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I completely respect a woman's need to feel and be safe. I understand and expect earning her trust needs to be the first step. Still, it goes both ways ladies. Open and honest is the only way for a friendship or an LTR to start. Having said that: My desire: To have a woman in my life who is friend, confidante, lover, wingman, and who I can, if it's truly part of her nature, physically and emotionally force to her knees. It's taken me until later in life to figure out that I have that very specific desire. I don't, however, want a doormat. All of the qualities I listed will need to grow and evolve into something we are both comfortable with in public and in private. Between CM and FL, I'm trying to read profiles and exchange messages with both experienced and novice female submissives and slaves to understand how they wish to assume that role in day to day life. There is no norm. I don't want a woman who can only feel the D/s relationship in the bedroom. That's not to say I'm looking for true 24/7 lifestyle. I just want more than occasional play acting. Such a woman will be hard to find. Outside of sites like this or sheer luck, I'm unlikely to find a woman prepared for that. If any of this resonates with you, even if we don't click, I'd like to hear from you. I'm sure we can learn from each other. BTW-I've kept my interests vanilla because the format of those lists doesn't allow one to make clear what you really like. I did include my hard limits so you know right up front what I consider too extreme. I'm happy to elaborate during chat.



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5/24/2011 3:19:34 AM

I figured out my needs (listed in profile text)  as the answer to a contradiction I have been dealing with since my very first dating experience where sex was a possibility.  I was raised to treat women as "the fairer sex."  I believe in being a gentleman and in chivalry and respecting a woman's modesty. I was faced with this dilemma of trying to honor those things and really, really wanting to just fuck. That sounds crass now and it
felt crass then. How can I care about her and respect her and still actively scheme to get her into bed without much thought beyond that?  I'm not shy. I'm capable of being aggressive and very selfish. What was holding me back? Over time, I realized that my need was deeper than the conventional. I wanted to dominate. I wanted access to her most fenced off places, both physical and emotional. I wanted her laid bare not just for pleasure but so the dance and the mindgames that the genders issist on engaging in could be put aside. Only then can you really connect and really pleasure each other.

I know there are plenty of women out there who, on the flip side, are the same way. Unfortunately, they have their share of problems - how to be selfish and agressive and by vanilla standards "kinky" and remain "a lady".  It's made more complicated by the need for caution as there are too many guys out there who tossed the chivalry handbook completely long ago.

I came to CM, FL and other sites because here the contradiction is embraced. True gentlemen who freely admit to wanting to tightly bind woman and spank her to a bright red. Women who relish both can say so without apology. Gotta love the internet.


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MadameMichele
 
 Age: 37
 Sterling heights, Michigan