*** RECENT UPDATE***

I am a single dominant gentleman who is seeking a woman interested in more then just fun and games... although that woud be great if we click.

I am intelligent, rugged, and compassionate. I am an artist and professional with an eclectic sense and a bit of a warped sense of humor... I am willing to laugh at myself and find myself most comfortable in jeans and a t shirt (but I do clean up nicely)

I have been in the lifestyle for over 15 years and have explored many groups in the NYC area. I am not really a club guy as I enjoy quite times alone with my girl and one on one time in the privacy of the bedroom. Thats not to say that I wouldnt go to paddles or a TES meeting, a SCONY event, or the monthly munch of SI KINK. I have been to and affiliated with these groups and clubs and have frequented them with my closest friends. I also enjoy sharing my life with others in the lifestyle and am interested in helping newcomers to explore the life in a safe, sane, and friendly way.

If I would have to define myself in three words they would be... Caring ... Compassionate... occasional Asshole (hey, no one is perfect - at least I can admit my faults)

OK... a self admitted ahole... am I kidding... am I nuts... and yes, some of you just got turned off... good... and good riddance... those who are intrigued continue one please ... its well worth your time.

Now, as far as the first two... I lost a dear companion to breast cancer and other complications and I am still getting back on the horse. She had been suffering from pain issues and other major problems formany years and I was at every surgery and doctors appointment I was able to get to... I was there to make sure her car was clear in snow and to drive her to and from hospitals and doctors for about 9 years... so to say the least ... I am committed to my friends and especially the woman who will be my submissive...

Now she was a switch, and probably one of the truest switches I have known... but she was sub to me... period. Now maybe it was because of all I did for her and the relationship we had.. but she was a special woman and one who is sorely missed. Not that we could only deal with dom/sub or medical issues... Sure we could enjoy a quiet dinner and a holiday with friends together as well... but we didnt have to live "the life" every minute of the day... and could just enjoy being together; just because.


Now as far as what I want... I dont want a doormat... I dont want a woman who is not self made and independant... I do not want to stifle the dreams of a woman in my life. I want to enjoy every moment and live the life we both desire. I want to be comfortable with her as much as she is with me... in public or in private. I want trust to be the firstand most important part of any relationship. I have seen enough break up from a lack of trust.

Now, I may inflict pain and make you fearful... but I will never hurt you and I will never make you fear me... yes it's at odds with itself but thats the simplest way to say it... this is not a life that fear should play a role. Being afraid is a stimulating for some...in fact for many...

For one to be made to be afraid ... well that borders on abuse. I do not tollerate slapping a woman in anger... and I would put myself in harms way to stop abuse against women and children (and even animals). But that is not to say that I would contradict myself and say that I enjoy spanking and punishing a woman.

This is a different world altogether.

I may show force and dominance over a woman... physically punish her and even cause her pain... I may take her sexually... forcefully... erotically... passionately... fearfully... but never will she be abused.

Now... I am no adonis... and you are probably not a supermodel but I work hard and think hard and have many wonderful toys to tease and punish you with... I am open to bi or straight women... but I am both hetero and hedonistic... perhaps we should begin to explore our desires together...

Oh and if the name doesn't say it enough... my first enjoyment is spanking of naughty girls and ladies... and if you contact me... please me sane and willing to open your mind and soul to new experiences... I am more then happy to explore your desires as much as I am interested in finding my match or matches depending upon what the universe is willing to give... share ... or offer.

OK... if you have any questions... please drop me a note... I am more then willing to share my experience and if you are a newbie... newcomer... or just want to find someone willing to talk about your deepest desires... well, I am more then happy to oblige and help.