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Dominant male looking for a submissive or slave for a long term relationship.
I am an educated, sophisticated man (not my words, but women have described me as such), with a responsible position who enjoys the arts, classical music, good wine, fine dining, superb cinema, theater and art galleries. I have a curious mind and am constantly reading about science, human behavior, and other non-fictional topics.
Smoking and drugs are issues for me. I would only take on a sub/slave if she doesn't smoke, or quits before moving in. Drugs are out for me as well, except for 420, which is legal in this state.
You will be intellectually challenged by a disciplinarian who knows how to set rules and expectations, reward good and punish bad behaviors.
I am single and have room in my life for a sub/slave who wants to serve while growing in the relationship. I'm most interested in someone open to relocation, available to move here and elsewhere should I find another position. I'm open to all ages, but am looking either for a woman who has no children and does not want any, or has raised her children and is free from the daily responsibility of child rearing.
My experience so far has been that younger women have fewer ties. If you're wondering why I chose a painting style portrait, send me a note and I'll explain.
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After reflecting on feedback from several people over the past few weeks, I've come to realize my profile fails to communicate my dominant nature and many woman have commented that I'm too vanilla. I will be working on this narrative to bring the full force of my nature to this site. While I've always been respectful in dealing with others, my desire for a sub/slave is driven by my desire for intense control over a female.
More to come soon.
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Decided to reactivate my search. As much as I tried to find a position in another city, fate conspires to keep me here so I'll try yet again to find someone to serve me. This life is a siren continuously beckoning me to her bosom. For those of you who have met me, please stay in touch. While my immediate plans are to stay in this area, you never know when I'll make another visit.
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It's been a tiring few days. I was able to meet with one of the ladies and I enjoyed the visit. I didn't realize how tired I was until I became aware of my confusion over our server! That was compounded yesterday evening when I mistook a classic Irish lass (red hair, lilting speech, freckles) for a Scot. My only feeble defense was that she only said a few words while she took my order. But, returning to the visit, several questions arose during the course of the conversation. I have some important decisions ahead of me.
The second lady never made our appointment due to a family emergency. It would have been a new experience for me but I'll have to wait for another day.
More family time over the next couple of days which is both energizing and exhausting. |
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Staring a short vacation and am looking forward to meeting a couple of women with whom I've been communicating. The driving starts soon!
I've been giving more thought to my wants and I'm settling on the slave end of the range. I'm looking for a woman who will make a one-time commitment to service and then not have a say with some provisos (breaking a hard limit, be exposed to intentional or unintentional harm). If you read this and have an opinion, I would welcome the feedback. |
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Tough day at the office yesterday. These are the days that coming home to a sub/slave to provide some extra special service would ease the tensions from the corporate world. Leaving for a short vacation soon and looking forward to drinks and dinner with a lovely lady with whom I've been exchanging email and phone calls for a few weeks. |
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== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
100% Dominant
96% Master/Mistress
94% Owner
91% Non-monogamist
89% Bondage giver
89% Experimentalist
85% Degradation giver
78% Primal (Hunter)
77% Daddy/Mommy
76% Brat tamer
75% Sadist
74% Voyeur
45% Ageplayer
30% Exhibitionist
20% Switch
18% Vanilla
10% Masochist
2% Primal (Prey)
1% Submissive
1% Bondage receiver
0% Pet
0% girl/boy
0% Brat
0% Degradation receiver
0% Slave
0% All-Rounder
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CS has been having some stability problems today - I'm surprised it doesn't have more for a free service. That's a testament to the site owner and their commitment to supporting this lifestyle. |
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I've been putting thought into what my needs are as a dominant male and what I'm looking for in a sub/slave. I've read several essays on the difference between sub/slave and beginning to get a clearer idea of what I want. Defining my needs and wants is a little more difficult, but I'm making progress. I will begin adding those to my profile to help narrow my search. |
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My education continues! I enjoyed a satisfying experience with a sub where we focused on more eroticism rather than pain. By the end of the first hour, she was so aroused that the slightest touch sent shivers across her body, almost like a low electric shock. A caress of the nipple almost brought her to release. It's deeply fulfilling to control a woman's sexual desire so completely and it helps build the bond between submissive and Dom. This is the type of bond I want with my eventual 24/7 sub/slave. I'm still wrestling with the sub/slave continuum and where I want the lady to fall. |
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I'm meeting with a sub tonight to continue her training. I've encountered several submissive women in the past few days and am enjoying getting to know their individual desires and fantasies. I am getting a clearer picture of what I'm looking as I meet each new lady. I hope that one remote sub will make a commitment to me today - we've been exploring this for a few days. It will be exciting to engage her remotely and bring order and discipline into her life. I have also met some ladies who live in far off, exotic places (ok, Canada isn't that far-off or exotic) who seek the comfort of a firm male hand.
Sadly, I encounter some women who begin strong, then quickly and suddenly vanish from my world without explanation. That's the biggest frustration. Even a brief message saying they are considering other people is fine, at least I know. The abrupt end to conversations is disappointing. |
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My social life has gone from dismal to exhausting in the past few months. When I re-entered this world, I wasn't sure if I would find compatible submissive women. I was familiar with pro-Dommes who had no shortage of submissive men. I've since discovered that there are far more submissive women who want the comfort of a strong male in their lives. My dominant side continues to emerge, both in my personal life and in my professional life. Each day teaches me a little more. |
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I continue to tweak my profile to share more of my interests and desires. I find many interesting subs and slaves on the site, with a more than a desirable share of scam artists. I am being patient with myself, taking time to define what type of person I want to meet, clearly stating what activities interest me and which don't. I've been working on defining my needs from the relationship and better understanding what I can give. In the meantime, I'm finding some play partners where I can enjoy the skills I have and learn new ones. |
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I met up with a highly experienced slave this week. While we mutually agreed that we were not right for each other at this point in lives, I learned something from her and her wisdom. We realized our worst case scenario - we each have a new friend. Her words as a lifestyle slave will help me form a clearer picture of myself as a Dom. Over the next few days and weeks, I'll continue to tune my profile based on the wisdom she shared. I've also been in contact with some wonderful submissive ladies and am looking forward to meeting them. |
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| Age: 25 |
| Clifton,
California |
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