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Photography, Hypnoerotica, and Massage. That sounds like a good starting summary of what I enjoy doing? Obviously like most people on here I am involved in a good bit more - for example, I am poly and looking to start a poly household with a Very close-knit family life. But that's not for just meeting someone. I am getting deeper into photography and looking for models wanting to get their portfolios up free while I can my skills up (of course preferably nude, SG oriented), I also love hypnoerotic trances and want to keep raising my skills in that, and yes I do massage and love doing it. No string attached? Well... ok, so I don't do draping. That's the price for me not charging for the actual hour+ massage I do. Tips aside from that are to your level of comfort. And yes, I have a pet right now, yes she is bi, poly, and a slut, yes I am happy to share her with the right people and we're non-exclusive. Aaaand there is a lot more but lets chat and we'll figure stuff out from there if you like. Oh, the picture is slightly old. But my face is covered anyways so its pretty accurate regardless.

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6/7/2009 2:16:57 PM
It has been some time since I have last posted here and will likely be longer until I do it again (may try to stick with posting on more often).  I have been busy between training a new sub (we have been together for a year now so perhaps 'new' is not the correct word) among other things.  She is absolutely adorable and can take everything I choose to dish out, leaving me quite happy and content.  I have been a bit busy lately but will start bringing her back out to WS this month.  We will also be at Transformus so if you are a burner poke at me!

7/29/2008 12:16:16 PM

Just finished making two more nylon floggers, and the handles came out the way I wanted them to this time, with the rope I dyed (green incidentally). This pair has katana style grips but they are flexible.. I just can't bring myself to put in the wooden cores for some reason yet (maybe the next pair). The dye was Rit which I found out after was not good for nylon and would fade over time, but that's fine - these were for me, so by the time they fade I will have much better built toys anyways.

I am really getting into this, and I have four more I have to make that I promised people, I want to do something different for each pair so I can stay in practice - probably two with wooden cores, and two with a wrap-around circular handle instead of the flat ones I am enjoying right now. Two of them have to wait for the new dye - I want to make them black-hilted with hot pink extensions. Maybe next year I'll take up working with leather too, but at the moment I just really like making these soft ones. Hard stingy or thumpy ones are everywhere, these I can actually use on every part of the body safely and for soft scenes - and the four I have that are leather cover all my needs in that area at the moment. And I can gift them to friends new to the scene since they make good practice floggers - if I don't tie off some of the ends you could whap someone over the face and all they'd feel is a slightly stingy caress. (No, I am not taking up face-flogging, safe or not) Plus, I want to explore rope as much as possible - especially fetish costume-making out of them (TKB are wonderful). 

I never thought I'd get into this aspect of the scene.. and I'll still take leather professional cuffs for restraints any day (I like my scenes to keep the energy level high and to be able to move around quickly, taking half an hour to tie someone up is half an hour I could have spent playing with them), but the cerebral aspect of ropes is kind of fun.


6/27/2008 5:43:10 PM
Aaaaand done:

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I have my very own petting / warm-up flogger now.  It looks a Little ghetto but the handle is sturdy and looks rather good (except for one or two places where duct tape shows through.. I really shouldn't have used any since the braid underneath was fine and much prettier), it fits my hand nicely, has attachments so I can hang it from my belt or other things, has a lite sting if I really try, can be made into a mild-thudder with a flick of the wrist, or used to - yes - pet someone.  Her name is Kitsune.  I don't normally name my toys but this is the first flogger I've made so there.  And she told me so.

6/27/2008 2:45:26 PM
Ok, so I had just gotten the new semi-softer flogger, and I had to give it right back so they could get me another of the same weight.  Which means yet again I don't have a good starting flogger - a nice heavy thumper, a great stinger, and nothing in between.  Normally this means that I'd be back to using ropes and my palm to build up the bloodflow but I have a friend visiting who is wanting to do a scene so she can see what its like.  I happen to really really really like this friend, and I am very tired of not having a flogger, so I'm making my own really soft one.  At the moment I am completely unbrading a rope.  Its not the pretties thing in the world, but you know what?  I don't care!  I am going to have a nice happy soft flogger!  

6/23/2008 4:32:17 PM
I'm reading through 'The Loving Dominant' now - I can't believe it too me this long to actually find the good source-books for the lifestyle.  In a lot of ways though I am glad that it took me this long to find it.  As I read it now I can do so objectively as opposed to letting someone else define my likes and dislikes.  It does make me think that I need to clarify a few things about myself..

The first deals with my perception of being a Dom.  There are a lot of various versions out there, probably as many as there are couples.  For my part, I prefer the caretaker / guardian variety for my play.  Yes, I do quite enjoy spanking a pussy and flogging someone, and I get off on throwing out the word 'cunt', 'slut', and other fun terms that are basically verbal humiliation.  But I never use the word 'worthless'.  And whether a sub uses safewords or not, I stop when I feel she's had enough for the session, even if she is absolutely convinced she can take more and that I'm not pushing her fast enough.  Sometimes that may mean the sub will move on.  That's fine.  When you forge a knife you don't leave it in the fire until it gets to the temperature it likes, even if that makes it more maliable for that session of hammering.  You take it out when its just red enough, hammer it, and then put it back in the flames - otherwise you burn off the carbon in the metal and it becomes brittle, meaning that later it can snap.  I may be wrong, I accept that, but I have to act based on my thoughts and experience.

Also, while I do consider myself a Dom rather then a Master, it is simply because I believe Master defines a certain level of experience I just don't have yet, and in a lot of ways I don't think that I should give myself that title.  That is my long-term goal however, though my version of slavery may be a bit different than that of other Masters.  Which in my opinion is fine, if I were playing by their version I wouldn't be much of a Master anyways, I'd just be a go-between.  The only possible reason why my long-term relationship won't end up as Master / slave is if ends up as a Tantric balance, though even there I would like to incorporate this aspect of D/s.

One last point which I think might confuse some people that have seen me in dungeons.  Yes, I do give a lot of respect to other Doms, Masters, ask a lot of questions, and don't strut.  That doesn't mean I lack confidence.  I simply recognize when others have something to teach me, have nothing to prove to anyone, and have no particular need to claim laurels - I much rather show recognition of other people's hard work and experience.  I know what I can do, I know what I can't, and I know the difference between the two.  When I see a 3D artist or programmer I am always asking them for tricks, even though I have degrees in both and do it for a living.

And that ends this session of introspection, to be crossposted in my other journal because I have too many now and I haven't decided which to keep.

6/14/2008 10:33:43 PM
PSA.  Drama bad.  Don't do it, stay away from it, and be happy.  The universe really is a great place to be, enjoy the ride and smell the flowers.

And speaking of universe, starting to casually see a new girlie now with subbie tendencies, hopefully bringing her out to WS soon.  Next Saturday I'll be helping out the staff a bit (if you want to stop by and say hello) and they are doing a foot-torture demo, after which a friend of mine will be helping me expand my skills at knife play.  He has a larger collection of knives in his bag then I do in my whole kitchen, so yay!  Also, I'll be putting in an order for a sister to the flogger I just got so I can start doing florentine.  (I had just gotten a slightly lighter one for doing warm-ups before moving to my thumber or my stinger)


6/11/2008 1:11:28 PM

I guided someone through a Tantric experience the other day via AIM..  I am not big on cybering but it was absolutely wonderful!  She had only felt energy once before (I had shown her how), so I took her through the full body awakening, sexual awakening, energy awakening..  naturally with interspersed lifestyle-like commands and gratuitous use of the word cunt (partially to help arouse her energy and partially just because I wanted to). I have to admit, though enthusiastic I was not completely convinced I could give someone a Tantric experience via text - especially since I was showing her one of the simpler orgasmic breaths - but she was a natural. Rode the pre-orgasm crest for 10 min, the orgasm its self for 5, and it took her all that put together to recover enough to reach the keyboard. I am really grateful that she trusted me to take her through that experience, I am already thinking of how to add to it. I am also grateful to my previous partner who experimented along-side me and taught me so much of what she enjoyed, what worked for her, and generally taught me more in my brief time with her then all the Tantric workshops put together. In general what can I say, I have an absolutely wonderful life, and I can't wait to share with others and learn from them.. what's the point of life if the only thing you are looking for ward to is the end of a shift or going to the mall, living devoid of new experiences?

 

Namaste


6/7/2008 2:23:41 PM
Phobia was a lot of fun, it was good to catch up with a lot of people.  Too bad the heat outside was so intense - I had to go in and dance in order to cool off.  But there were some nice scenes going on though I didn't really stick around to watch, and I did get a chance to run into a girl who'd been trying to get in touch with me for a while.

Tonight I will likely be at the Atlanta Munch to say hi to some people there.  I've never been before so I am curious how many people overall I am going to know.  Fortunately, this is Georgia.  The nice thing of the south being so uptight is that people in fringe communities get to know each other very quickly and closely.  I have a friend who moved to Seattle where she found the communities easily enough, but there was just not the same spirit, the same.. passion I suppose that comes from having to fight for your kink.

6/6/2008 12:09:05 PM
I am doing some of the breaths from the Tantric workshop everyday (Cobra Breath in particular but the others too). It feels so incredible.. I'll sit in class and feel my sexual energy rising, then flowing through my whole body, until every nerve is vibrating... Its hard to imagine that I did not know how to do this before, its hard to keep from moaning in pleasure... I close my eyes, my teeth drive into my lower lip.. It doesn't make me hard, but its orgasmic, almost overwhelming, and its just the beginning.

In a month or so at Transformus I was asked am to be help set up the first ever YamYub Camp - workshops on erotic massage, Tantra, Jade Pillow exercises, introduction to energy work, male-female communication, and a lot more. I'll likely be doing most of the demos. One of the people coming will do some QiGong demos too (one of my major weak points) and I'll see if I can get a Tantrika couple to do some of the couples workshops. I can run a lot of them too but I don't have anyone to demo on - unless I get to demo on one of the two couples coming. One of the couples may let me.. they don't seem to be jealous and actually want to do erotic hypnosis with them anyways. The other couple I've known longer but they're more restrained in public and may have some jealousy. I don't think I could do the full demo though because not a lot of people there may want to see me show how to do a Lingam (Penis) massage as well as the Yoni one, and I don't know that either of the couples is advanced enough to know those techniques.

We'll see - either way I am making myself flash cards so by next month I should be able to name off all the bones, muscle groups, major energy meridians, and taoist erotic acupressure points. Just wish I could incorporate lifestyle into the demo but that would break the theme of the camp a little bit. Maybe I will for Alchemy if we do it there as well, an evening session or something about how to incorporate the two.

In other news, my former sub may be coming as well, I am working hard to try and get her a ticket. Hopefully I'll have one secure by tonight - one person told me she had an extra, but may be giving it to someone else.. I need to poke her about it.  I hope that I can bring her, I miss talking with and hanging out with her a lot, even if we weren't mean to be more then friends.

And lastly, I am going to be at Phobia tonight if I finisht project I'm currently distracting myself from, there are a few people there I want to run into. Saturday I will likely be at ARM - if you are going please let me know so I can say in person, particularly if we haven't met RL before.

Namaste

5/31/2008 8:17:08 AM
Me and my subbie have decided to go in different directions at this time.  I think she will likely end up as a Domme some day, and probably a very good one.  I will take a little break and then we'll see what happens, i have a frew friends wanting to drag me back into things afterwards.

Today?  Bellydancing and Spring 4th.

5/28/2008 10:49:17 AM
First off, if I have not mentioned it yet, the results of the Tantra workshop are... incredible. Just wow. So is the book 'Urban Tantra' - I have been studying sexuality for a long long time and that book taught me a few things - and I haven't even read the whole thing yet. I am also incredibly happy with my girlie / subbie for looking through the book and doing the exercise with me.. there is just something incredibly fun about seeing someone have an ongoing orgasm for two minutes straight and begging you to let them stop cumming.

This week I want to start trying to actively combine Tantric concepts with BDSM through joint breathing, cycling energy, Tantric massaje paired with floggings, and mild trances (that's more from the hypnosis side)... I can't wait to see the results. I also haven't tried the joint EAO breath yet, though that's not particularly BDSM oriented (yet). Just have to be careful with what we do since she broke her tailbone skydiving

In case I have not mentioned this yet, I absolutely love sexual exploration, I can't imagine anything else in life that is as entertaining or fulfilling. And the best part? With Tantra my sexuality is going up instead of down, and I know at least one person already deep into their 40s who looks no older then 30 and can actually outlast me.

(And again, before getting any flames about 'that's not what real Tantra is about', I know. These are tricks I am learning along my path that happen to be a lot of fun, I am commited to the Ipsalu style of Kriya Tantra.  I am not posting the spiritual side of what I am learning, because this isn't that kind of journal.)

5/16/2008 3:23:53 PM
Haven't posted for a while I suppose.  Might as well for posterity, so I can read back through my journal in a year and grin.

So the sub I am working with is absolutely wonderful and keeps surprising me - every time I think I need to go slow through something she's right there ready to go, and grinning from ear to ear.  We've built a dungeon at her place, I've started introducing her to the community and some other fun things, and its been an absolute blast so far.  And she's been introducing me to some new experiences as well (not lifestyle related) that are keeping me quite on the edge of my seat.  I just wish I had more time to play.. I just wish I could play all the time?

In other news, off to my level 1 Tantra initiation.. now.  I've got another journal to post about stuff that has spiritual significance to me though, posting details about it in a lifestyle journal would be.. odd for some reason - though I do have every intention of bringing and keeping these worlds together in my life.

4/7/2008 8:12:03 PM
I've spent the past four.. five? days doing semi-intensive training with the new sub.  She pretty much won me over, I have to admit - for someone who hadn't even thought about the lifestyle until a few weeks ago, she is an aboslute natural and a pleasure to train. 

I warmed her up with a texture-play scene and some simple commands, we did some lite flogging to get her used to the sensations (and just to see what would happened I flogged her pussy litely as well - she liked it.. I win), we did some hypnosis (she didn't go under as quickly as most people but she did go under), played with her in traffic for a bit..  just lots of good intro stuff, and she took right to it.  She's great at obeying orders, does well in public, and I have sent her off with some commands for the next day or so before she comes back.

The main fork in the road is that another girlie / subbie has contacted me whom I didn't think I would hear back from, and she wants to see me soon about something..  It may be completely unrelated, or she may want me to train her. I don't know, we'll have to see how it goes - I like her and want very much to train her, and I am poly, but I take my responsibility as a Dom pretty seriously and won't throw away one sub who trusts me for another.

4/2/2008 8:07:37 PM
Well what do you know, I've had my first internet troll attack! I know to the women among you that may not seem like much, but I am very proud as a male to have been thought enough of to have one crawl out from under a bridge to nip at my heels. The self-proclaimed Domme (do real Doms actually have so little confidence in themselves that they feel a need to troll? ) whose voluptuous city-like and paint-written chest shall remain nameless, emailed me with the enlightening comment that 'I look like a moron'. By that I would wager that she is a young troll without much command of language, but I do apreciate the effort and I am sure she will grow up to be a wonderful troll in good time. (She then emailed me to tell me she had blocked me. Um. Good?)   Anyways, to help the other little baby trolls everywhere, I thought I would give you some creative trolling ideas.  So, in regards to my pictures you might have said a hundreed things, just by varying the tone..

Aggressive. You should have covered up your chest too! Friendly. Thank you so much for not making me look at your face, its good of you to know your limitations. Descriptive. Its a bandito! Its W. Coyote! Curious. Did it hurt when they removed your nose? Gracious. How kind of you to grow so much hair for the cancer society, you've brought enough for everyone. Truculent. When people hug you I suspect they have to call in shepards to sheer them out of the entanglement. Considerate. I don't know if you are aware but chest-covering, not just for women anymore. Tender. Oh sweetie don't you worry, we'll set up a fund and get you something to cover your face every day of the year! Pedantic. When the good Phantom in infinite wisdom and of a gentle heart, though tuned to sound and not displays of light, gazed on his countenance he covered but half of what He saw. Cavalier. Sir, the curtain that you wear on your face - how many bruises you must cover from 'falling down the stairs'. Emphatic. Those eyes, nothing can escape your gaze, no morsal, no field mouse can flee Your sight! Dramatic. Don't look into the light lest the reflection blind the heavens! Admiring. How creative! Gangster hippy rap!

Ok, there is more but I am tired, this should serve as a good primer. Oh, btw, if you want to see my face fine, show me yours first, I rather enjoy my current job and plan to keep it for a while without people knowing what I like to do. And the picture is from burning man 07, one of the most powerful and meaningful experiences of my life. And if you know what this rant is inspired from, let me know, you'll get lots of cookie points with me.

3/23/2008 2:16:54 PM
Frolicon is finished unfortunately - there is Sunday left but that doesn't really count - and I miss it already. Saturday was absolutely wonderful. The hypnosis show that I had been looking forward to gave me many new and fun ideas (many of which I will be trying out on two volunteers within the next two or three hours I think) and in the dungeon I got to flog a girlie I had been wanting to play with for quite a while. She was wonderful to scene with though I mis-gaged her intensity level and had to pull back a little. Nothing bad and as soon as I corrected things she had an absolute blast, I'll just have to keep the note in my mind about her responses for next time. (And we will play again :)

I also got to help a Domme break in a bottom who just wanted somebody beat on him. Unfortunatley for him he annoyed me. His back was slightly red already so I wasn't hitting him too hard and he decided to be a samy (silly ass masochist) and told me to hit him harder - to be specific he told me to hit him as hard as I can. Subs that top from the bottom amuse me and sometimes I'll let them, so in his case I thought I'd do him a service and explain why he shouldn't do that with a Top he doesn't know - for his own good. Besides, its not often I get to hit someone without having to pull back. (I held back a bit anyways, didn't want to break the poor boy) A minute or two later he politely allowed me to choose my own pace without adding any more commentary.

I also have a bunch of new toys, curtesy of the Domme friend staying with me. A nice new stingy flogger (friends have been asking me to get / use one), a crop (the popper of which I promptly lost), and a nice paddle (sort of.. can't find the name of what it actually is but it makes a wonderful sound). And I got myself a nice corset with lots of hooks to attach toys to when I need to, and a leather mask.

Aside from all the fun goodness, I had a chance to help a friend in need by putting her under for a bit to help her sleep (yes, I do use hypnosis for non-erotic purposes, I just don't tend to advertise it). Shortly after I left her room I walked out to find a girl outside in the cold who had drunk way too much. Me and another guy kept her warm and concious until her bf could get there with his car. You meet new friends under the strangest circumstances sometimes..

There is more but my posts are long enough when I make them so this is good enough, I don't need to mention breaking into a house naked on a dare, or the birthday spankings, or all the other fun stuff. Next year come to Frolicon. :)

3/22/2008 12:08:20 AM
Frolicon is half-over and here are the lessons I have learned so far.

1) When driving in Conyers assume you will not leave the city again until the next day. (ie. missed my shift Thursday even after rescheduling it for later because it took me four hours to figure my out of that hickbilly backwater dead-end town)

2) Yes, you can fist friends to orgasm while you drive. Yay! *marks off another purity point*

3) Hypnosis is fun, especially when you are given an energy boost after having no sleep. What is even more fun? Having a girl look at you with big open eyes during partner-practice going 'you've realy hypnotized people before?' and attempting not to grin like the Cheshire Cat. A minute later watching her slumping over in her seat and politely telling her she'll be randomly grinning for the rest of the con while thinking of having been hypnotized. Tee hee. And better then that? Learning how to give someone a drug-trip that can't be tested for and without side-affects, and how to place orgasm buttons on people. *wins*

4) The physique of tall sexy lanky black man? Countless hours of martial arts. Red rubber dress for said man? $100. Flogger being swung by said man? $130. Knowing said sexy man has a crush on you and you will be playing w/ him shortly (non-scene)? Priceless.

5) Seeing a line of people waiting outside a dungeon and walking past them makes one feel oddly happy in a very naughty sort of way. Seeing all the familiar faces in a dungon? Even happier.

6) I loved taking a break from Frolicon to go to Tantra class and introduce a new person to the experience.. And I am glad I did, I felt some.. interesting things. I reset myself which was a very powerful experience that I can't really begin to describe or go into.

There is a slightly sadder aspect to the con that I did not enjoy / appreciate, but it was mild and I know it will sort its self out, and I chose to be in that spot. Sometimes it hurts seeing a friend in a certain situations and having to step back because its what they want.. Other things are harder still to watch. Here is a lesson if you are in such spots that I learned long ago - Accept the spots will come. Accept the sensations. Place no guilt / blame on you, the person, the universe, or anything else - life is formed of many threads, and if all were white the canvas would be dull. And then don't put yourself in that spot again with that person.

Back to the festivities.

3/19/2008 8:48:48 PM
*Looks around*..  still a room left to clean, have to finish grading by tomorrow.. figure out and prepare outfits for weekend.. work a bit on programming project.. hmm.. these are times when taking on a slave maid becomes downright tempting.  I'll have to consider the option more thoroughly I suppose..

My primary interest is still training show-subs/slaves, particularly ones I can pet and teach tricks.  And do energy work with.   .. and abuse as the mood strikes me (just ordered a new toy for that)...  At this exact moment though, I want one to clean my house in prep for very kinky orgy so I don't have to, and whom to lead on a leash for the rest of the weekend. <sigh>  The only side-affect of most friends / playmates being switches, Doms, or scene-based is that you can't really do that.  Eh, at least I'll have a lot of people to play with in a day or two, they're already popping their heads up everywhere like cute sexy groundhogs and telling me I have to grab them.

Oh! And a new girlie and her bf will be stopping by Whippersnappers soon - she is absolutely adorable and though I've known her for years now I never get to really see her.  Its an absolute surprise that she is interested in lifestyle, but I'll help them as much as I can to get started.  But for now.. <sigh> back to cleaning.

3/19/2008 10:55:53 AM
<sigh> So the girl I thought may have been a good potential sub won't be.  It turns out she had been lying to me and was in fact a different girl whom I had refused to train earlier.  Cute and sexy but that's not always enough.  Oh well, this is why I am usually weary of playing online only.  There is still one or two people I would do it with, but in general.. <shrug>  

3/18/2008 6:52:52 PM
The girlie I'd scened with this weekend just wrote me to tell me that for the rest of the night people were making fun of her because she kept randomly grinning. That makes me too happy, and I love it when people tell you stuff like that! And more importantly, she says she'll be coming regularly to whippersnappers now, primarily so I can flog her again - though she'll have to miss Frolicon unfortunately. Its ok, my con schedule is already pretty packed so that will probably be easier, though I would have very much enjoyed it.

Small update, thursday I'll only officially be DMing 11-12:30 if you wanted to say hi in person (and Friday 12-2AM still). I may volunteer to help out more if they need it, but there are lots of other things I already plan to keep myself entertained with otherwise.

3/16/2008 12:18:36 AM
Dom face Dom face Dom face.. can't sound cheerful on a bdsm journal Dom face.. screw it. SQUEEEEEEE!! Omg I am getting so incredibly spoiled with my life! I have been flogging newbies for so long I had forgotten just how wonderful it feels to flog an experienced sub. Let me correct that.. I did flog the guy last month.. and that was fun, he was wonderful, but I really do prefer women. Even though it doesn't have to involve sex (I usually am not interested in sex during scenes) there is still sexual tension there, and the energy feels.. different because of it. Riding that wave of sexuality, teasing someone, watching the moment those muscles tense in anticipation, the moan that just escapes their lips.. Grabbing their hair and asking if they are ok and seeing the glazed happy look in their eyes that only an experienced sub has learned how to really really reach.. and holding them afterwards.. I don't care what anyone says, there is love in a scene. I might not know the name of the person I just beat (in this case I made sure to know it), but holding them afterwards, petting them as they tremble in your arms.. I have known love in most contexts and its the same energy that gets shared, even if its only for that hour. Apparently she hadn't been beat like that in five years (normally she Doms), and I may get to see her more often thanks to it - she may crash w/ me from time to time after whippersnappers perhaps, and we have already agreed whenever she does she gets flogged. (She won't be an actual sub for me, I don't think she could be a 24/7 sub, but she is a blast to scene with so I can't wait to do it again - I am still riding the euphoria)

In related news, a friend of mine - a very experienced Dom whom I affectionately (in my mind anyways) refer to as God offered to co-top with me in the future. At the risk of sounding young, I know I have much left to learn - if I am a Dom for the next 60 years I'll say the same, and will be terrified if anything different ever comes from my mouth. So that will be a blast.. next week there is Frolicon and a wonderful guy I met that is incredible with ropes will be should be showing me some new tricks as well (I normally use leather restraints - just got a new pair - and have only done rope-bondage a few times so this will be semi-new to me). That and of course the wonderful girlie who will be staying and scening w/ me throughout the weekend and a little after (On both sides - she is an incredible Dom so I'll try subbing again. Its not in my nature but I like testing myself from time to time, and no matter what happens I know I'll learn something out of it) - and the Dom / sub who will be with us Saturday.. And the week after that is Atlanta Bound at 1763.. debating if my wallet can take another one for the team. It promises to be an incredibly fun event, though a lot of the people I know will be out of town on various tasks.

One last aside (I know my posts are long, but what can I say, I enjoy my weekends a great deal), Mel has asked me to help out so Saturday 12-2 AM I will likely be DMing at the Whippersnappers sponsored dungeon at Frolicon. I will be making it up to the person with me by letting her beat on me and returning the favor (as well as introducing her to a lot of this wonderful wonderful crew).

Anyways, I hope everyone else in cyberland is having as much fun.. I could get used to this. I love my life! :)

3/15/2008 2:05:38 PM
My last Tantric class left me thoughtful.  I have been searching for this path for the better part of ten years..  or searching through paths I suppose, everything from Taoism and Buddhism to Christianity.  And Tantra... feels like home.  I can't describe it any better then that.  I will be skipping part of Frolicon to go to class, and in May I will be taking the first real step unto the path (as these are just exercises and study at the moment).  I am curious how this will mix with D/s however, since that is also a part of who I am, and not one I would put aside.  I like flogging people.  I enjoy teasing, fetishes, and having a girl curled up at my feet looking up at me, as well as much more...  But I suspect once I start walking on this path a lot of what I do now will pale in comparisson - and to take a new slave afterwards will require years to catch them up.  Which I can spend, but..   And I don't think the two lifestyles cross each other often enough that I will find a Tantric-trained slave.  There is no reason they can't cross, all that I do now I do with love, even and especially when I inflict pain, but...  That's off in the distance though.

Carpe Noctem.

3/14/2008 2:09:01 AM

Just making a list of lifestyle music (been meaning to for a while).. On my actual journal I have links to pretty videos for these songs, but as this journal isn't overly html / link friendly... (And no, I am not an audiophile or even terribly musically inclined, unless you count my djembe which I love very much - but I do like audiophiles because they bring me nice pretty music w/ a minimal amount of effort on my part)

Pain (I Like It Rough) (Three Days Grace)
Sweet Dreams (Are Made Of This) (Eurythmics)
Master and Servant (Depeche Mode)
Dominance and Submission (Blue Oyster Cult)
Figured you out (Nickelback)
Rough Sex (Lords of Acid)
Spank my Booty (Lords of Acid)
Madonna (Hanky Panky)
Human Nature(Madonna again, prolly the first bdsm video I ever saw imo)
Express yourself (Madonna again, more for Dommes)
Poison(A.Cooper)
Bitch School (Spinal Tap)
Venus in Furs (various)
I wanna be your dog(various)
Fetish (Joan Jett)
I am your Man (Cohen)
You're the boss (?)
Whip it! (Devo)
Bad Boys Get Spanked (Pretenders)
Rawhide (Blues brothers)
Under My Thumb (R.Stones)
Leather Boys with Electric Toys (PBFloyd)
Freaky Girl (Shaggy)
Precious Pain (?, this one's actually sad)
Sweet Surrender (Sarah McLachlan - another sad one, at least to me)
Baby One More Time (Britney Spears. Yes, totally kidding, the girl is just an idiot unwittingly advocating domestic violence, but had to share - and yes, there is a huge difference between bdsm and domestic violence)

Leather (Tori Amos - not really a lifestyle song.. just one that touched and changed me very deeply, and hurts so sweetly whenever I hear it)


3/12/2008 7:36:30 AM
Well, about to head off for a midterm (I already have all the degrees I need, this is more for fun) and figured I'd post about Frolicon.  So first off I got the rules for the Dungeon where I'll DM Thursday - they are online somewhere but here are the highlights: yes you can have intercourse (with a condom), yes you can do blood play and wax play if you use a tarp and everything is safe / covered, no open flames bigger then a candle, no watersports and the like, no pictures (except by staff and w/ permission), and no loitering on top of equipment.  The rest of the stuff is pretty standard so read it for yourselves.

On a personal note, an old friend is coming (I use the 'old' term loosely as he is younger then me) with his slave, as is a new friend possibly with her soon-to-be slave, and I'll be doing an erotic hypnosis demo for them.  I haven't had a chance to do that in little while so I am very much looking forward to it - as well as breaking my new flogger in a bit more. 

There are so many panels I want to attend during the day too that are being run by very dear friends, and I feel aweful that I will have to miss them since they are up against each other - and one in particular is up against my Tantra class which I refuse to miss for anything.  Oh well, better too much stuff to do then too little.

Off to test..

3/9/2008 4:37:52 PM
Hmm..  I am chatting with a girl in another state at the moment who would really like me to train her - lifestyle as well as some other things.  She has a lot of potential, though the distance and a few other aspects are acting as caution flags at the moment.  I enjoy D/s but while I don't naturally link it as having to do w/ sex, long-distance anythings seldom feel like a good idea to me.  On the other hand I do absolutely love introducing people to new experiences, and she's pretty much a fresh slate..  which is hard to resist even if it is normally one of my limits.  Other aspects of her promise to also pose some difficult challenges to training by anyone which makes me both cautious and eager at the same time.  In this respect more-or-less alone I am a bit of a masochist I suppose.
 
I'll consider it a while longer and see what happens.  If she is ok with the fact that I will likely train other subs and be with other people then I'll consider it that much harder.  (She knows this, but there is a difference between knowing something and understanding something - especially since if I took on someone closer they would naturally be my priority in a lot of ways)

3/2/2008 7:48:19 PM
Typing away at a project and wanted a break so..  I've been looking through the forums and a lot of subs mentioned wanting to know what they'd be trained in specifically, that if a Dom does not specify it means he has no clear goals / possible poser.  I suppose that's as good a measure as any in a cyber world with no guarantees.  For my part I don't usually go into detail because I don't think there is an one-size-fits all 12-step training program for subs.  If your hard limit is being nude in public, that kind of defeats my 'train you to be a show sub' idea a bit.  That said, here are some general things I want to train my next sub in (and I am thinking of one specifically hence why I am writing anything at all - not saying this is what I would do if I decided on a different sub)..

First off, basics: trust, honesty, postures, responding to simple non-verbal commands, developing some pain tolerance.. (yes, I do want to take my sub out to events, and I expect her to make me proud and be happy at being able to do be a good show-subbie)

After that I'd want to get a bit deeper (and yes, I am skipping a lot of basics because otherwise I'd be writing a manual, not a journal entry) and train her to be a good hypno-subbie - which takes some time to make sure she can go deep enough for the really fun effects.  I would never take full control away from her because that goes against my beliefs, even if she wants it, but I have ever intention of attaching the 'orgasm' button to somewhere fun. ;)  To further guide the mind there are some books I need my subs to read, ranging from 'Stranger in a Strange Land' to 'Kushiel's Dart'.

With the mind on its way, I'd also want to train her spiritually.  I don't believe my path is 'the path' so I don't expect that, but I would teach her what I know of the more general map of the universe - and I would definatley teach her energy work because there are a lot of things in that area of life that I would want to explore deeper - that I can't explore alone.  There is an interesting passage from the Book of Secrets that would apply here but I'll save that for a different post.

I would also instill in her life-skills.  While I take great pleasure in caring for a subbie, being responsible for them, and helping them through everything, I need to know they can survive on their own two feet if anything happens.  That means no bare-foot-and-pregnant, subbie is actually going to school / job whether she likes it or not, and I will likely teach her some skills she needs along the way.  (I'm quite good at business psychology, writing, programming, digital art, web-design, and a few other little bits)

Over time I would like to build a little stable of subbies, so teaching a subbie to be poly would be a definite goal (there are two women in the world I would consider changing that aspect of myself for, not looking to add any more to the list), and I want to teach her how to let go completely not just to me but the universe as a whole.. That gets too complex to explain in a post though, and its something I've been studying for over ten years so not something I can sum up.  But it does involve going to Burning Man at least once in her life!

And for the next sub... who knows.  Maybe something completely different.  So in short, no, not all of us who say 'training' without defining it are without a plan, sometimes we just build the plan around the sub, but I do understand and respect why some may think otherwise.


3/1/2008 7:11:59 AM
I don't quite know why, but I have had the strongest urge recently to build someone. To train them, build them in my image, show them off.. I have done it often enough before - sometimes in bdsm context such as training a pony (didn't do that for too long but was fun while I did it), day-to-day life (I happen to be a professor), and part of my relationships (For better or worse I push my partners to excell every time)... but this is different. I think its the certainty. In relationships you feel almost guilty pushing someone. In teaching you are limited, you have to assume the other person is an incredible prodigy waiting to emerge and some day work with you. This.. is unapologetic, embraced hubris. I know I want to build someone, mold them, that I know enough things to teach... I don't know what to really say, but I will need to explore this further.

In other news, , next Whippersnappers I'll be part of the hospitality team (set up your playspace, break it down, and to some degree monitor things while you play to make sure you're safe enough that we don't get sued) so if you're there stop by and say hi. I may or may not be bringing a subbie w/ me, we'll see.

2/26/2008 9:39:49 PM
So recently I have been having the.. its hard to describe the sensation.. of hearing an absolute horror story of a wanna-be Dom, and how he abused a sub who knew little about the bdsm world. If you are a new sub, please take the following considerations to heart:
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(1) Yes, its true that further down the path consent can be treated as coming only when you enter service or choose to leave. You are not there yet. If you are new and your 'Dom' tells you that you should have no hard limits / ignores your hard limits / does not make sure to discuss safe words with you, consider this a red flag.
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(2) In the moment you withdraw concent, regardles of whether you are a sub, slave, or you have sworn your soul to the Dom in blood, in the eyes of the law anything following that is considered abuse.
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(3) If a Dom is trying to keep you from being in contact with the rest of the community, that's not always jealousy or posession, sometimes its a sign that there is something they don't want you to know (about them, or about what they are doing)
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(4) Contrary to what the &$*# of a Dom might say... Yes, if you speak up to me, push me, hit me, or otherwise annoy me I will punish you, and it may hurt quite a bit. But in the moment you have a serious problem and call a safe word, I don't care if the Dom is the grand-daddy of all Doms, no they do not keep abusing you, keep you locked up, or any other idiotic thing because 'well, that's what real Doms do'. And in the moment you ask to leave service, they Don't stop you! Yes, concent can be withdrawn, and the Dom's only response / recourse is to refuse to accept the sub back into service afterwards. (We get to say 'no' as well) And just because you've been abused before doesn't give your new Dom the right to abuse you as well - in fact it means they need to be More careful.  (yes, Master/slave can be a bit different, I can't imagine why a Master would allow a real serious issue to continue, but we're talking you being a novice sub, not an experienced slave)
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(5) This next part is my personal opinion, but its one that I have asked about time and time again of older Doms and that I live by. As a Dom you do not play intoxicated / in a state where you do not have full control over yourself and your subs safety - and that includes punishing a sub when angry. Sounds counter-intuitive to some Doms I suppose, but imo you have no right to try and control a sub in a moment when you do not have control over yourself. More experienced Dom/sub couples.. this may not apply. *shrug*
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Ok, rant over, and having to post it makes me sick.


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On a happier note, I forgot to post this but I got my second Reiki attunement, and the third one was promised to me and should be coming in three months. (Normally these would be more expensive but I helped out a Reiki master who was in a bind without realizing she was such, and we're becoming fast -if distant- friends. And she's absolutely adorable - when she comes in town if any of you want a Reiki massaje let me know and I'll send her your way!)

2/18/2008 4:31:52 PM
About to visit California tomorrow, but before that I volunteered to help out at Frolicon, so if any of you are going to be visiting the dungeon I'll be one of the dungeon masters on Thursday evening, so say hello!  I may help on more days but I want to have some fun too, and Hypnodave promised he'd be doing a workshop on erotic hypnosis that I can't miss. I've had a lot of fun mixing hypnosis and bdsm so far so I'm dying to learn more. (Oh, as a side note, I don't add commands in hypnosis and wouldn't as part of a scene, maaaybe with a long term slave. I just use it to change the scenery you could say, or to add extra bonds or toys)

2/17/2008 5:54:07 AM
This has been quite a productive week in the area of personal growth.. Just went to a whippersnappers get-together (local Atlanta bdsm community for people 21-39) and the presenter was incredible.. he gave me a lot of food for thought regarding who is really in control in a scene, why that's not necessarily good, and how to change that, the various levels of bdsm... A lot of thoughts I had been trying to deal with in my mind do to all the mixed messages I have gotten over time from the scene its self.  He was utterly adorable too so at his request I toped him afterwards for part of the night, and as a reward for him being so good I enlisted another Dom's help - together we flogged him front/back at the same time. He was bouncing up and down with happiness afterwards! Boys are funny, and experience in a sub really shows.  Normally I wouldn't take on a male sub, especially one who is significantly older then me, but if he had lived closer I might have considered it, if nothing else then because I think I still have a lot I could learn from him.  Also, I've volunteered to help out the event in the future - whether working the cash register, helping clean up, or DMing from time to time. I've known most of them for some time now and if there's one thing burns have taught me is that you have to help out your community if you want to make it better (and that the best gift you can give someone is always your time, not your money) Oh, and got a new cowhide/suede flogger, since my ex has all of our previous ones. *happy*

2/16/2008 9:41:42 AM
This month is full of excitement - yesterday I went through my first Tantra class.  We messsed with chakra vibrations and healing (more like playing in each other's energy fields and regulating them).  I've been able to work with energy fields for a few years now, but I had never known about the different layers, and I certainly could never feel them from quite so far away before.  I don't know if that's because of the recent atunement or the chakra warmups at the start, but its a blast.

2/15/2008 1:43:13 AM
The other day I got my first Reiki attunement! Unfortunately I won't be officially trained in it - I met someone who needed a place to stay for a few days and we got along, chatted about spirituality.. We were both very interested in healing in various forms, and she was a Reiki master (12th gen), so she attuned me. I didn't feel much at the time beyond basic energy (which I could do already), but shortly afterwards.. Well, that part is a bit personal so I'll just keep it to myself and say that I will have to learn more soon.

1/29/2008 3:39:27 PM
Just saw this picture while looking for something else and almost cried -

<img src="http://scottlondon.com/photo/burningman2007/images/010.jpg">
http://www.scottlondon.com/photo/burningman2007/images/010.jpg

I love my life and I wouldn't trade it for anyones, not even the rough bits, not even the parts that hurt, but that place..  that was where I learned what feeling at peace really meant, where home really was

1/20/2008 11:06:06 PM
I was visiting a good friend's house today, just to play some board games with a few people. They were making toast and next thing I know he's paddling the very cute girlie with a wooden spoon (most impressive to get the effect he did through jeans without breaking the spoon). And I went to get the maple syrup and joked with them. Afterwards I stopped and tried to remember the last time a scene like that would have surprised or shocked me. I still think of myself tame compared to some of my friends, but I am starting to think that my benchmarks are pretty high compared to a lot of people's. (And yes, I know that is quite tame by any lifestyle standards, but its usually the little things that grab your attention)

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