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I don’t believe anyone really likes writing personals – they are at best a pain and at worst the view of the person you like to present to the world. So like anyone else - I hate writing these. I feel like an air head going 'I like walking on the beach and...'. So what should I say - I like walking on the beach.... j/k That said I’m going to be honest – I’d rather waste time trying to get people who know what to expect and are friends than be something I’m not. If you want to vouch any of this I could provide my id and you can chat with people who know me.
I am a 6 ft 3 red-head with blue eyes. I'm an intelligent, articulate professional, financially successful in my field. I am a university graduate. I am an English/American (born in Asia, grew up in England and 10 years in the states, now back to London). I’ve spent the last 3 years living in London, England for work I’m well traveled by any definition – I’ve browsed the winter markets of Vienna, floated along the grand canal in Venice, I’ve haggled for silk carpets in a private showroom in Istanbul, walked the Pantheon in Athens and the red lights of Amsterdam. I went to boarding school in England (ultra religious) and have spent some time shedding most of that baggage. I don’t smoke and rarely drink.
Physically - I'm a large man – that is not to say I’m unfit - I played Rugby, Judo etc – I go to the gym everyday for at least an hour, last year I ran the London 10K. However small and dainty I’m not.
I enjoy the theater, music, travel, cinema, salsa (I’m great till the music starts), Tai Chi, Jujitsu,anime sailing, - I'm a huge reader and love my sony eReader (now a Kindle) - I'm eclectic and read everything from Science Fiction and Fantasy to Economics. I love travel, museums, architecture – I’ve always wanted to go parachuting and horse riding. I’m smart but not super smart – I have the privilege of knowing that there will be people who are smarter or have more wisdom that I can talk to. I wouldn’t have fit into the American high school categories as I am jock & nerd – I do everything from play computer games, board games and roleplaying games to enjoy cycling. I will always take dinner or an experience over my couch – this is how I’ve ended up doing some fairly weird things.
I am financially successful and stable – I own investment property, make over $100K per year and the longest I’m ever out of work has been 4 hours, all that of course indicates is that I’ve a good track record, some day I may be poor again or not – what I will not be is lazy. I’ve known many people smarter than me but few as determined.
I am a romantic – I love giving flowers, having weekends away, candles and everything – I always have been and there is no point denying it. I have even been a bit weepy over a movie or book – like any chap I love action movies as well – if there is a super hero even better!
What else? - I do believe in honor and a code of conduct, my temper burns cold, I’ve never struck a woman in anger but I’ve defended myself from assault by other men. I love children but only would want them with the right person, I believe in loyalty to your lovers and friends. I am a committed individual – I’m not a Christian but more agnostic. I have friends who are jewish, pagan, catholic, gay and French (after all I’m English… we don’t like the French). I try not to be judgemental – I only form judgements when you hurt others without consent or are emotionally/physically abusive. I suppose I believe in family values but I define those values? I believe you have to respect/cherish those in your life. I’m financially conservative and socially liberal so I’m misrepresented by every government party.
What am I looking for? The lady and the whore? Outside the home I’m looking for a woman who can be a lady – who knows/wants to know how to dress, walk, to have conversations, sip wine and behave like a woman – who knows we exist in a society where there are boundaries. I am willing to train her to this. In the home/bedroom I want her to be passionate and be willing to submit herself to me.
In the lifestyle - I am looking for a woman for all the myriad of ways that is the lifestyle: to dominate, abuse, use sexually, to torment, to rape, to tie up, to cherish, to kiss, to make whimper, to moan into, to make moan, to stroke, to pinch, to scald, to praise, to reward, to punish - and all that may just be a Saturday! There is no easy answer. I own spreader bars and canes but I’ve found that my mind can bring more torment (imagine walking in public fully dressed with a remote vibrator, feeling it start every so often, controlling you, pulling you into private and kissing you, my hands stroking you, telling you your mine and I’ll be forcing you to your knees later and enjoying you). She doesn’t have to be height weight proportionate – but doesn’t have to be healthy and able to go walking/cycling/kayaking etc.
I am looking for a woman who has an opinion and a mind - I don't believe that necessarily means a degree or some formal standard but I do believe that breathing should be a reflex action. I don’t wish to use the term submissive or slave – some of the slaves I know are the most intelligent opinionated women I know! However for many it seems to me surrendering your mind - For me submission doesn't mean you don't have a mind. It means that you are choosing to surrender your wants/needs/comforts/body to someone else - and that should be cherished. I'm not saying I'll agree with you or let you get away with things… I'm saying I expect you to think about things and form thoughts. If you still require education I expect to support that – whether it might be college, or simply finishing school so your more comfortable at cocktail parties. As I said I expect the Lady and the whore - in public you might have been at a cocktail party with me, later you might be chained to the bed sobbing, your dress around your waist as I torment and use you.
Understand that I will expect to train you in both service and sexual matters to satisfy my desire.
This relationship could start as a friend-ship, a short term thing or long-term. It all depends on how we connect, and our compatibility. Ideally I want a long-term relationship but I’m fine with a play partner. I’d expect any relationship to start with friendship/dating, play partner and anything that follows. I love and treasure all the relationships in my life and the people - just because your kinky and a Dom doesn't make you a bastard (though I can be). I may hurt you because I enjoy it and/or care about you. I am imaginative and inventive - and that includes in the scene. I have had a fair amount of experience but would always like more. So I can enjoy slaves and subs and both can make me happy – not because of the relationship (I can do 24/7 or not) but because of the person. Some slaves want clothing to be chosen – some just want approval – as do subs. I think for me sub/slave definition depends on when it starts/ends – figuratively at the bedroom door or the front door?
I can be sadistic but I’m not a sadist – I love the responses from sadism so for me sadism is a tool rather than I want to hurt you - I love hearing that whimper when when you twist a nipple or cane a breast, or the sob when she realizes she can't escape. I can also stroke your hair, or kiss you - cherishing your service.
Until I know you I'm more likely to be polite than a 'kneel and worship me' type :) once our relationship is defined that is a different matter.
I'm not in to the internet for relationships online... I'm not a player and I'm a real person. I'm fine chatting online initially but will want to meet and buy a coffee or wine etc. I will want to date you. I'm also happy to send a photo on request - however as I speak at conferences in my field I do not want to share my photo publicly.
I am married, I’m not looking to replace or exchange my wife. She knows and is disabled. She was a Domme in the lifestyle before we met, but doesn’t really play anymore (might under right circumstances) and doesn’t need it in her life anymore. Anyone joining our household permanently would have to accept service requests from her but not sexual play.
I wouldn’t say we’re poly because we’re not swingers – we’re ‘poly committed’ – I’ve had relationships with others but they have been committed and not a horde. We are both honest, understanding people where this is not about our sub/slave 'been a secret' from one of us. If you become my LT sub/slave there will of course be a lot of discussions about this including/with her. Any questions about this - just ask.
What else - send me a message and we'll chat.
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In Columbus, ohio this week then back to London. Will be back here permanently in June! Yay! |
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| Age: 37 |
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Canada |
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