Update: Um since when did being dominant become synonymous with looking like a rapist? Anyway, I never thought I'd be on a site like this...but never say never, right? I'm not exactly sure what I'm searching for. I'm bored with my life right now and looking for some excitement. Sex is easy to get, especially as a female and especially in a place as big and diverse as NYC. However, it's hard to meet people who'd be comfortable pursuing something like this. And others are not to blame, I mean I myself have a hard enough time talking about these things. I guess I'd like to meet those similar to me, and a man who could make me feel comfortable enough to let myself go and submit to the darker desires I have (i.e. submission, pain, etc.).

I would love to meet an intelligent guy who would teach me the ways, who allows me to feel pleasure by making me feel pain as well. But I think my biggest problem will be to meet someone who I respect enough to let them have that power over me. I've only ever liked about 2 men in my life (and I'm talking like, not even love) because it's so hard to meet guys who are very intelligent and fun and also share that good chemistry with you. This doesn't have to be a serious relationship outside of the bedroom, but even within the bedroom, we have to have some kind of chemistry or it won't work.

I'm really curious about being tied up, handcuffed, spanked, caned (which I've never even heard of till I stumbled upon this site and ). And to make things clear from the start, I am NOT interested in watersports, being a 24/7 slave, knife play, diapers, etc. No offense to those who are, but it is not my thing and never will be. Also, I'm not interested in anyone over 50 years. Sorry. Beyond the physical, I'd like to meet someone who can overpower me mentally as well if that makes any sense. Not that I don't want to have a mind of my own anymore, but someone who will make me WANT to do whatever pleases him.

Besides sex - I enjoy meeting new intelligent people with a good sense of humor. I love going out and exploring the city - bars, galleries, love concerts and especially all the outdoor ones going on now during the summer. Speaking of concerts, I absolutely love music and don't just like one specific genre. I enjoy when people introduce me to artists and songs I've never heard of and end up loving. I also like traveling and exploring other cultures but unfortunately don't have much money or time to do more of that.

If you're just going to write one sentence, then don't even bother writing in the first place. Please don't be fake and feed me bullshit, I get enough of that already. If you can write an intelligent message and make me laugh and also incorporate your dominant side into all of that, then I'll definitely respond. I'm not necessarily looking for a master right off the bat, would like to be friends somewhat first.

Sorry I wrote an essay but I figure I should be specific to cause less confusion later. And I can't believe I have to say this, but DO NOT request me as a friend if we haven't even talked yet. Waste of both of our time.