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| Submissives (or switches!) only, please!
I say this later but I've come to realize that some things are worth repeating. Be honest. Tell me the truth. I'm not playing games; show me the same respect, please.
I'm only interested in submissive partners -- I'm a lot more likely to respond to women (bio or M2F) than I am to men because I tend to be weighted toward women more, but I'm not adverse to finding another man to play with, especially someone who meets my kinks and can hold an intelligent conversation. Right now, I am definitely more interested in finding a lovely lady to share time with.
To explain my profile picture -- I make jewelry -- handmade, one of a kind, and delicate. While I have pictures of myself that I could post, the other job (the one that isn't artistic) isn't kink-friendly. I'd like to continue to have that job. So my picture gets to be a pretty picture of jewelry. Want to know what it is? Ask. I'm thinking I'm going to change it from time to time, just for my own amusement.
As well as being dominant and sadistic, I'm also poly. If you're looking to be someone's one and only, I'm not going to be able to meet your needs and everyone will end up unhappy until it ends in flames and tears. If you are poly or think you can be, then we can give it a whirl and see where things end up.
If you aren't poly and won't even play with someone who is, please tell me in one of our first messages. While I'm still interested in friends, it might help me avoid that moment of surprised disappointment when I find out otherwise about something I thought might be a possibility. I don't like surprised disappointment. It isn't a fun feeling.
I'm not looking for any serious relationships right now -- my husband is my best friend. With that said, I'm also not not-looking. While I'm primarily looking for the potential for play partners and friends, if things turn out a different way, I'm not going to go 'oh, well, we love each other, but no, thank you.' Being poly leaves me open to the possibilities, even if I'm not actively seeking the possibilities.
I'm looking for people that I can have an intelligent conversation with. I'm also looking for people that I can play with and have fun with, using many different meanings for the words play and fun. I'm not looking for just sex and nothing else. I'm also not looking for a deep committed relationship. (See above, please.)
I'm getting a lot of messages -- I'm responding to some and not to others. If I don't respond to you, it may be that I didn't have time. It also be that I glanced at your profile and nothing caught my interest or that your email seemed rather generic -- or, worse, presumptuous.
I am not your Mistress. I am dominant -- I'm not your dominant. There is currently one person who has the right to call me Mistress and Lady. Please don't presume to that right until you've been given it.
Always be honest with me, even if you think it's an honesty that I'm not going to want to hear. I'd rather have the painful honesty than the easy truth -- one I can handle and get past. The other will break my trust when I find out. Not if -- when. If you start lying, it's only a matter of time until it comes out. Without trust, friendship is damaged. Without trust, any kind of D/s relationship is completely impossible. If you don't tell me anything that isn't the truth, you don't ever have to try to remember what you told me, and that just makes things easier all around.
Please note -- I am overly fond of English. I like grammar and proper spelling and punctuation. I've decided in the last few days that particularly egregious offenses against English will be graded for the same conventions that I use in grading the papers of 4th graders and returned to the sender for corrections. Upon submission of a second, corrected draft, further conversation can ensue.
I'm kidding. Mostly. About the grading. Not about liking things to be spelled correctly and punctuated correctly.
Intelligence is a turn-on. Geeks are sexy. People who have picked up a book this week and read it are sexy. Read more books this year than you can count? Awesome. Do you have a list of books you want to read on goodreads that's as long as mine? Even better. I once told someone that a great courting gift for me is an obscure fairy tale or legend and I wasn't really kidding. Find one I haven't heard or a modern version/retelling of a classic. Or even better, a retelling of an obscure fairy tale. Talk to me about Grimm and Once Upon a Time and what mythology the shows are drawing on and how they compare to one another. It'll get my interest faster than a list of sex stuff. Sex stuff is a dime a dozen -- interesting submissives who really get that being submissive isn't the same as being a doormat? Not so much.
I love to read and my Kindle Fire is one of my favorite things in the world. I love fantasy and fairy tales. Did I mention fairy tales? I also love horror movies and crime dramas and lots of other things.
I play RPGs badly -- I'll probably finish Chrono Cross on my Playstation around the point that the next ice age begins, and that's if I'm lucky.
I've been involved in the scene for enough years that it makes me feel like getting out the walker, until I remember that I really did get involved in kink right from the get-go.
Risk-aware consensual is a given -- nothing in life is completely safe, but I operate as safe as possible within the boundaries of being deeply sadistic.
Today, my favorite word is myomancy. Tomorrow, who knows.
I'm sure I'll add more and change this as things come to mind.
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