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  SearchingAndHopi

 Female Slave

 Palm Coast

 Florida

 49 miles

 5'1"

 185 lbs

 40

 Bisexual

 Caucasian

 08/12/05

 08/19/08
 
Actively Seeking:

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Friends Only

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PLEASE: NO MARRIED MEN! (Unless Your other half is a Domme and it can be proven You're looking as a Couple)

I'm no longer posting journal entries here, because of the problems with the editor. If you want to see my latest journal entries, please go to: http://122-406-176.livejournal.com/

A Respectful Note: I have a chronic illness and cannot relocate. Please don't waste Your time, if You feel You cannot handle both of these issues. Also, please note: i've changed my mail parameters. If you're over 53 or under 36, and don't receive an answer, you've likely been sorted into bulk mail. i *do* read bulk mail, but far less frequently.

A Bit About Me

I'm well-educated and well-read. I'm also very intelligent with wide interests that range outside of BDSM. Cooking, fine arts, computers, gothic culture, game development, swimming, horses, videography, philosophy, spirituality, magic, conversation, fantasy/science fiction conventions, roller skating, biking, camping, fishing, roleplaying, board and card games and travel are just a few.

I'm as happy dressed as a goth at three-day convention, as I am dressed in silk and touring a museum opening. I love the ballet and theatre, nightclubs, and bars. I like bowling and billiards, and am comfortable in almost any costume.

I had my first "experience" at 14, became a submissive at 18, and have been a slave for something less than that. (Officially, that is. I think I've always been a slave in my heart.) I've tasted a great many things, and have a joyous desire to know those things more fully. My fantasies are rich and highly-detailed, and involve many things I haven't tried yet.

I'm very intellectual and my mind is probably the most important organ in my submission. Capture my mind, and the body and heart will follow. If you cannot touch my mind, my heart may be yours, but my submission never will.

There are many people who I could bend a knee to, but only a strong Man will be able to keep me there.

I'm a lady in the true, classical sense. I know which fork to use, and how to talk with people from all walks of life. I rarely raise my voice, even in anger (and certainly never to my Master). I was raised to be old-fashioned, and I've never cared to work out of the house. I like to concentrate my attention on my loved ones and take my pride in keeping an excellent home - one of comfort and joy for a Master to return to. I love to be a lady on the outside and a whore for my Master underneath. I'm a mix of contradictions and all of them can be fun.

I'm an eclectic in all my tastes. My musical interests are varied, as is my lust for life, my taste for BDSM, the various fetishes I find amusing, and the food that I eat. I am adaptable, and find it no hardship to be a vegetarian (although I'd never want to be a vegan - I like cheese too much) or a meat-eater; it's not a difficulty for me to learn to cook and eat different foods.

I'm tiny and in need of a bit of maintenance, but a patient Master could easily have the girl of His dreams, if He put forth a small effort. I want to be a 24/7 slave.
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A Bit About What I'm Looking For

The Man of my dreams will never yell or shout. He will understand when I test my boundaries, and will punish swiftly and without hesitation. He will treat me like an animal and an object, but will love me because I am those things. I will be beautiful and wonderful and special in His eyes, like a cherished painting; but He will use me as effectively as a favorite drill or a beautiful sports car.

He will understand the many aspects of punishment, and the relative correlation with tears. He will know that it is not activity, but intention and emotion that creates the difference between punishment and play, and will use those tools to great effect. He will be observant, come to understand my nature, and will see that my tears are also based on intention and emotion, and not necesarilly activity. He will see such tears as a gift - proof that I am putting my entire self into my submission, no matter how difficult.

He will train me thoroughly to His ways, teaching me His preferred modes of behavior, putting me through my paces and showing me His likes, dislikes, loves and desires. He will teach me patiently, understanding my limitations, but establishing His own methods for working around them. He will know - intuitively - that my submission must be taken, His dominance proven, in order for it to be real. He will not need to put on airs or use showy displays of strength, strength of will and an iron hand covered in a velvet glove will be sufficient.

Mental domination will be His greatest game, and He will have a full arsenal of tools. He will handle me as a surgeon handles a well-respected patient, carefully excising away the undesirable behaviors, while retaining the meat and personality which makes me unique in my existence.

He will value sensual suffering, and understand that without such situations, I become tense and agitated. He will know when to beat me, when to use me hard, and when to make me suffer, so that my mind is always clear and my spirit is always strong.

Ours will be a living, breathing relationship. It will adapt over time, grow slowly and the thorns will be as much a part of it as the beautiful red rose. There will never be any question who is Master, and there will never be a moment, a breath or a thought that doesn't reflect I am a possession.

The connection between us will be deep. Almost as if two beings share one breath. This is as it should be, as without an Owner, even a treasured possession is worthless; and similarly, without an object to own, an Owner or Master has no purpose. We will exist in a world of romance, punishment, obeisance, mental domination and utter bliss. (At least that's the hope!) ;)
 
 

 
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2/14/2008 6:57:29 AM [Report Entry]
This journal app is completely messed up.  Every time i make an entry, it enters it twice.  i made the essay, and it didn't format it.  i posted another journal, asking for help with the formatting, and it didn't even post THAT entry. 

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2/14/2008 6:55:22 AM [Report Entry]
BAH!  i have tried for over an hour to get the journal to accept some form of formatting.  It's practically illegible.  i've also used THREE different browsers, wondering if that was the issue.  i can use returns and formatting to my heart's content, it shows none of it.  i can edit in an editor with formatting and bring it in - nothing.  i can use an HTML editor and include the tags - nothing!

Does anyone have any idea why this happens or how i can fix it?  My essay, below, is too hard to read like this! 

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2/14/2008 6:53:41 AM [Report Entry]
An Essay on Objectification(Copyright to me.  If you find my words enticing, and want to use them for any reason, please ask.)i've been thinking a lot about objectification and dehumanization.  A lot of people don't understand these issues, or why they would matter to someone.  In many cases, they see it as a lack of self-esteem.  Nothing could be farther from the truth.
Like most things, it's a fetish.  Mental fetishes are a little harder to follow than physical ones, and that makes them quite a bit harder to explain.  They are no less real, or powerful than physical fetishes; and for some people - like me - they are, in fact, far *more* powerful.
Objectification, treating a person like an object, and dehumanization, which usually refers to treating a person like an animal, are two aspects of the same thing.  Personally, i prefer objectification to dehumanization - mostly because the latter often is confused with bestiality (a situation i'll explain later).  There are some aspects of dehumanization that are intriguing, however.
Both fetishes are a way of disconnecting a person from their humanity, or more accurately, from their sense of being a person.  The main benefit, is a deeper drop into "subspace" as people like to call it.  i've identified as a slave for almost all of my life.  i don't see BDSM as being a switch that's turned on and off, where one moment i'm BDSM and the next i'm vanilla.  i see BDSM as a valve.  One minute, the floodgates of BDSM are open, and vanillism is reduced to a trickle; the next, the opposite is true.  Both aspects are intertwined within me, and it's only response to stimuli, and appropriateness which govern how they manifest.  The example i like to use, is that i am always a daughter.  i was born to parents, how could i not be a daughter?  It is part of who i am.  i never cease to be a daughter.  However, i do not act like a daughter to everyone, only to my parents.  Nor do i overtly act like a daughter to them, in situations where it would be inappropriate to do so.
i am always a slave, even when i do not overtly act like a slave.  My actions are governed by what i consider to be appropriate; and basic respect for all living things.  And, just a note about respect before i continue: i believe that *everyone* deserves to be shown respect initially.  Everyone deserves at least some respect until they have proven otherwise.  i afford all Dominants the courtesy of Sir and/or Ma'am, until they have proven they don't fit into either category; or until the Dominant in question asks me not to do so.  My intention is to show respect without making anyone feel uncomfortable, and that includes *myself*.  Therefore, do *not* expect that i will call You Master or Lord or Great High Poobah, if You are not my Master, Lord or Great High Poobah.  There's a difference between showing courtesy and respect for Your Dominant nature, and *deferring* to You.  i will not defer, bow, scrape, or be sexually active with You on a first meeting, or any meeting thereafter, until i know You very well.
Okay, now that the segue is over, we now return you to our regularly scheduled program, lol.
From a slave's perspective, O/D (as i'll call it for simplicity) makes a slave feel the Master's power more strongly.  It's a mental shift, where the Master or Mistress become more powerful in the slave's mind.  For those of us who require a really strong Dominant, this serves to reinforce the Master's strength in our minds, on a daily basis.  O/D does reduce us, in a sense; and this is where many people erroneously come to believe it derives from a lack of self esteem.  In some ways, it increases the mental distance between Master and slave, because the slave is smaller, more helpless.  However, and i cannot stress this strongly enough, it does *not* signify a lack of caring or devotion by either party.  It doesn't mean the Master respects the slave less, or that the slave is less important. 
The slave is an object, belonging to an Owner.  Like a car or a bed, the slave is meant to be used by the Owner, but also cared for by the Owner.  It's a symbiotic relationship of a different nature.  Think about all of the objects in your life.  Everything is an object - the door, the light, the car, the bed, the building, the stove.. where would you be without these things?  You'd survive, but you'd be a lot less-happy.  You take care of these things, because if you don't, they break and can no-longer serve their function.
There's a big word - "function".  i long-ago accepted that my function in this world would be different, and less-understood and well-accepted than that of others.  i believe the dependency between a Master or Mistress, and a slave, is a Good Thing.  That it fosters an intimacy that cannot be found elsewhere.  Almost all of my fetishes revolve around the mental aspect of highlighting that intimacy, making it a great and powerful thing, and strengthening it.
Objectification helps with that.  It removes me from my person-ness.  It makes me feel like something less than human - and something more.  i am smaller than my Owner, more helpless.  i have a basic need to be guided, directed, controlled, because i *am* an object.  My objectness is an inherent part of my nature.  i take great delight in specific situations where this is highlighted - speech restrictions, small rituals, rubber or other play that removes outward aspects of my humanity for a time.  These are things i revel in, and require.  i do best with an Owner who understands and utilizes these things well.  That is not to say i *demand* these things, because it is not in my nature to demand anything. 
However, making me feel like something other than human, does not remove the fact that i *am* human.  i have basic human needs for respect, comfort, food, and love.  i do not demand anything, but i do better, serve more fully, am happier and healthier if i have an Owner who sees to those needs - in the same way that He or She would care for a pet, or take care of other assets that they own.
As for self-esteem, a need to be objectified does *not* indicate that i am willing to be objectified by just anyone.  It doesn't mean that i'll use silly speech restrictions, just because a person has IM'd me for the first time, and thinks they'll impress me by demanding them.  It doesn't mean i'll become someone's slave on the first day, or do anything differently in my initial interactions than i would do if i'd met the person anywhere else - the grocery store, a pub, a classroom.  It doesn't mean that i'll allow myself to be abused, or that i'll stay with someone who doesn't value me or see to my needs.
Once i relinquish control to a person, it's total.  Complete.  You get everything, so i hope you're expecting everything.  i hope that my Owner will want to hear my opinions on things, and will ask for them; but my Owner will have the last say in everything.  i don't do things in half-measures.  i'm either Owned or unOwned.  i won't afford a person the privileges of my Owner, until they *are* my Owner.
As an unOwned slave, i do things by the dictates of my conscience.  i stay true to my slave nature, while not permitting myself to be used as a quick fix to the "hard" problem, that so many men have.  i'm not here to be a one-minute sex chat, or to arouse anybody.  That's not my job.  Yet.  Once we've talked, negotiated, gotten to know each other, and i'm offered a formal position of some kind, then and ONLY then is it my job.  And you'd better believe i'll be *good* at it.