Will an urge that strong just go away?
“The only time I really feel awful is when people have not lived a life
that expressed themselves”.
The urge to be bound, to let yourself be totally physically vulnerable
(and intellectually free) is sometimes called power exchange; usually it’s
called BDSM or Bondage. Will you spend your entire life daydreaming about that
bondage fantasy? Will an urge that strong just go away? The quote above is from
Virginia Satir one of the worlds most significant
contemporary psychotherapists. She knew that many of us are afraid to act on
our true feelings. This seriously limits our growth as human beings. The whole
quote is as follows:
“I would like all of us to live as fully as we can. The only time I really
feel awful is when people have not lived a life that expressed themselves. They
lived with all their "shoulds" and "oughts" and their
blaming and placating and all the rest of it, and I think, ‘How sad’.”
My fantasy is to be the one who binds, the one who is trusted to be in
control in this fantasy situation, to be the Master.
At
the simplest level there is bondage alone. For the submissive and Dominant it
is sensual and sexual in that it is a physical activity that involves complete
intimate exposure and a degree of surrender. It is physical because it involves
intimate touch but limits are agreed beforehand.
At
its most complex it is a 24/7 Dom sub relationship and lifestyle. As a Dom I
have experienced both and I am seeking that fulfilment again.
What
do I hope to gain from this? Friends with a common interests at least and if I’m
really lucky, much more, a relationship maybe or even, if the concept is not just a
myth, ‘The One’, a ‘Soul Mate’.
From friend to 'The One' and al the interactions between.
As
part of the experience I find photography (anonymous of course using masks,
blindfolds, lighting and camera angles) to be a great means of developing
(accidental pun) friendship as the starting point. Even talking about the
photos as artist and model triggers sharing other important thoughts.
I wanted to use the id Forceful Vision, Slavish Reflection. it's a bit pompous but I wastrying to convey an idea
(As
always TRUST, INTEGRITY and HONESTY are essential.)
If you are at all interested, please contact me.
At least you’ll get a feeling if our aims are compatible. Satisfy that urge, no
‘oughts and shoulds, ‘dreams into reality.
