Collarme saddens me sometimes. Not so much that people are not meeting, but that you and I are not. 

I’ve written this to show you what I believe, and I still do, I’m just waiting for it to happen, to become true.

It’s strange to miss someone you’ve never met, but I do, every day. I miss things I can’t miss, that I don’t know about. Your smell, your touch, your taste, the sting of your whip, your commanding voice, your powerful presence.

My apologies to all who write me....I have been off mostly dealing with a "family situation" that, at least for the moment, is resolved....

Thought I would note here my reply to a newish Domme who emailed me...."YES....Pussy is a Privilege..."...my point of view is: (and pardon my use of the word 'pussy' but that is the word she used)...that pussy is sacred and must be earned by a submissive/slave through behavior and/or obedience"....this I truly believe....

Thanks to all who have been sending me art and drawings depicting Female Supremacy. YES! I enjoy them very much...a truly overlooked and historically legitimate genre of "art". And Yes, some drawings shall appear in the book...with the artist's permission of course...Please feel free to share your favorites...

A weak man cannot submit....for he has nothing to give...

To answer many queries: Yes...I am truly at a point in both the success of my career and age of my children (college) that I can really actually relocate for "The One" if need be.  - Thanks to all who have asked and I understand my you do ask as I am certain this site is full of male submissives  who are completely unable to relocate yet profess they can....just saying....  

As if confirmation of an ideological Zeitgeist fell from heaven, a fellow submissive male friend recently came across a dating advice article entitled, "6 Ways to Train Your Boyfriend", where the writer interviews Amy Sutherland, author of "What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage: Lessons for People from Animals and Their Trainers". Here are two other women who can attest to the power of psychological awareness and behavior modification for communicating more effectively with your man. Truly males need be trained and disciplined just as animals to achieve a satisfactory place before their Goddess.

In Femdom scenes, often men want to worship Women as Goddesses. And outside of this scene dominant Women, who have spoken to me for my book, also find men coming to them who want to devote their whole lives in serving and worshiping them. So the question; why? Why would men who have ruled and dominated society and Women want to suddenly worship, adore and serve Women? Logically it makes no sense. HA!  Men have had the upper hand in relationship between the sexes for thousand of years, so why should men then suddenly want to be Women's servants and slaves? The only answer I have found about this is in Jungian psychology. Carl Jung put forward the concept of archetypes. So for instance many men tune into the hero archetype; of wanting to risk injury or even death to help and save others. But in the many archetypes, he discovered one of the most powerful archetypes was that of the Mother. He found that this archetype was very ancient going back to the Stone-Age where people then believed that the whole world was born from the body of a Creatrix they called, The Great Mother. They knew the truth....Women are Superior!

Divine Maternity is the Image that is most appropriate to our hearts. It speaks of our Progenitor, our Source, and our unconditional lover. That special bond with Mother coincides with our love of Goddess - they both represent the Source of our life. Humanity must return to that Sacred image and Matriarchy is coming.

"You gotta be cruel to be kind" - Nick Lowe

 How true is that Ladies? And what a great song! 

I am asked "do you believe in cuckolding??

The answer is yes....I believe that males should be monogamous to their Superior Female....she controls all sexual function in the male as the fact is that function exists purely for her pleasure...thus only if a male's owner desires him to be with another for her amusement...

As for "cuckolding"....just as a male has a duty to be loyal to the Female who owns him...the Superior Female has no such obligation to her male and is sexually free to do as she pleases with whoever she pleases...no deception needed.....

I like this passage by Arundhati

"Throughout humanity’s societies, the Sacred Feminine has been identified with the qualities of wisdom, justice, beauty, and compassion. She is also the irresistible power that destroys old forms and brings new ones into being. The Divine Feminine is this unseen dimension of soul to which we are connected through our instincts, our feelings, and the longing imagination of the heart.

Another world is not only possible, she is on her way! On a quiet day, if you listen carefully, you can hear her breathing."

--Arundhati

I especaily like the words "she is also the irrisistible power that DESTROYS OLD FORMS and brings new ones into being"...

Is not pain and humiliation powerfully & consciously administerd to a male by a Supreme Female in Female Dominant  BDSM rituals truly achieving the "destruction of old forms" creating space for new more appropriate "forms" to grow and thrive? This isn't kink...this is pure spirit....embrace it!

Ha...in response to questions....Yes, that is me in all the "reality photos" posted with my profile....thank you for asking...

Please know I am a true believer in Female Supremacy...my belief is arrived at from a multi-disciplinary approach...that being that the fact of Female Supremacy can be discerned from physical, emotional, spiritual and intellectual points-of-view...also I am a true believer that males must be treated to an extent like dogs...that is trained, disciplined, humiliated and punished...to keep them on the path and keep them in their true place....beneath you...serving you...suffering for you....this all stems from inappropriate social programming over the eons that possession of a penis makes a male superior and from what used to be the appropriate behavior of having intercourse with as many women as possible for the purpose of survival of the species....well obviously we no longer need to assure that survival...none-the-less males are "wired" with that prehistoric programming that does nothing good for relationships and certainly nothing good for mankind....this is the so-called "alpha male"... the strength of an alpha male can yield positive outcomes for the world and within a relationship as long as those energies are properly channeled...this is where the spiritual practice of Female Led BDSM rituals is vital...such acts of discipline, punishment & humiliation serve the purpose of focusing those alpha energies appropriately...to serve you the Supreme Female and mankind well...in effect, a "symbolic castration" of the alpha male.... 

When you use the phrase female led relationship, what does it mean to you Goddesses?

Do you imagine your are a dictator over him? Are you cruel? Selfish?

-Nothing wrong with that :)  !!!

She wielded the whip with fiendish desire
as she set my receptive skin on fire
my moans of obedience and pain
pulsed like thunderous rain

As she executed her need with painful leather
her eyes pierced mine eternally together
pushing me on… wanting more and more
taking my manhood at its' very core

A deep knowing that touches the very soul
and keeps our heat like glowing coal
each stroke brought loyalty unsurpassed
both of us merged at last

She watched the welts raise in deep purple red
replacing my thoughts with her's in their stead 
it was an act of pure pain and passion
in necessary loving fashion

My pain threshold unknown still
I repeat the words “Do as you will”
Her mind reels with anticipation and suspense
as we share worshipful experience

Her body on fire from taking her slave
mine pulsing from the punishment gave
She finishes with her final advice

as she thanks me for beautiful sacrifice

Many people consider it to be a sign of weakness of will for a man to defer to what a woman wants of him, or what she values as right, on a regular basis. In a culture where male dominance is considered the norm (falsely programmed alpha male superiority), male reverence and submission to women is difficult to confess the existence of, usually resulting in people going into a panic whenever they are forced to confront it.

Yet, the men of our culture publicly show reverence and submission all the time. They show reverence for and unquestioning submission to rituals of national unity, fraternal rights of passage, military superiors, and athletic coaches. They show emotional abandon and devotion towards sports teams, sports cars, and successful male role models. In plain sight, men who our society recognizes as masculine are submissive with certain people, and in certain contexts. They know that public submission and deference to others doesn't make them weak-willed, because society recognizes the ability of men to be submissive in certain relationships while remaining competitive and assertive in others. As long as their submission is aimed at men and male traditional values, no one has a problem with it.

So, the controversy surrounding the concept of male submissiveness is not over men having a submissive side, but rather over what men choose to ascribe sacredness to and recognize the power of.

Believe it or not, there was a time in history when venerating and deferring to a woman was seen as a sign of heterosexuality. Yes, it’s true. Back then, men consciously chose to meet their need for submission, their need for a leader and a source of inspiration, by deferring to women and worshiping female values. Out of loyalty, they devoted their physical strengths and hormone-derived valor to protecting the interests of women. This can be our world again. Males respond to training. We only await the Females who will take the initiative, embrace their true superiority and drive our society there again.

Many people in our culture often give women the impression that the way to get a man to contribute more to a relationship, to motivate him to meet a woman’s needs and wants, is by figuring out what men want and giving it to them. Hogwash. For a relationship to last and it is important to put the woman’s happiness first before the man’s, because in romance and sex men are easily pleased compared to women; and if she’s happy, he’s happy. Train him to focus on your hapiness and your's alone and a great reletionship shall grow.

The more a male thinks he can be what a woman wants, and knows she won’t tolerate anything less, the more he will try for the positive attention rather than the negative attention. Negaive attention does work...i.e., discipline, reinforcement and punishment...thus diminishing the bad "alpha male" behaviors over time and creating space for more positive and acceptable thoughts and behaviors to florish....

Training a male is all about a woman getting the most from her man for the building of intimacy in the relationship, which requires him to come out of his privileged "alpha male" status so he can get to know and relate to her more. Helping him break free from ridiculous societal & corporate myths and personal denial by confronting him with his desire for and attraction to her is all part of it and discipline and pusnishment paves the road for such breakthroughs. Why should other men's delusions control his state of mind towards her and get in the way of the intimacy between them? It shouldn't and won't if a Female simply take charge and never relent.

Despite all their posturing, men are actually really vulnerable to women, and most men will do anything to hide this. Every day, they obsess over women’s bodies, women’s sensuality, women’s opinions of them, their ability to please women romantically and in bed…. and how to cover all that up under the illusion that they are indifferent to whether women like them or not. It is all an at to cover up inate male inferiority to Females.