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Note: If you're contacting me wanting to serve me or be owned by me, please tell me in your message what you bring to the table as a submissive. Mind, this does not mean a fetish list, but instead what your strong points are and how you would be of service. ... Obviously, this does not come before an introduction.
Hello, everyone. As the profile states, my name is Harra, and I live in the East side of Arizona.
I'm very open to meeting people, so if you're approaching me on here, I'd appreciate if you be open to meeting as well, as I'll usually try to meet people in the first few weeks. I tend to like dining a lot, but also am fond of coffee-houses, because they have a more relaxed atmosphere that is appropriate for meeting people in.
I'm also very big into service submission, which ends up meaning a lot of things, but if you let yourself be used for purposes of domestic services, event accompaniment, and tea service, I'm sold. (Heck, sometimes service is as simple as keeping me company whilst I'm sewing, or something similar.) Essentially, I like to be around people often, and don't like going to events alone.
To be clear, there is a widely-regarded stereotype about Dominant women, specifically the "Bitch Goddess" stereotype: Cold, aloof, and seemingly uncaring and apathetic to their submissives. While I do not disrespect anyone who adheres to this stereotype, it is not me in the slightest. I prefer to be warm and inviting to people, and even my sadism come from a place of genuine care (and other times impish amusement, since I'm usually laughing during play.) To me, BDSM should be about having fun, and trying to be cold and aloof just isn't fun for me. So if you've come to talk to me expecting me to be this stereotype, please go elsewhere, because this is not the Domly-sort you're looking for.
However, this does not mean that I will put up with one's bullshit-- especially to people over the internet whom I've not even met. Please understand that I owe you nothing just by benefit of being on the internet. I will continue to show basic courtesy, but if you're looking for someone to metaphorically get your rocks off over text or similar, please kindly move along.
Another thing that is a big concern for me is meeting up and meeting as often as reasonable. Because of this, I prefer people live close to me, or are at least able to make regular trips out to where I am. If this is not possible, then, again, this is not the Domly-sort you're looking for.
I should also mention that I have absolutely no interest in an online-only relationship. Please don't even ask, because the answer is no. Now, if you live outside of Arizona, but are soon moving to Arizona, then by all means come and talk to me, and I can tell you about the local community some. In turn, I am also celibate by choice, so any relationships I am involved with are completely nonsexual. (Mind, this doesn't include play, but any play I'm involved with does not involve genitals. Anyone who is in service to me would be allowed to have sexual partners with my permission. Just because sex isn't a necessity for me doesn't mean that's the case for everyone else.) - Update: While I am still mostly chaste, I have been working through a few mental roadblocks and may be open to sexual contact in the future. However, it has to be someone I manage to trust quite a bit before letting them into that part of my life.
Note: Please don't ever call me Mistress. I hate how that sounds when applied to me. I prefer to be called Harra, or "Lady Harra" if you need to use a title.
If you have any questions, please let me know, but for now, I'll add things into my profile as they become relevant.
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... Truly, the way to a Harra's heart might well be through soft and cuddly plush dolls.
And boo to anyone who says that isn't Domly. |
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Well, my birthday happens to be coming up this month. (The 23rd of this April, to be precise.) I'm hoping it goes over well~ |
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... Since everyone seems to be taking these tests, here are my stats:
== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/
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96% Master/Mistress
80% Non-monogamist
80% Primal (Predator)
80% Primal (Prey)
80% Sadist
75% Experimentalist
75% Masochist
73% Bondage Giver
71% Bondage Receiver
71% Switch
66% Dominant
65% Degradation Giver
59% Daddy/Mommy
54% Voyeur
50% Exhibitionist
50% Girl/Boy
35% Pervert
34% Vanilla
28% Brat Tamer
25% Submissive
15% Brat
8% Slave
4% All-Rounder
0% Degradation Receiver
See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.?id=91617
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If You Want to Serve Princess Harra:
Disclaimer/Note: First of all, while this is written in my more amusing and whimsical style, the content is true to heart. I'm not too difficult to get along with (at least that's what I've been told), but I'm certainly different than what a lot of people find, or have in mind. Because of this, I've learned to be open and extremely honest about who I am and what I do. Doing this tends to save a lot of headache and heartache in the long run. Some may call me picky or demanding after reading this list, and to that I say "And your point is?" I'm not expecting someone to do every single thing on this list (nor would I want them to, everything on here is a lot of work for one person!) But I expect someone to understand that the things I write are a big part of who I am, and are important to keep in mind.
... So this is equal parts "Here's what you need to know about Harra" and "Here's what you can do to win her heart (or her flogger)". See? I don't make anyone do those crazy guessing games, because I don't like guessing games.
So, without further adieu:
If you want to serve Princess Harra, you should know that you're going down the rabbit hole into Wonderland, that most of the expected "rules" are being defenestrated at an alarming rate, and it's only going to keep happening. When in doubt, the best rule is "Ask Princess Harra", because when it comes to navigating this strange new world, she's going to be the best guide you have.
Passion is important. Passions are what make the world turn, and are the source of many delightful things that remind us that life is worth living. Beauty comes from passion, goodness comes from passion, and excellence comes from passion. It doesn't matter if you and the Princess Harra are passionate about the same thing, as long as there's passion in your heart for something, it can be directed into passion for something you both enjoy.
Princess Harra has many passions of her own, and most of these will come up at least once. Do not be surprised if she suddenly starts yammering about a new novel idea or something similar. It will pass in a few moments.
There are and will always be others. Other lovers, other submissives, other play partners, other friends. This doesn't mean that Princess Harra loves you any less, in fact, it means that she loves you more. She loves you enough to not want to heap all of her expectations and activities on you. It means that she loves you the way you are. It also means that she loves many, and that with each person in her life, her love for everyone in her life only multiplies and becomes greater.
Spirituality is important to her, and she devotes a lot of her time to it. This doesn't mean you need to be spiritual, and you definitely don't need to believe as she does, but it means that you would do well not to mock what she does. If you want to partake, she'll accept you with open arms and guide you into her practices, but if you don't want to, she is just as happy to let you observe without joining.
"Tribute" has plenty of meanings, but to Princess Harra, it tends to come down to "If you really want to tribute me, then take me for tea or let me run amok in the local fabric store." Better to provide fun experiences that both of you will remember for years as opposed to just throwing money about. Impersonality is never fun!
When in doubt: Housecleaning and tea. Nothing bad has ever happened that involves housecleaning and tea.
Play is important, but it does not take the forefront in the relationship. Princess Harra is a most devious creature, and playtime starts if and only if she's feeling impish enough to initiate. You can always make suggestions, but only she determines what and when.
Halfheartedness has no place in this new world. If you are not fully committed, then you should not be here, for it will only cause you pain and suffering for all involved. Be confident in what you do, and it will lend well to your success.
Littles have a special place in her heart. Princess Harra herself is a Little, and spends a lot of time in those circles. If she calls you with a high-pitched voice and is talking at a mile a minute, she might be in Little space. The answer to this is copious application of tea and other goodies, but do not risk taking her on a shopping trip, it might prove disastrous for all involved! (And disastrous on one's pocketbook.)
This list will be added to at any juncture that it seems apropos to do so. Until then, farewell, and good luck with Princess Harra! |
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My normal (but ideal) day.
First off, I wake up at a somewhat reasonable hour (anytime before noon), and I'm greeted by my submissive with a glass of water. A lot of people want coffee in bed, but I prefer water, since my throat is awfully dry in the morning. At this point, halfway through the glass, I sit up.
"Slaveboy, my dear, what is the agenda for today?"
"Today you have a client coming in at 1:00 PM, and another at 3:00 PM. So a pretty light day. Otherwise there aren't any plans written down."
"Excellent. Put something nice on the griddle in a half hour, alright?"
At that point I get showered and dressed and whatnot. I never eat immediately after waking up (since my body doesn't like to digest anything for at least a half hour to an hour after I've woken up). Then breakfast. At that point, it's more about casual conversation than anything. I mean, by that point we've been living together for a few years, although ideally conversations haven't run dry. I might have tasked my submissive to research a topic the night before and then educate me on what he's (or she's, I like both, but for instructive purposes I'll use "he") learned. That way conversation never runs dry, and I get a chance to learn a new topic.
So after breakfast, he or both of us clear away the dishes, and then I go to prep for the client. Since this is my ideal (yet normal) life, I've somehow managed to sell my skills as a psychic, and have clients coming into my home for readings and to seek advice and whatnot. The downside is that psychic work takes a good deal of preparation and getting into a right headspace, so at that point I'd be back off in my room for some alone time (or singing time, or talking to any of my deities).
Ideally, if my submissive doesn't have work in an office or elsewhere outside of the house, he'll work from home. Around when I'm seeing clients is when he'd be doing this-- off in another room as to not disturb my readings, mind. That way we're both being productive and contributing to the house's income.
After the work day is done, there's afternoon tea. At this rate, if he or I haven't made goodies already, I'll quickly make a couple of scones, and then have tea-- either alone, or served by him, depending on whether or not his work is done yet. A couple of hours after tea is dinner, and we'll either go out, or stay in and he cooks (since I can't cook very well, nor should I be trusted around hot surfaces and sharp objects. I'm horrifically clumsy and have already had a few accidents in the kitchen.) So he cooks, we eat, and there's more conversation. If I'm feeling more sociable than not, I'll invite a couple of friends over and have a casual get-together. If I'm not, then it's just us two.
After dinner, he (or both of us) clears the dishes away, and runs the washer for the evening. I'd likely retire to my room to work on a sewing project, or a novel, or whatever other creative pursuit I've got my eye on at this time. At this point, if there are any chores left to do in the day, he'll do them, and if not, he's more than welcome to join me and keep me company whilst I work.
Then, we both retire off to our bedrooms, and go to bed. Lather. Rinse. Repeat.
And you've got my normal (but ideal) day. |
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| Age: 22 |
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