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Warning:
Any institution or person using this site or any of its associated sites: You do not have my permission to use any of my pictures, information from my profile, or anything I post in any of the forums or groups on this website in any form without prior written consent. Also, you do not have my permission to copy, save, print, or re-post my pictures or information without prior written consent. If you have done or do any of the above, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and personal property and will be subject to all legal remedies.
The Scorpio Undone
I?m a trouble maker, a sexual masochist, a cruel sadist. I am never content with stagnation; instead I find that I am always evolving, never perfect, never complete. I have been submissive, I have played the switch. While I currently identify as a Dominant, I experience that as both top and bottom, true sadist and true masochist. It is how I learn new things, learn more about myself and how I experience my own brand of change.
Through my involvement in this lifestyle, I am primarily interested in people?interested in meeting them, figuring them out, and letting the relationships develop as they will. I enjoy exploring, experimenting and examining everything, whether that?s pain or not, whether that?s the feeling of cuffs, whips and leather straps or just fingertips and lips gliding over skin.
I am also a student of High Protocol as I find manners and etiquette to be quite important. I believe that our rituals and protocols tell us much about ourselves?our strengths, our insecurities, our needs- at the same time that they reinforce our relationships. While I believe these things are meaningful, I also think that a lifetime is not enough to know all there is in the psyche about Dominance and submission and that here we touch only a small part of what's really there.
Devotion is, after all, a very powerful feeling. In addition to stability, I think that a thriving devotion to another person requires a mutual fulfillment of need. For the energy in a relationship to flow only one way is draining?an equal exchange between all involved parties is not preferred, it's a necessity. As such I strongly believe in matching the Dominant to the submissive, not the other way around. I believe in training, but I also believe that certain people are inherently (in)compatible. As such, I do not feel that I am a suitable match for every submissive who crosses my path. My devotion is always mine to give-- not all who ask are worthy and I am not worthy of all who ask.
I am strict but forgiving, hard but graceful. I love those who submit to me as a Goddess lives on the praise of her worshipers. Submission and devotion, willingly given, are things to be treasured and I will never disregard such gifts when placed in my care. Submission is something to be earned, never demanded and I strive, through every effort, to be found deserving.
As a sadist, my favorite scenes usually involve just my whip and my fingernails. The juxtaposition of intimate contact with the intensity of a whip makes for amazingly complex scenes. I also particularly enjoy tickle torture and interrogation play and would like to extend that into kidnapping.
For partners that aren?t particularly heavy masochists, one of my favorite forms of play is shibari. I like the intimacy of touching my partner, turning them, wrapping and tying and then being able to stand back and admire their beauty, accented by rope. At this point in time, I?m starting to work on suspensions and am always looking for flexible rope bottoms with whom I can practice different ties and poses.
I like developing relatively long term working relationships with my play partners. I develop a certain pride in discovering the hidden secrets of every body and an easy comfort that comes from knowing a person well, from knowing their limits and how their body reacts to different kinds of play.
Inevitably, some of my relationships have, in the past, turned into romantic relationships. While I am married, I am also polyamorous. I play with my wife?s knowledge and permission, she with mine. Our relationship has evolved a great deal from when I first started playing with people outside my marriage, so I understand some of the difficulties that can come from having a partner who doesn?t understand kink. Nevertheless, I do require that all play partners be as open with their significant others as I am with mine. I would hate to be betrayed by the person I love, and so I will not help an individual do that to someone else.
Outside of kink, I?m employed as a biologist, am a seasoned marine aquarist and have interests that include Japanese art and aesthetics, scuba diving, films (especially horror and science fiction), literature (most recent reads include Larsson?s ?The Girl Who Kicked the Hornet?s Nest?, Antoniou?s ?The Academy? and King?s ?Under the Dome?). I could write volumes more about each of those subjects, but I think maybe I?ve said enough and that it?s time to end the exposition and start a conversation.
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?So, have you had the surgery yet??
?Are you still equipped??
?Do you still have a penis??
I have, at one time or another, been asked those questions by near strangers. I?m going to start by saying that such questions, no matter how innocent or ignorant the askers' intentions, are hurtful and rude. There is no excuse for behaving in such a way. If you wouldn?t walk up to a stranger and ask them about their genitalia, then it?s no more appropriate (and you?re no more entitled to an answer) just because I?m a trans woman.
We gender people every minute of every day?that?s a man; that?s a woman; that person in the suit with the hat is a man; that person in the dress is a woman, no wait, it?s a man. We identify and categorize people into gender categories without needing to see what?s in their pants or under their skirts. If you?re capable of gendering every other human being you meet without having to grope their genitals, then you?re capable of figuring out that I?m a woman. There?s no need to ask questions?my gender presentation, like my gender identity, is unambiguous.
I?ve had people ask why I don?t put MtF on my profile under gender, or why don?t I have a, I don?t know, a disclaimer or something in my profile about being transsexual. You really want to know why? It?s because that?s not anyone?s business except for my play partners and lovers. I don't need a billboard, I need a private conversation with the people who matter.
You see, this would be a point of contention for me if I were pre-op, post-op or non-op: it is simply no one?s business unless I choose to make it otherwise. Just because I post pictures of my tits on or Twitter doesn?t mean that we?re lovers, doesn?t mean that we?re friends with benefits and certainly doesn?t mean I?ll spread my legs for you. Even if we are friends, that still doesn?t mean I?ll let you fuck me. If your chances of getting me in bed are somewhere between slim and none, does it matter whether I?ve got Cthulu himself in my panties?
I hope and expect my friends would respect the dignity of every person, whether those friends or those people are cis, trans, non-binary, het, gay, queer, lesbian, bi, pan or... If you believe a person?s value lies only inside their underwear, or in who they're attracted to, then I?m the wrong person, hell, the wrong friend for you.
This information isn?t headlining my profile is because while I may be a trans woman, that is only one descriptor, one . It is not the totality of my being. I am not a fetish or a hard limit. My gender identity is completely female, hence the capital F next to my name. I'm a woman where it counts.
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| Age: 29 |
| Ontario,
Canada |
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