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| In the quest for lifelong happiness the erogenous zones are often considered, but there is one sexual organ that is constantly overlooked. The mind. The mind is the place where all this starts and where it all finishes.
Appeal to a woman’s mind, and you appeal to her feelings. Appeal to her feelings and her senses and you appeal to her. I’m not interested in presenting a list of demands or kinks. I find my kinks in connection with another person. I’m not saying I will come and clean your house for you if that is your kink, or give you money. But my kink starts with connection. It doesn’t exist without yours.
I'm currently a University tutor and post graduate student, when I have free time I enjoy yoga, photography, martial arts, dance, as well as cinema, art and interesting events around London. I'd well travelled and adventurous, speak another language and have studied massage and martial arts in other countries. Looking for someone who can appreciate s mind and personality and who values connection.
I'm looking for real time with a real person.
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I was thinking about our cultures traditional stories of chivalry the other day and I think that is where I fit in on this kinky spectrum. Ever since I was a little girls have tried to scratch me or pinch me and see how much pain I could take. Other boys would run away and tell the teacher but I would try to just grin. I would never hold it against a girl. Since then I've noticed that girls like to hammer a guys chest with their fists. They like to push their heels into chests while they pull their man closer. They want to know that any intimacy they share with their man is earned by him, and by token that he would fight his way through enchanted forests of thorns and smile through ordeals of bondage and torture to give the eye contact between him and his mate the weight and substance it deserves.
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I'm reading a book at the moment about how we take decisions, it's called predictably irrational, today's chapter was talking about how people really don't know themselves. How in the heat of passion men will allow themselves to be spanked or take part in a three some with another man, be tied up or have sex without a condom, where without the passion they would never agree.
So why are there some guys like me who would never have sex without a condom, (even when the hottest girl is begging me not to use one and I have one right next to the futon) and yet, I know I would let my lover do things other men wouldn't...Do I know myself better? Are my urges stronger? If so how come I understand them so well when I am my stone cold sober and incredibly rational (yet positive and sensitive) self.
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I suddenly wanted to talk about paint ball...
I was just thinking about how it put me in the moment.
Seeing
an opening and taking a shot, hiding again. Appearing somewhere
else...a little like kick boxing in a way. A similar flow to attack and
defence. It was very zen for me. Just doing what comes naturally. No
fear, no anger, just in the moment...
It was soooo instinctive. I don't
want to say I like paint ball, in itself, but I know why I enjoyed
myself. I got to spend some time with another part of myself. It's a
very well developed part. I know that guy when I spar. He's very calm,
always knows what to do...very creative, and when he tries new tactics
they always seem to work, he doesn't like to be mean or to hurt other
people, but he wants to keep being challenged, and if he looses its a
great chance to learn. The best bit is he doesn't have a future or a
past. Just the very now...Submission puts me in that moment too...not just with anyone, but with the one that shares that moment with you.
What is it that puts you in the moment?
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Today I attended a story telling workshop, where in the end I painted my face blue, made a crown out of bird feathers, dog wood, willow, ever greens and eucalyptus and let out my animal side...
It's my way all the way from here on in...
No different to an ordinary weekend I suppose...
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Had a bit of a shift in consciousness in the past few days.
I'm feeling really really happy...
For no reason...
Maybe there could be a reason...
If so. Thank you! It was the push I needed to start trying hard again at everything!
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Self improvement update...
Just started reading a book called "She comes first"
"The Thinking Man's Guide to pleasuring a woman"
By Ian Kerner Clinical sexology PHD.
An excellent title on so many levels...
My friends have always told me that would be the perfect job for me....no kidding....
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| Age: 52 |
| Cincinnati,
Ohio |
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