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Not sure if I should jump into the bdsm, but I will. )

Im not much for paid, but I love bondage, discipline, Spectra of dominance and submission and the mental aspects of sm.

I have a strong preference to symbols of power and protocol. Ill use a collar as an example. Come home from work, being flowers, cuddles, and whisper sweet nothings in her ear. She excuses herself for a moment, and when she returns I see she is wearing her collar, and the first thing out of my mouth is, who the fuck have you permission to wear clothes?

Is this a bedroom only thing? Do we do it on weekends? Is this 247? If youd like to talk more, I encourage you to say hi and ask away.

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6/4/2022 10:41:13 AM

Someone actually quite a challenge to WOW them about consent (not on cs).... I decided to write most of my response here, even though done of it is mentioned in my profile.

 

Wow you with consent... I love that challenge. So first things first, you can't have fun when anxiety and fear are the prevailing emotions.  Does that mean a person can't struggle against bonds or their patterned who is ignore than please of 'no' or begging for mercy and still find pleasure?  Sure they can, in the form of a safe word.  They can be simple as red, yellow, and green light... Red light being stop, yellow light, don't get any more intense... Or if the room is wiring about the intensity, can ask, sand if she say green light, she's good, keep going.
 
A bdsm relationship, whether it is in bed only, or 24/7 is still a 50-50 relationship.  Just because the sun lens the doom some of her fifty, doesn't mean she can't take some of all of it back at any time.  He wants to try anal, she doesn't, "I'm the Dom, so I can" is an EPIC of FAILURE of understanding basic [healthy] bdsm... Also might violate a law or two whether or not either of them know it.  
 
Communication is also key.  Set aside time (such as a dinner) to discuss what they like it don't like.  Sometimes telling a person about what they didn't like right after or right before can kill the mood or self confidence... However during Sunday night dinner, a planned conversation, "her that thing when you turned me sides ways, don't do that for more than a minute at a time, but that thing you did when you held my head on the pillow... Don't ever not do that again..."
 
He laughs, "sure, when your are going down... Teeth are not sexy."  
 
Moving on..
 
I actually love protocol training early in a relationship.  It's almost an if-then style relationship while learning each other's kinks: If you do this, I do that... Or if I do this, you do that.  For example, if she puts a collar on, he is not allowed to use her real name, just one of the pet names that agreed upon earlier, it could be cute like 'penny' because of the penguin on the T-shirt she wore the first time they met, or it could be something more aggressive such as 'slut,' if she agreed on that at first.  A system of controls to keep them both satisfied.
 
 
 
 
 

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amandathomas9110
 
 Age: 22
  New York