someone, I am not interested in getting involved with you.

--If you have no actual experience doing anything kinky, I am not going to be the one to pop your cherries and lead you by the hand to teach you everything. I've been in this scene for 16 yrs and have had my fill of getting involved with newbies.

--Yes, cock size does matter to me which is why I bothered to take the time to mention it in my profile. No, offering to let me fuck bigger men doesn't make up for your cock size bc I want to have a regular sexual relationship with my partner. If I wanted a small-dicked cuckold I would have said so.

--Common courtesy is appreciated! If you make a date with me but for some reason are unable to actually meet up, at least bother to cancel ahead of time or follow-up with an apology and an explanation of why you didn't make it. After having guys bail for various reasons, I am definitely not open to traveling to meet you. If I happen to be in your area for some other purpose already, I will meet you there. Otherwise, you will be the one coming to see me. You will also provide me with your phone number ahead of time and will check in to let me know you really are on your way. One chance, so kindly don't fuck it up.

**** And if you are a guy/girl who doesn't fit anything on my list but you just want to say you like my pics or something, that is fine! I am not offended by a friendly compliment as long as you aren't expecting more than a brief "Thank you" kind of reply. I know I run across some hot pics on here and I like to share my appreciation, too :-) ****

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