Have been in the lifestyle since '91. Ultimate goal is a successful triad relationship with a female sub or slave. I've made 2 attempts in the past. The first lasted just a few months, the next lasted almost 4 years. I've learned a lot from those past experiences, particularly how NOT to go about things.

I've learned that the first year is the most difficult. And that goes for all parties involved. I've also learned that some people seek a triad simply to have other people raise their kids and take care of them while they lay around the house all day doing nothing. If that's you, then look elsewhere.

A triad relationship is no different in terms of commitment than any other type of relationship. If you have kids, you have to participate in raising them. If you're only in it for sex, you are wasting your time (and theirs). Joining a triad solely for sex is like buying an airplane just to get free peanuts. The emotional costs far exceed any gratification received and you wind up losing in the end.

However, if you are looking for a husband and a best friend (both of which are also your lovers), then a triad might just be what you are searching for.

Its not for everybody, but those that can adapt usually find a type of happiness that cannot be duplicated under any other circumstances. Where else can you obtain a leader, provider, teacher, lover, support group, best friend and caretaker, all in a one package deal?