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I'm a friendly outgoing person, the kind of man who turns a bad situation into something positive, who makes you smile on a bad day, and a passionate protector always willing to help those close to me. I've a wide variety of unrelated interests with a constant quest for learning and new experiences.
I'm looking for a female, sub or slave, who is fully aware of the implications and wishes to be moulded to be the best and most submissive they can be. I would like to find someone I can get to know as a person, someone who believes there has to be a connection, that invisible spark, between two people otherwise whatever relationship exists between them will be shallow and unfulfilled. I am not looking for a play partner or anyone who is only looking for kink. Everyone has a vanilla life and I think it's just as important to share our vanilla lives and interests as it is our kinks and fetishes. Cuddles and kisses are just as important as collars, control and kink - there'll be lots of all of them from me.
I prefer people who are in themselves, very capable people, and simply choose to submit to the One who they look up to and respect, gained by building trust and understanding both ways. As TPE is a favourite of mine, you can expect control and discipline from an experienced, firm but fair Master. I'm also a seasoned sadist who's words or look can be just as cutting or hurtful as my whip or cane.
I will put you in your place but I will not put you down, I will discipline you but I will not dishearten you, I will correct you but I will not crush you, I will control you but I will not cramp your ability to flourish.
Being submissive is not a weakness and whereas treating someone like a worthless bitch may be a fun thing to do during a play session if both people enjoy that scenario, it is not and never should be the core of any dynamic between two people. Dominant, Switch or Submissive, you are still a person, a human being, and I will always treat you as such. I'm not interested in brats or power play games. If you have a need to submit, a desire to please and a longing to see the look, or feel the touch that says 'well done, you've pleased me' you could be the one I'm looking for.
I'm completely open about my ways and my lifestyle choice to family, friends and where appropriate, colleagues too, but I understand not everyone is able to be that open so all necessary discretion is assured.
I am looking for REAL TIME. If there's more than a basic interest or friendship I will voice and cam verify myself early on and expect you to do the same. I am not interested in endless emails and messages going nowhere. I've listed my interests here as much as it allows for, but there's a lot more to me than a tick box type list. Message me, talk to me, get to know me and see where it leads.
Age is nothing more than a number; personality, interests and outlook on life are far more relevant and defining than the number of years we've been on the earth so I don't have any fixed minimum or maximum age limits.
If you connect with me, you can expect an exciting and intense relationship in whatever form it takes, giving you as much pleasure and happiness as it does me.
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I saw this written by another Dom and with his permission, thought I'd share it on here.
Submission is not a Gift
We hear this a lot don’t we? Submissives who offer the “The gift of my submission.” Or Dominants who say they “Welcome the gift of your submission.” Or that they recognise “Your submission is a gift.”
I call bullshit on submission being a gift. Your submission is a gift as much as my Dominance is a Porsche, i.e. Not at all.
But before you start sharpening your pitchforks, and setting light to your torches, let me explain…
I’ve never, ever, been given the gift of someone’s submission. I have met, and talked to many submissives and here, shock horror, let me admit to something – not all of them have found me Dominant. My mojo, my particular way of doing things, my social grouping (and once the fact that she earned more than me) meant that my thing just didn’t do it for them. I couldn’t have Dominated them if I tried. I did try and, umm, well failed.
Oh my poor bruised ego.
The submissive woman who I have had relationships with say that I “have that thing” – the thing that “makes them feel submissive.” That’s not a gift, that’s a connection. I do have a thing – it’s true, but it doesn’t work on everyone. Mores the pity…
On the flipside, there are plenty of submissives I have met I wouldn’t touch with a bargepole wrapped in clingfilm being held by someone else. I had no connection with them – they felt submissive around me, and said so, but I wasn’t feeling it in return – so I stepped away. They weren’t trying to give me a gift, they were trying to feel that connection back from me – in the same way I failed with the submissives who don’t feel it with me – they failed.
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I don’t want your gift, I want you to feel it, I want you to be unable to stop yourself, I want you to hate yourself sometimes because one look from me will stop you in your tracks, I want your heart to beat faster when I walk in the room (and not because you’re scared I might find out where you’ve hidden your secret stash of chocolates). In those moments, you’re not giving me anything – you’re feeling it.
When you’re on your knees looking up at me I want to feel a swelling in my heart, and not just a swelling in my trousers, I want to feel protective, patriarchal, powerful and alliterative… I want to see you fearful, tearful, broken, beaten, driven and satiated. I want your inner whore and underground slut to leak out of your pores and I want to breathe in your submission like oxygen.
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The whole gift thing seems to be an exercise in self-delusion as much at it is an exercise in self-esteem. It’s a self-empowering and yet a busted flush of a statement - it’s one that tells you have control over your feelings of submission – that you are the one with the power in the relationship. Yes, and it’s a lie. You don’t. The power you have is to stay or go when you make a choice – but if you don’t feel submissive, then I’m not the your kind of Dominant and never was.
I don’t want a submissive who can turn her submission on and off like a tap. That doesn’t meet my criteria for a relationship – that might meet yours, and good luck to you – that’s not what I want. I don’t want you to choose to give your power up to me, all wrapped up and tied with a bow. If you do, make sure you give me the receipt as well, so I can go and change it for something I do want.
I want to feel undeniably connected to you - an intrinsic part of each other - and not just because you give me stuff. |
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| Age: 20 |
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Canada |
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