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selfbondageuk
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We Dommes are all different. I heard the famous American Dominatrix Damiana Chi say that a Domme should have three elements - the seductress, the authoritarian, and the mother. That resonates strongly with me, I think it both captures the kind of Domme I am, and is what I aspire to. That is, I have a nurturing and caring side as well as a desire to dominate.
Interested to meet other Dominants to talk to, befriend, and learn from.
In terms of a sub, I require a lot of mental stimulation, so Im interested in men with strong characters, who may be alpha in their day to day lives, but desire to explore their submissive side with me. Someone too subservient would likely bore me, and theres no excitement for me dominating someone who is naturally docile. Im not looking for a slave, Im not into being worshipped, and Im not looking for someone to do my cooking and cleaning. A sub should be a friend to me as well as my submissive - that means being my equal, in essence, despite the power exchange that we both agree to, and want. You should be slightly younger than me, or the same age. You should also be in good shape. Im looking for real life encounters, not just playing online. I play indoors, in private, not in public unless its very discreet. Im more into humiliation, less into bondage - its harder for you to entertain me if you cant move. Ultimately though what Im into will depend on the dynamic that develops with a particular person.
Three things to note. First, it is not my job to control you, nor can I. A person either submits because they desire to, or they dont. Second, if youre married, or in a longterm relationship of any kind, no judgement but no thanks. I dont do poly relationships and Im not interested in being somebodys bit of kink on the side. Finally - Ive noticed a lot of subs are egotists thinking that a Domme will make them centre of attention and cater to their fetish needs without them needing to give any emotional investment back. This is not the kind of person Im interested in.
If you send me a message and dont get a response its likely nothing personal, Im not able to reply to everyone. However, I will not reply to those who havent read my profile properly, or havent taken seriously what Ive written.
Please note I am not a professional and do not do this for money.
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Please note I am not currently looking for a new sub (despite what my profile says). The "edit profile" option appears to have vanished - hopefully this is just a temporary glitch - but I'm unable to update my profile as I wanted to so will have to make it a journal entry for now. |
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“Female supremacy“ is a ridiculous concept. The second we start saying one particular group - whether based on gender, ethnicity, nationality, sexual orientation, or any other arbitrary category - is superior to another, we’re headed somewhere pretty nasty. Feminism is about equality, and the recognition that the patriarchy is bad for both men and women, in many respects. |
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I blocked someone today who really annoyed me - he made the insightful observation that a sub requires more support and affirmation the more they allow themselves to be vulnerable. I agreed with his observation - but then he said he tried not to be "that kind of sub" and wouldn't make a fuss if he didn't get aftercare - he'd been a Dom in the past and wrote off this need for emotional support from his subs as clingy, cry baby behaviour. This is selfish and irresponsible. When agreeing to play with a sub, the Dominant takes on responsibility for the sub's emotional, as well as physical well-being. If a sub is too demanding, by all means end the relationship, in a respectful way - but don't toy with someone's sense of dignity and security and then regard them as a burden when they seek reassurance afterwards. This may be an issue with male subs in particular, for whom the act of submission goes against gender expectations and the need for aftercare afterwards might provoke shame or embarrassment. The Dom/me has a responsibility of care in this situation and I have no time for those who think otherwise. |
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Hello, passing thought - I'm in my late 30's, I'm not 90. If you try to woo me by telling me you like older or mature women, you're unlikely to get a response. |
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