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	In the vanilla world I enjoy movies, bowling, poker, video games, walks in nature, and role play games. I have the reputation of a gentleman in the vanilla world. I treat women with respect and admiration, but have realized I have certain desires that must be sated. I believe in a two way street relationship. I understand that submission is a choice and that respect and trust must be earned before that choice is made. I also am going to be upfront that I don't have much experience as a Dom. I am more book smart when it comes to all this. I know what I want and that's some control to be given up to me. How much control? That is a long negotiation between Dom and sub. Ultimately a sub/slave would get both collar and ring from me. I am genuinely seeking a sub/slave who will be as much a sub/slave as they are a lover and a friend. I am not interested in merely a play partner, however it could start there. "Straight time" is also very important to me because it allows the Dom and sub to speak as equals and gives the sub a chance to voice her opinion. It is also critical to discuss new things to try. I am also a bit of an oxymoron in a sense. I believe that every once in a great while it is important that a Dom shows a sub how much the sub is truly appreciated. I would do this by doing something for her that makes her feel like my equal not my sub/slave. I would however ask that some agreed upon rules are still followed depending on the situation. I am good person and was brought up to believe in the golden rule "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." I have realized however that I enjoy that feeling of being served. There is no greater gift that a sub can give to a Dom then to submit to him and I believe that wholeheartedly. I like to spice things up every now with some role play scenes. EVERYTHING ABSOLUTELY ABSOLUTELY ABSOLUTELY MUST BE COMPLETELY AND 100% CONSENSUAL I have 25 guidelines that I would expect to be followed, which I will send you if you wish to learn more. Females only please by both gender AND sex

10/21/2009 12:35:29 PM

Affirmaation of a Dom

I have decided that my only route to find true happiness is to take control of every aspect of my life. That includes my finances, my body, my job, and eventually take control of a submissive in the BDSM lifestyle. I have a long hard road ahead of me but I will NOT quit I will not falter and I will achieve what I must to find happiness. I understand that complete and total control is not possible but life is a journey not a destination.

I have also decided recently that in order to be a better Dom that I must be willing to be a submissive with a Domme Top for a time. I must understand things from a submissive's point of view in order to be a more successful Dom. I do not however have any interest in being a permamant male slave/sub as I am truly a Dom at heart.