This is perhaps an open letter as much as it is a blog entry- First I want to say thank you I was honored by all those who contacted me.  Things change rapidly sometimes.  Sometimes feelings are there but not for both parties, even as much as one tries and desires it.  This is not demeaning or negative to either party just the fit wasn’t right or even the effort wasn’t there.

Too often I have seen and perhaps even fallen victim to assumptions.   Don’t think that if  a Top contacts you , you are immediately owned or collared. Don’t think if a bottom contacts you that you immediately own them. 

For now I have found something, entered  a relationship  where I consider myself owned  and yes,  He considers Himself my owner- See it is mutual  and it happened  rather unexpectedly for both.  We are going to give it all of our effort to make it work.   So as much as I was trained and believe in being respectful  I still believe it is a two way street choices need to be respected  whether one likes them or not and an explanations and or  excuses  are not always  due.  Life happens both vanilla and D/s.