I hate whiners.

Not just dislike...HATE

Now I'm becoming one ! LOL  I was just about to write a long whining message about how yet another boy disappointed Me by getting close enough to just barely connect.....and then disappeared.

Now I've thought better of it.

Instead, I'm going to put My energy into hating LIARS instead.

Much more productive....

VACATION DEFINITION : noun. freedom from any activity; rest; respite; intermission;  a period of rest and freedom from work, study, etc.; time of recreation, usually a specific interval

Should read.....

VACATION : noun.   The period of time in which to run yourself ragged in search of cramming the most "restful behavior" into a specified amount of time ! 

I need a vacation from My vacation! LOL

If I haven't responded to you in the past week, please know that I've had a hell of a week. A death in the family and truly rotten few days leading up to vacation ( Why does it always happen that way??You plan to be away....cross all the T's and dot all the I's....and it still goes to hell in a handbag???LOL)

I'll be back in a weeks time....be good until then!

I have a new friend here that has given Me a chance to clarify a perspective on an issue...Does affection and seduction play a part in forging a relationship ? Or does the affection and seduction come AFTER a D/s relationship has been established.

I happen to think it's the former instead of the later. 

I need to be able to feel those stirrings of affection BEFORE entering into a D/s relationship.

She also asked a question about whether I find that some subs are more interested in the fantasy of the stereotypical Domme instead of interested in the real person within the role. 

OF COURSE !! .....but those aren't the people who would be interested in Me in the long run nor are they the ones that intrigue Me. 

Thank you , sweet girl, for asking insightful questions. I so hope you find the Dom who is worthy of you.

While offering to "be yours until I draw my last breath" or telling Me that " you love me " within  the space of 3 emails may sound to you like it would be flattering...the absolute opposite is true.

It simply makes Me wonder how many other people have heard the exact same well-rehearsed speech.

Ooooo....

Here's a good one to ponder.

"I am only sending a short note to tell you that you should look at my profile. I don't want to waste my time writing some elaborate intriduction letter till I know you are going to want to read it"

I guess on one hand that makes sense. If - and here's the big IF boys and girls - If you were looking to have an equal relationship. One in which each party had equal power in the construction of a dynamic.  One in which each person allowed for the ebb and flow of Dominance within a D/s committment.

For any of the slow students in the class, that would be called a SWITCH/SWITCH Couple.

It would also be called " NOT WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR"

If you want My attention as a potential submissive, you will put your best foot forward and take the time to construct a letter that is designed to intrigue and impress Me . Not with what you own or what you do for a living , etc.   As long as you're not living in Mommy's basement, or logging in on the free connection at your local library we should be just fine. But impress Me with the thought you put into the note and what you show Me about yourself within it. If you cannot take the time to do so at the outset of an acquaintance, I have no reason to believe that you will treat your duties as a submissive in any more serious a fashion.

And be aware of the fact that I may - or may not - respond. That is My choice. For expediency sake, I'll let you know right now what is unlikely to get a response:

• People from distances that make a green card a requirement for extended courtships
• Emails with poor grammar - sorry but it's a knee-jerk reaction .
• Potential subs with whom I simply do not sense chemistry

I'll politely decline further correspondence if those conditions are not present but I am still unwilling to go further. But dont expect much effort on My part if you haven't put forth any of your own.

And the first message I ever receive on this site is a whopping....EIGHT WORDS LONG!!

I see someone took that whole " Present yourself seriously " thing as a suggestion  LOL