Why am I here?
Well I've come to see the US of the last 36-45 years as an utter failure. I think that the conditions that gave rise to feminism have a lot to do with it. I am not a religious conservative. However, I have to admit that conservative religious communities like the Mormons and Muslims have isolated themselves somewhat from the general rot in American culture.
I feel like the society I grew up in was a better culture that somehow got distracted-and a lot of the changes have to do with gender relations.
In college I actually identified with feminism at first. One of my classmate friends is now a prominent feminist lesbian author. The thing is, when I looked as objectively as I could, I came to the conclusion that her advice-and those of the writers she was inspired by messed up the lives of a lot of folks-so I started looking at alternatives.
I see the BDSM and D/s community as one of the few places where these sort of things can actually be discussed. I am NOT a misogynist. I truly love and respect submissive women-including submissive sluts. I found my experiences with such women at times to be truly inspiring.
Now, I worry a bit that there isn't a real Male Dominant community here in the BDSM world. I see a lot of folks trying to assemble harems-and some are having some success. I don't see a lot of vision though-or a plan to scale that into the larger culture.
I tend to think there were some positive things happening the 60's before feminism came on the scene. I would like to explore how those things might be fully developed in a future or within a community.
I tend to see getting away from the intellectual and moral restrictions of Christianity as having potential postive effects, but we need to consider what comes next?
I see feminism as a failed experiment in part because I don't think children have gotten the care they deserve as widely after the rise of feminism as before. The US has been moving more and more towards a culture in which wealth, social status, politica power and even paternity and sexual experience are more and more concentrated. That is not creating the kind of country-or the kind of world I want to see or that I think even most of those involved would want if they really thought about it carefully.
I do appreciate the concept of consent in relationships. What I think has happend along with the rise of feminism is a lot of women have been overwhelmed by a range of choices and attended responsibilties that the culture hasn't trained them to accept.
Birth control and containment of STD's have been a partial factor here. I see both of those as very positive things-but we haven't as a culture worked out how those really fit in. Add to that abortion, inexpensive paternity testing of children, technology to select the gender of children and the world is getting even more confusing for a lot of folks.
I suspect that a lot of traditional religions are going to crash and burn admist all these changes. Anyhow, I truly welcome contact with all those that want to seriously talk about these issues or other questions facing them in their lives.
|