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Pan Male Dominant, 49,  Plymouth, United Kingdom
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I am an intelligent well travelled fit and active naturally dominant who is self confident male. I am seeking ultimately a permanent relationship based on honesty, trust and open communication.

I know as a woman you are ruled by feelings and empathy which males seldom understand. I also understand a submissive or slave requires excitement but also a rock she can cling to, to feel trust, and reassurance. So, her existence of wonder and exploration must come within a stable and safe environment.

The greatest gift you can give me is your submission. The greatest gift I can give you is a safe playground where you can explore and be completely open to me.We all have memories both good and bad. These should not cloud your desires or needs and hold us back.

Some submissives and slaves find submission is a way of release from daily pressure. Others find in giving they get approval or acceptance or natural status. Many of course hide or bury it, some even accept it but do nothing about it. Others cannot even accept it to themselves of course and think they are wrong at best or mad at worst.

I do not judge nor get embarrassed or shocked. Words like kink, kinky, fetish and taboo have little meaning to me. These are vanilla words meaning out of the norm, but who can say what is normal or not? What a consenting couple do has nothing to do with the vanilla lifestyle at all.

Labels like submissive or slave mean different things to different people, so I would like to know your take on these. I am happy to answer you questions you have. In return I want to know more about you.













 Dominant Male


 United Kingdom

 Willing to Relocate

 5' 6"

 154 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Transgender

Submissive Female

Sub / Slave Male

Sub/Sub Couples

Online Romance

A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Mental Bondage (Expert)

 Chess (Expert)

 Intellectual Discourse (Expert)

 Philosophy (Expert)

 Psychology (Expert)

 1950s Lifestyle (Expert)


 Being a bull for cuck couples (Expert)


 1960s Lifestyle (Expert)

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Journal Entries:
10/28/2021 12:53:56 AM

“A dominant man is”

A dominant man is observant. He watches, he notices, he takes in the environment. He does this not only to monitor your responses, he does this to keep you safe. In the same way a lead on the dance floor should mostly be looking at couples around them, not on their follower. A dominant man is watching the environment so you can feel safe enough to let go. He is watching you to see what you aren’t saying. He observes.

A dominant man is patient. He knows that as much as you might want to open up, it takes some time for your subconscious and your nervous system to catch up. You need to relax, you need to feel safe, and he needs time. To explore, to feel you, to gauge what you like and don’t like, he needs time with your body and your mind and he is patient enough to take it. And he is patient over and over again, not just once but many times, giving you the communication that he is steady and present and he will not leave you to flounder.”


3/13/2018 5:56:51 PM
I was asked recently on my take on a slave. My reply was simple; that a domesticated dog is better than a wild one. The domesticated one is looked after, fed, loved and cared for thus has no problems. I was then told calling a slave a dog was nonsense. My reply was simple, the devotion a slave should give is like a dogs which is unconditional. 
I laughed at the idea a slave has an option, after all it is her nature to be so. Those that put barriers up like location, age, ethnicity or whatever prove she has a lot to learn if she is to become a high level slave. Her options are only getting the best trainer/master she can, after all she is not after a boyfriend.

10/18/2017 8:09:26 PM
I was asked recently what my thoughts were on relocation.
My reply is, if someone's needs and desires are being offered to be met it is immaterial how far away the person is. 
Yes confirmation is required by correspondence and meeting to ensure these offers are real but if they are should distance be a limit? I my opinion why use the internet if you are only looking in your location? Surely, it is need that drives us here and so should not limit us finding that fit. 

10/18/2017 7:42:50 PM
A PROFILE is like the tunnel entrance to someone's mind. This lets the sunlight only reveals a desire nothing more. It is a beginning when only the inkling of someones wants or needs is known and they seek to explore that need hoping someone will want to give or possess.
THE MESSAGE a beginning of a journey and subsequent replies deepens and the darkness lifts as you acclimatise your sight to the recesses of the mind. As only a serious master seeks to explore and examine this.
That feeling of wonder and discovery to be released from the vanilla world that even the slave or submissive may be unaware of. The exposed to sunlight and examination the submissive is afraid of. For a submissive being vulnerable,,and through time and exploration her vulnerability becomes greater. Should she hold back? Should she be manacled to the vanilla judgemental and narrow minded world. For a slave she should completely desires this, thirsts for it so that she can say she is truly owned.
The greatest gift of BDSM is openness and the ability of letting go of prejudice and fixed ideas. We are here for one reason which is to find an answer to questions we have about ourselves. So we take a chance and look over the parapet to find answers to these thoughts and needs we have. Only when a submissive has the courage to take take next step and free herself or the slave can be what she needs and just let go of limiting herself can they both find their peace that they need.

5/14/2017 5:29:45 PM
BDSM Words

Why do people use the words fetish, kink, taboo and the like?

These are vanilla words to explain something THEY do not accept as being either "normal" or "ethical". No one of course questions their authority or bona fides. For who is to say what is "normal" or "abnormal"?

4/23/2017 7:15:05 AM
 I want to find someone that understands it is their mind I want to undress. As I seek to expose their consciousness and thoughts.

Someone that I can slowly take down their walls that you have built up around your mind and put them aside. For she realises her life is limited, even in private by thus controls. 

Some say this is wanting a doormat. I say no to that! I want someone who has the intelligence to understand her walls are controlling her and to replace them with direction and purpose.

6/21/2016 8:15:30 PM
Isn't it strange that we can be surrounded by people and yet still feel loneliness. 
Isn't it also true we can also feel at peace and loved yet on a desert island.
So is it about the emotional connections or just the memory of what we think we have?
Likewise, is sex just about an orgasm or about the act leading to it?

6/20/2016 4:48:27 PM
Why are people afraid of their own needs and desires? I know it is cathartic in some cases to get things off their chest to perhaps relieve the burden they feel. Yet when someone messages you it means either they understand or are just playing. Unless you put petty ideas aside you can never find the freedom you truly seek? So deleting a message without reading it could mean you are not serious yourself or you are afraid that someone does understand you

6/6/2016 6:58:14 AM
What is it about friends requests? If you are sent a friend request it is a sign of interest yet everyone I send such a request to seems to vanish into the woodwork?                              

5/17/2016 6:58:14 AM
Has anyone been ignored and blocked without a slave or sub reading their message?

7/15/2015 5:18:22 PM
Why do people not reply to messages.
It takes a few minutes to say not interested or will reply when able.
I realise people get lots of mail but I manage so why do not others? 

9/12/2008 3:09:06 AM
It appears that I have taken on the mantle of guide and tutor, teacher and mentor.
If any newbie  slaves or submissive wishes to know anything about the lifestyle or other topic then please feel free to ask me. Provided it is courteous and respectful you will be  answered.

5/18/2008 4:15:50 AM

I was  recently asked about my physique. Yes I am 56 but my muscular and athletic 40-30-34 inch physique is not through muscle building. I was an international athlete and I maintain my figure to keep fit and healthy, supple and strong.

10/22/2007 5:38:54 AM

RELOCATION---I really wish people would be more honest about relocation. There are lots of profiles here which say they are prepared to relocate but when the time comes around they change their minds.
To me it would not matter if I was in a tin shed in Siberia, provided i was with my chosen slave/subbie or course. I am also a great believer in masters should under certain circumstances move and not just slave/subbies.
The fact we are using the internet should not preclude moving within a county, region, or even country. If I only wanted a slave/subbie in my location I would go to the local munch and find one, not bother to use the world wide web.
So please be honest enough to say yes I will, or no I wont relocate because of.....

6/14/2007 5:17:58 AM

I have many requests from newbie subs and slaves for information-so I hope this helps them. Any fool can say do this or do that. As a Master I demand respect, not because i say I am a master but because my thoughts are directed and thoroughly thought through. Once respect is achieved and maintained then and only then think deeply on this.....

A laugh is to risk appearing as a fool
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental
To reach out is to risk involvement
To expose feelings is to risk rejection
To expose dreams is to risk ridicule
To love is to risk not being loved in return
Only the person who risks can enjoy a full life
The person who does not risk; does nothing, feels nothing and is nothing.

Life is a narrow path between freedom and belonging. If you feel ready to sacrifice freedom for belonging THEN 
Live from the heart
Dance like there is nobody watching
Love like you have never been hurt
Sing like there is nobody listening
Speak from the soul to be heard

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