I'm looking for a woman who loves being a woman- loves feeling like a woman- being treated like a woman, and who is ready to go deeper into exploring some of the darker parts of her nature as the potential partner of very good very bad man.
My journal entries can be read for a bit more insight (perhaps) ;)
5/26/2012 11:12:49 PM
OK, CM proves to be full of surprises (or at least one). But the discovery of even a single person of quality for me gives wings to the hope that others may also find the one (crazy, but not dangerously so) person for them!
4/3/2011 3:21:25 PM
... And now I'm not considering someone. However, the experience did make me feel a whole bunch better about the quality of individual to be found on this site.
3/8/2011 8:45:39 AM
I'm now 'considering' someone. It's nice to know there are a few worthwhile folks on this site. :)
3/3/2011 2:39:08 PM
From a note to an interesting lady in response to an interesting question:
To be honest I'm not sure I'd even describe myself as necessarily 'kinky'. (OK, no, I would ;) Elements of power exchange and control exist in every relationship; Perhaps being vanilla simply means the participants are unaware they can actually choose to openly discuss- and even modify the parameters of those components to build a relationship that fits them. I think the 'vanilla' mindset is more about finding the best fit- based on an unspoken (unconscious?) presumption that tailoring after the fact isn't really an option. Heavy kinksters seem to be all about the tailoring; "raw" "unformed" "moldable" etc. are words often used to describe partners.
I hate to sound so middle of the road, but most of life is vanilla. I'm going to order my venti no foam latte and I'm not going to argue with the barista about 'venti' not being a real word and trying to make them 'open their eyes' to the 'truth' and their own power blah, blah, blah. I just want my coffee. I also don't like prospective girlfriends to be 'unformed' or raw. A certain spark, a click is just necessary. I really don't want to build my own girlfriend atom by atom.
That said, If I find a woman with whom I click I can't help but want to dive deep with her and wring the most intense experiences possible out of the relationship.
I ramble a lot.
William
7/30/2009 1:26:30 PM
Just Perfect:
So I filled out the little of preferences as best I could; Obviously the narrow focus and selection of amount of experience and interest make the checklist a less than perfect tool to find out what really turns a person on.
The simple fact is a connection of like minds produces the conditions under which any of these activities are fun. This is the case for myself, and I'm sure most others. I know there are individuals who truly don't need nor want a connection to enjoy themselves; I consider this a pathology.
So I'm a pretty smart guy, I've been pretty successful by conventional standards, and while I'm very even tempered, I'm very competitive as well. I think that's part of why I enjoy the Dom role; I do have things to offer a sub, but what I have to offer isn't the window dressing aspect of domination; I think the 'protocol' and all of the 'codes' are an elaborate attempt to create a structure out of the bullshit and pseudo-intellectual rationalization that 'doms' and 'subs' use to explain to one another why their 'relationships' are failing to work out yet again.
I actually don't like being the cause of true pain to anyone. I wish people well. What I like is twofold- first the challenge . I can force lots of things to happen, but can I convince this person to beg me to force them? Naturally, this is only interesting if the other party is a whole person herself- and an equal in the real relationship. Otherwise, I think it's simply prolonging someone's genuine misery and failing them as a friend.
The second part is the trust component. When trust is given and returned truly between people who respect one another- pushing the boundaries of almost anything can be an erotic experience. There's the danger, the thrill, but the trust is always the lifeline back to the real.
ugh.. I've rambled on.. well, never mind explaining my choices in the checklist... if you've got any questions I think you know you can ask.
