I have noticed that most here are hung up on age and looks instead of trust, honesty, experience and true BDSM things.  We who claim to accept that which vanilla's do not, that are suppose to be open minded and so much more.  The ones that say they are slaves yet have hard limits, the ones that are subs only in the bedroom etc understand nothing of the true nature of BDSM.  The ones that demand respect from others but do not give it, wants a book writen and never replies or  just says, that's nice.  The posers and wannabes here is terrible, a few few try to get them banned but others just go on about business, tis sad.