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Gryphonheart

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~~STOP! READ MY PROFILE BEFORE MESSAGING ME!~~ I am a mid-twenties artist, exploring my interests in the kink community. I identify more as a bottom than a submissive, but CM didn't have an option for that. I am mainly here to browse groups, and forum topics, although I am open to talking to people as well. I try to be open, but tend to be shy, so here's a little bit about me: I'm a nerd, basically. I like tabletop gaming, online gaming, and computer gaming. I love comic books, and anime. I love conventions more than anything else; I love working at them, hanging out with fellow nerds, and dressing up. I enjoy drawing, writing stories and poetry, and I am very much into European metal music. I also really like cuttlefish. I enjoy being a bit different, hence the hair color. I'm pretty laid back for the most part, and try to enjoy the little things. I am unfortunately cynical in a lot of areas, although I am working on that. I'm kind of introverted, and as such, I'm not really a big social butterfly. I meet a lot of people working at conventions, but I am terrible with remembering names or how I met someone. I am a bit OCD about being polite, and not offending people, which clashes sometimes with me trying to be myself and not care about opinions. Music is a big part of my life. I can't really imagine a day where I don't listen to music at all. I think it would be awful if I ever went deaf. I enjoy comparing music tastes with people, although I am not too big on country or rap. I really like my choice fandoms, and by that, I mean cosplay, conventions, fanfiction, and collecting silly things. I also spend a decent amount of time at home on tumblr, giggling at GIF files, and reblogging cool things. RANDOM FACTS! I don't believe in matching socks. I don't really like the hipster thing. I love video games and coffee and music. I am a fan of wine and chocolate. I love unnatural hair colors. I enjoy doing various crafts, as well as playing dress-up and going out. I enjoy burlesque and other vaudeville-feel sideshow type things. Fire and glitter, yeah! :D I enjoy pleasing others. Whether it be in my relationships, or just doing something nice for someone, I enjoy giving smiles and happiness to those I care about. I am somewhat new to the BDSM community, and have been trying new things whenever I get the chance, to see what I like and don't like. So far, I have really enjoyed being in the community, making friends, and meeting people. I think it has enhanced my life in a positive way, and helped me to express myself, so I look forward to more of that in the years to come. :) As to appearance, I change my hair color more than Baskin-Robbins changes flavors, am slightly heavier, and have the general shape of Faye from Questionable Content. I have an interesting fetish for hands. I am mildly obsessed with them, I love photography of hands, love to draw them, and generally choose partners/significant others whose hands I find attractive. In the kink community, I really enjoy bondage, and err towards the masochistic side.


DO NOT MESSAGE ME IF:


~ your message includes text-speak


~ you sexually objectify me


~ you use words like "baby," "sweetheart," "honey," "gorgeous," "beautiful," when addressing me. Unless I give you my real name, my username is how I prefer to be addressed.
~ your message suggests that you want sex from me


~ within your first message you tell me to ask things about you

I DON'T RESPOND TO THESE THINGS BECAUSE:


~ Text-speak is ANNOYING. If you don't want to take the time to use readable English, I don't want to take the time to message you back.


~ Sexual objectification is sexist, and I deserve better.


~ I don't like being referred to by nicknames I have not consented to, and view it as objectification.


~ I have stated that I'm not looking for sex, and people who don't read my profile before messaging me aren't interested in getting to know me, therefore I don't want to message back.


~You're messaging ME. Not the other way around. I would ask about you if I was messaging you. It's annoying to have people tell me to ask things about them, when I never showed an interest to begin with.

IF YOU DO IT ANYWAY:



~ I WILL message back in a snarky manner.

~ I WILL NOT be held responsible for any butthurt you may or may not sustain.

~ I MIGHT just ignore your message and never respond.

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1/21/2014 12:20:28 PM

Just an update, I haven't posted in a while, and I feel like I've changed a little bit since then.

 

It's a new year, and new friends. There have been a few deaths, and a few new beginnings. I have the same partner(s) I did previously. I am somewhat displeased with my lot in life, however I recognize that I have been lax in efforts to change it, and I really do love the person/persons.

 

I feel as though I won't be able to experience anything new, with anyone new, and be able to enjoy it. An unseen force keeps me from leaving my partner(s), I feel as though any interest in anyone new is a betrayal, of sorts, and should be extinguished as quickly as possible.

 

Given that, I am trying to change. I realize now that it is unlikely at best that my partner(s) love(s) me in return, and that my situation is growing increasingly pathetic. Sure, some of my needs are met, but not the important ones. The main thing is, I am seeing the problem now, instead of being blind to it because of my heart's desires. Hopefully this will lead to a more permanent change, as opposed to just returning, time after time, to the same place.

 

Thanks for reading!

 

~ Gryphon


7/15/2013 12:03:25 PM

I personally have never had a BDSM relationship.

 

I always find it interesting to read about the experiences others have had with relationships in the lifestyle. I always find myself thinking to myself something along the lines of "Well if it were me in the situation, I would do THIS," or "Hmmm, I don't know if I would really want to do THAT." But I've never really had that kind of thing with anyone.

 

It's been my schtick for a while now to tell potential play partners and so forth that I am not interested in power exchange. Truth be told, I KIND OF am, but at the same time, it's a really dangerous thing to embark on with someone, especially if you don't know them 100% first. On that note, I should probably mention that I put my own safety before any notions I have of fulfilling any of my fantasies. I would rather stay home and dream about doing the things I read about on fanfiction.net, than go out and meet someone new and try things without being 1000000% sure that I will not end up beaten, raped, or murdered.

 

So, it's kind of hard for me to really come out and say that, yes, I am interested in someday possibly trying a BDSM relationship with someone, but I don't know if that will ever happen for me. I'm a little OCD about stuff, I suppose.

 

Anyway, this has just been a little post about me exploring my feelings on the subject! ^_^


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sunnyangel
 
 Age: 25
 Southern Illinois, Illinois