Slowly sorting the wheat from the chaff.................

It would appear that there are a large number of people on this site who believe that the words 'sub' and 'slave' mean the same thing, whereas, in reality, nothing could be further from the truth. It is not about how 'extreme' you are or about how much you like frequent, rough sex with multiple partners. It is about how much you need to give, how much control you are willing and able to surrender to your Owner.

Another thing worth mentioning, although it seems blindingly obvious to me, is that there are bound to be far more people on the submissive side of the / than those who are dominant. Study of any social animal will prove that, whatever the statistics on here seem to indicate. I know that any female on this site, whatever her declared orientation, will be swamped with messages everytime she signs on. That is the way of places such as this, resign yourself to it and deal with it. After all, you placed the 'ad' didn't you? Take your time, make the effort and establish who is a) real and b) dominant. Don't be too hasty to dismiss one line messages, they may be simply a way of resolving a potential issue and to avoid wasting your time and his. Try to respond to all messages, even if it is just ' no thanks'. There are far too many impolite people here already and a slave shouldn't allow herself to descend to their level. Remember always that the assessment of compatibility is a two way thing, assuming that it is genuine