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Working on the profile...stay tuned. At the start of this, I had a male sub who was included in this profile. For reasons his own and private, he is no longer part of this. But its still a good damned idea. So I'll leave the profile here with some tweaking. But the general idea is that I am looking for others who are perhaps looking at a lifestyle change that would include some healthy living in a more shared and community oriented way. So subs that need somewhere economical to stay, while contributing to the upkeep of the house with their time, Dominants that maybe wouldn't mind having somewhere to hang their hat, just visit in the country for a bit, and maybe help keep the house help organized. I have many ideas, but need help with execution of them. Some improve quality of life, others the bankbook for everyone. So picture if you would a kink friendly communal life, with enough of a veneer of vanilla that your parents, kids or grandchildren won't faint. lol Either way, you must be receiving some sort of monthly income, even if it is modest. You must have interests and hobbies that include something that can contribute. I don't care about your fetishes, what you want to wank to, etc. I'm just talking about a place for you to find your feet, reflect on your kinks, perhaps play with others, all with acceptance. This is in no way a guarantee that you're going to find someone to play with you. This is just a way of hopefully finding others who share similar leanings. This place is not actually a place YET. But I'm working on it. About Me: A short, smart bbw Dominant (mostly just twisted), full time parent, and operator of a company with a ridiculous drive for new and innovative ways of doing things. Has never conformed well or done things the easy way, but very likeable. Weird sense of humour, intensely practical, usually fair minded when called for, slightly sadistic, but never towards anything cute and fluffy...like baby bunnies or puppies. Collector of strays, fixer of the worlds woes, caffeine addict, hard working and dedicated and protective to those she considers part of her circle, whether it be friend, family or kink related. Look up Aquarius personality on ANY site, and that will give you the handbook on the type of person I am. I am about brains. Sure a nicely put together exterior is lovely, but if there is nothing going on between your ears, we have nothing in common, hot or not. I have a strong interest in a self sustaining life, a healthy life, even though its less than perfect right now. I'm a terrible gardener, but things grow anyway for me. Dogs follow me around knowing I'll very likely drop something for them. I enjoy making men I don't even know squirm. Believe me, I can tell. Occasionally predatory, never boring, and often unusual. I grow on you like a fungus. THE PICTURE IN MY PROFILE IS ONE OF A LIBRARY, THAT WENT WITH STRAW BALE CONSTRUCTION! I love that kind of shit.

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4/14/2016 2:24:16 PM
I don't claim to have the best memory in the world, but I am pretty good at remembering people when I've spoken to them about something. I consider it common courtesy and decency to make note of individuals. I may not remember everything but I try to remember something if there has been a bit of conversation.  

Nothing like being messaged by an individual as if we'd never spoken with his "Hey how are ya? Do you wanna?" spiel. It had only been a few weeks since I sent a reply to his message, and he never responded. Probably because I said something about enjoying a face to face meeting that did not entail play, and pursued conversation outside of wank material fodder. I'm sure he lost interest at that point and went back to porn.

Please don't cry to me about there not being any real Dommes out there. We ARE out there.

We just get sick of bullshittery. At least I do. Maybe the other Dommes enjoy time wasting. So, I get sick of bullshittery is more accurate.

Its a sad fact when I am awed and impressed by decent conversation and an individual that does something other than troll about for new wanking material.

Here is something that NO ONE seems to be telling you:

YOU have to convince a Domme you are worth the effort of owning. If you think its any different from any of the dating/random fuck/hookups you may or may not have done in the past, you are sadly mistaken.

Its much, much harder.

I will attempt to explain this in man-speak.

Think of yourself as a car. Some Dommes just want  a fast powerful performance car for occasional fun on Saturday nights, but otherwise the car sits in storage. Others, want a comfortable day to day car, that is utilitarian, useful and efficient but incredibly dependable. Yet other Dommes want a responsive, comfortable and yet exciting ride that is dependable when needed and fun when wanted, a bit of both. Maybe a 4 wheel drive for playing in mud now and again.

Most Dommes have driven a few cars, and at this point, know what they like.

1. If you were a car, what kind would you be (trucks count too)? Are you talking to a Domme who wants a Ferrari, and you're a broken down Lada? Or is she a comfortable  domestic sedan kind of woman and you're preaching on about being a Prius?

2. What have you done to prove yourself worth buying?? Have you described your features, and how they are advantageous to a Domme, how perhaps she should check you out in person at least to think about a test drive at some point? Have you asked her what features she is looking for? What's important to her? Or were you just going on and on about being a Prius and how wonderful you are, and how you will do so many things....and yet you have none of the functions SHE wants?

I hate shopping. This is the truth. If someone wants me to buy something, and take something of theirs home, they have a very limited window to impress me with the necessity of owning their product. I am decisive and have a plan. Everything I want is with a reason. So someone selling me a car, better have all the features I want, and you have very little time to sell it. 

Submissives and slaves are no different. I have quality relationships with everyone in my life and my garage is a happy one. For me to make room for a new car in my garage, you better prove you are worth owning.

Its that simple.






4/12/2016 7:04:25 AM
So a D type friend asked me to help him out with his maso tendencies (and who am I to say no to a friend who craves some suffering?). I agree, and fun ensues on both side of the S/M slash. There is no way his subbie girls can do to him what I enjoy doing.

I figure that's good for a while. Onward and upward.

Oh no.

A week later.....he's at my door again, being very clear that he is not sub, he just likes  how I make him hurt.

Ok, fine. A little round again, but just for fun I make him kneel for his flogging.

You know, so he's more stable in case he gets shaky.

I think next time I will ask him lay out on the floor completely and take his pants off.


6/25/2015 3:35:21 AM
Ahhh summer is here. My favourite thing is the backyard patio under my big tree. Its far from quiet, although there are no city noises. Theres a tractor baling hay a ways away, a chickadee collecting nesting material (dog hair I left out for them), endless birds chirping, and a doe calling her fawn somewhere nearby. Probably by the river, that's usually where I see them.  Someone mowed over a patch of sweet grass, one of the most delicious smelling things in the world. 

End of the day, put the phone away, have a glass of wine or tea, and watch the chickens. I have one elderly hen, she comes and visits to get her petting and treats. Her rooster is a cocky bastard who crows endlessly but he follows her, and the other ladies follow him. They're oddly incredibly fun and relaxing to watch. He struts around, scratching the ground searching....and when he finds a bit of choice food, he makes a noise, the ladies come and he lets them eat it. If they're close, he picks it up, flicks it to one of them, and watches them eat it, then goes looking for more. As aggressive as he can be, he always puts the care of his hens first. Its cute. He eats last, drinks last, and is last to go in the coop at night.

I've noticed the old hen looking a little less tired and thin, I suppose the new hens are distracting him enough so she can get some rest and do her own thing. Putting this young roo in with her was maybe a bad idea. It was like putting a 20 something porn star in a room with a 95 year old woman. But she seems ok now. But dying from too much sex might be a good way to go, maybe I should have left well enough alone.

I don't tell them their cousin a few thousand times removed is cooking on the BBQ.


3/12/2015 7:20:44 AM
How to quickly eliminate those fishing for wanking material and dirty chat:

1. Talk about regular human things, forcing non sexual conversation.
2. Expect direct communication not always through the website.
3. The first two should take care of it all, 3 isn't necessary.

People mistake me as someone in a rush. No, the only thing I am in a rush for is to ensure your validity as a decent human being. Time is precious, and time wasted talking to an idiot is time I could have spent talking to someone worthy.

Otherwise, things happen as they will. People worth the effort, are still worth talking to years later. Some friends I've made on here we're over 5 years into talking! Distance makes meeting in person sometimes difficult, or not even possible. But still, that very real and human connection is there. I've made wonderful friends with fellow Dominants, couples in various configurations, subs, slaves and everyone in between. Some I've explored kink with, some I've just shared an awesome bottle of wine or cup of coffee. Some, business ideas or ideas for Christmas gifts.

Yes all of us on here are kinky freaky fuckers, and I love it all. But we are people first and foremost.

3/2/2015 3:36:01 AM
Interesting set-ups, and I think a lot of this could apply to my idea....

http://www.shareable.net/blog/11-tiny-house-villages-redefining-home

2/23/2015 12:30:40 PM
I'm enjoying this website...no boys it isn't anything pervy. There's a lot of stuff on there for female empowerment, written in a wonderfully human way.

http://mysavvysisters.com/


2/17/2015 11:14:28 AM
Interesting thoughts in this article Skills For Living Together.

http://www.context.org/iclib/ic29/ficksn/

Where do you fit into all this?

2/12/2015 10:52:45 AM
I love it when peoples profiles say "Willing to Relocate"

These days, I'm taking it to mean:
"Willing to Relocate to anywhere except where you are, and even though I say I want to relocate, I'm not willing to go see where you are, because, you know, that takes effort. In my heart of hearts I'm lazy, so you should come to me. Yeah, because my job means more than yours, even though you're Dominant and state clearly that you are staying put. Plus I have a houseplant. Moving a houseplant is difficult, and I take it everywhere with me, even on road trips. So I'm willing to relocate as long as I don't have to actually go anywhere. Like to meet you. Even if I'm passing through your town, or only live a few hours away. Because who would want to meet someone? No one is on here for that. I'd drive 12 hours for a deal on snowmachine parts or to go to a concert...but to meet a PERSON even if it goes nowhere except making a friend? That seems silly. Crazy Dominant Lady...

So If I'm willing to relocate long enough to meet you (aka get off the couch)....does this mean that you'll touch my willy? Because I deserve that for driving that far. I could have spent that time watching old X Files episodes, or playing video games. We know how productive that is. If I meet you for dinner or even coffee I FULLY expect to play with your boobs, or at least see them and touch them at some point. Because you know, I did go to ALL the effort of not playing video games today. I deserve it.

Also if I go to the tremendous effort of meeting you, could you do me a favour and put me up or pay for my hotel stay? You don't know me at all, so you should just welcome me into your home. I told you I'm safe, so you should trust that. I have a houseplant, why wouldn't you trust me? I might or might not show up, depending on my mood, so you should book a room for me just in case. And pay for it, because odds are good I won't make it to you, but we should be on the safe side. You won't know until the last minute when I no longer reply to my messages that I've disappeared....but I MIGHT be ok and sane and real, so invest your hard earned money in that.

So of course I'm willing to relocate!" lol




1/27/2015 9:36:16 AM
The types of things that interest me include:

Earthships
Straw Bale Homes
Aquaponics
Off Grid living
Home made anything. Even though I'm the shittiest crafter alive. I am my Grandmothers shame. ;)
Cooking (by that I mean from SCRATCH, and I'm very good at it)


I KNOW! Not a single spanky spanky thing in there! lol I'll talk naughty with those that actually manage to catch my interest.




8/12/2014 1:27:20 PM
I'm very excited to be going to have lunch with a potential new sub male tomorrow.

He seems lovely, and may be a great fit for my 'family' goals.

Here's to hoping!


8/11/2014 2:05:53 AM
I'm sure I got caught staring this weekend.

More than once.

Watching a fella help his buddy build something, in the hot sun, all tanned and sweaty, covered in bits of sawdust, flexing a lovely arrangement of muscles.

Yeah, I really should wear my sunglasses more often.

6/20/2014 4:10:02 AM
This might make some people angry, or offend someone but this is intended to be more along the lines of curious and wanting an explanation, rather than attacking anyone.

I don't get crossdressing. There I've said it. I get numerous messages from avid crossdressers and I have to admit it does nothing for me. I explored it when I first started into kink, I refuse to judge anything without honestly exploring and seeing what it does for me.

I don't like calling someone a slut or a dirty little whore when its a man dressed as a woman. Its like their slutty persona only comes out when en femme. This to me demeans women in general, and I have spent most of my days working hard to be a woman who is treated with the same respect as men out there in general society. Misogyny is alive and well, I'm afraid. To the cross dresser its humiliating to be dressed as a woman, to me its humilating to women in general that you're only 'naughty' and willing to suck cock, clean and cook, etc etc when dressed as a female. Why not in your work clothes? Why not naked? Why not just because you are a sub? It is to me a twisted form of sexism to only do what is perceived as traditionally female acts when dressed as a female.

This to me makes no sense. I am a Dominant female in my flip flops and jeans, or in a ball gown. Why not revel and enjoy our gender differences? I love being a woman, why can't more men enjoy being a man who happens to enjoy submitting to a woman, or cooking and cleaning, or OMG sucking a cock? I am happy as I am, I'm glad to have someone around taller than me to get things off the top shelf that I can't reach, hopefully are stronger than I am, and am secretly jealous that my males don't have to sit to pee. ;) The more I kick around on here the more I find cross dressing to be like a super hero costume. Only demonstrate your kinky powers when dressed, the rest of the time be regular non kinky Clark Kent, the pantyhose operating as some sort of on/off switch for kink and fun. It seems so sad to me. I don't need leather, a dungeon, whips and chains to demonstrate my ability to lead, I just do it. Of course I keep an excellent veneer of vanilla, I have to function in society after all. I'm a businesswoman, mother, aunt and a whole raft of things that make me, me. So I've learned to sneak in the kink. A wicked smile that lets who knows me he's in for it later. A kiss snuck at a BBQ because before we left I locked him up and I know its driving him bonkers.  A subtly pointed finger that indicates that maybe something needs his attention, but he was so busy discussing hockey that it slipped his mind. To me, that is sexy and appealing as hell.

I can't help but think of the time wasted in this pursuit. I admire the fact that the average male can be ready for a dinner party and dressed in a suit, looking and smelling panty soakingly delicious in less than 20 minutes. I enjoy the ritual of what it takes to be a feminine woman, but understand its a time sucking black hole. I love the differences.

This is not to be confused with transgendered people. I understand the difference. Is crossdressing a step in being transgendered so leave it alone? For many, I don't think so. For some transgendered folks they choose a difficult life path that I can only admire. I say go girl! From what I understand they are just being who they are, rather than an alter ego for a kinky thrill. I admire that, and my heart aches for them at the uphill battle many face each day. It can't be an easy row to hoe.

I guess for me thats what it comes down to, appreciating the differences in gender. I love handy men that can fix shit, flex muscles, get sweaty, and understand the finer points of being a guy that I don't get or ever care to, but find so cute. He can sigh internally over my frilly pillows and cold feet, and wait patiently while I try to bait my fishing hook in an aesthetically pleasing way that hopefully the fish will appreciate, but get excited at the prospect that at some point he's going to be face down into those frilly pillows of mine. Like I've said many times, I want a Rottweiler/German Shepherd/Karelian Bear Dog on my leash, not a Teacup Poodle. I want to use my feminine wiles to seduce a manly man to willingly submit, not create what will quickly become some strange version of a little sister. I love being the kryptonite to a males ability to say no. His vanilla manly self makes me want to do that, take him down and both of us enjoy parts of ourselves the rest of the world misses.

This is just the way I am.

Have an awesome day.


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naughtylilgirl67
 
 Age: 25
 Johanesbeg, South Africa