I feel bad for those on here who are simply looking for some fun or more experience and have to sort through the inevitable "instant dom" mentality that some who call them selves doms exhibit.  I don't believe one can lay claim to a sub or slave until they are comfortable with you and give themselves to you.  That cannot happen if a dom places demands from the get go such as "Get on your knees for me slut!".  A submissive should certainly learn to be respectful, but respect don't necessarily translate into immediately calling me master.  Respect means they are open and honest with me; they respond to my questions; they share their fears and hopes.  That is the only way I know to build any kind of decent relationship with a submissive.  If I expect them to hand over control of themselves to me, I must respect them as a person.