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My profile is a work in progress and I will add more occasionally until I feel it adequately describes me and what I'm looking for. Till then please feel free to message me if your interested in knowing a little more about me than I have posted here.
Some info about me:
I found this site a couple of months ago and decided to give it t a try. I am of mixed race (Afro-Carib and Mediterranean) in my 30's and try to keep fit; though new to the BDSM scene I'm very curious and quite imaginative.
I wouldn't describe myself as either Dom or Sub since both have aspects I find appealing. Though willing and eager to explore my limits in either role, I do have some definite, hard boundaries I will not cross.
My Philosophy: (as described to a lovely woman not too long ago)
Everyone has needs, wants and desires they would like to see satisfied in a relationship. Doms have a need/desire to control, subs a need/ desire to be controlled. When the needs of the Dom and the needs of the sub match in both subject and intensity the relationship works, else wise, it becomes a temporary thing that falls apart with the dissatisfaction of one or both parties. To think otherwise is foolish and incongruent with the reality of human nature.
I for one have no overarching desire to control or be controlled( I am neither a true sub or dom), I do what I want to do and what I believe is right for me to do (most of the time). What those are, however, changes as I see the other partner’s commitment and affection develop.
I’m not looking for a master I am far too stubborn and individualistic to call anyone master and mean it. I am searching for a relationship (part time and no strings but maybe long term) where I am happy to please the other member (in any way they desire) not because they demand it on pain of punishment that I may or may not allow, but rather because I care to see them happy and will do whatever is in my power to see that happen. Such commitment to your happiness does not come without strings (nothing really does despite what others may proclaim) instead it comes with a mutual desire to please, albeit in different ways.
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