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GentlemanDom57 - Who Am I
(Written for both those who know me and those who wish to know me)
I am a 59 yr old proud retired Air Force veteran of 20 years. I have served My country with distinction and pride and have carried such qualities into My real life and that of which I attempt to portray within this “Virtual" communities that I find Myself in. As a dedicated Air Force member I have experienced much during My extensive career in the defense of our Country and that of others that stand with Us. I have witness both satisfying, rewarding events that I will always cherish and be able to carry with Me with pride until the end of My days. I also carry with Me those moments during My career that I and many others have witnessed and keep deep in the back of our minds for which we chose to not remember so fondly in that defense of you and others who live in this and other free countries enjoy. During My career, I was responsible for many subordinates under My command and took that responsibilities seriously, for the decisions I made were of those that meant carrying out My would either ensure the safety of and/or the possibly the lives of those serving under My control. Having that control meant I must stand strong within My beliefs of the difficult decisions I had made. I had earned the respect of many, to include My Superiors and those under My command alike. So as you can note, I have earned the respect I seek from others and give such said respect to those that come before Me, unless otherwise proven not worthy of such respect.
As for those who wish to know or question My experience as a Dominant/ Master, I wish to make it clear to you as to why I consider Myself as One who can stand tall as I carry such a “title” by anyone who may serve Me with such admiration and respect. As noted above, as One who served within a disciplined and demanding world during My military career, I expect the same within My personal life and expect the same from those I come across outside My military life; to include My past relationships in one form or another. I have always controlled the personnel and surroundings around My life for over 38 years now. During those years, I have had 3 real time relationships that I would consider falls within the realm of a BDSM Dom/sub lifestyle.
The first being that of My marriage of 20 yrs with My ex-wife and family. Although many would see it as a vanilla relationship, I had control of every aspect of said relationship; to include providing them with safety, guidance, security, teachings, and of course love. They afforded Me the respect that I desired for I was the One who provided them structure and discipline that would serve them well as they grow up and learn to live on their own. The marriage dissolved after 20 yrs after the children were grown and could understand as to why it did, and know it was not of their making. The relationship went cold over the last few years and only existed in order to take care and continue to grow the children as to where they could stand tall on their own two feet and do well and thrive on their own.
As for the other two Dom/submissive relationships; both were both enjoyable and troublesome in many ways.
The first lasted 4 yrs; it all started very well, a good foundation of trust and respect was established. The relationship developed first as a friendship, then as romantic lovers, and finally once the trust and respect was earned, the submissive willingly and freely gave Me her "gift" of submission as her Master. But as the last year came upon us, it became clear that we both sought more than what we had between us and decided to part way mutually.
The last Master/submissive relationship lasted for 3 yrs. This too started as One would have expected; eager to learn and get to know each other smooth sailing at first but ended in the breaking of this Master’s trust. Once that trust is lost in D/s relationship; it becomes very hard to regain through hours of discussion and personal reflection, but possible. However this submissive, once that trust was broken with Me, she didn’t try to regain that trust and we parted ways.
After those relationships, I took time away from the BDSM community to reflect on past relationships and to find within Myself and determine if there were things I could do or learn to further better Myself in the way. I reflected on those relationships to see if I could have handled matters differently that would prove beneficial and better improved on the longevity of any future relationship I may enter.
Of course I have had other short lived vanilla relationship/flings to pass the time between any Master/submissive ones, but none were as fulfilling as that I had within the BDSM lifestyle. I hadn’t had a relationship for nearly 8 yrs since.
I am currently seeking a submissive (FEMALE ONLY) for a LTR at this time.
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Example of GentlemanDom57 Dom/sub Contract
GentlemanDom57 Contractual Agreement with submissive
(To Be Determined)
Rights, Duties, and Obligations ~ Dominant (GentlemanDom57)
- I promise to care for and cherish (submissive’s name). I will help her, teach her, nurture, protect and guide her through any endeavors she may wish to venture into.
- I have the right to enjoy her submission so long as I does not inflict lasting injury or harm her mentally. I will acknowledge any “safeword” and abide to Our agreement to act according this agreement in ensuring (submissive’s name) safety during any session being conducted.
- I have the privilege to enjoy her as My submissive, have her tend to My whims and needs and I will do so. I will enjoy her through My many public and private sessions with using My imagination and by use of various pleasure toys and/or toys that I choose to use on her person to bring Us such pleasures
- I will help her find pleasure in submission and I will make sure that she knows when she has pleased Me. I will reward and punish her for her efforts and failures, but I will take the time to hear her thoughts and nurture her as she grows.
- My (submissive’s name) is precious to Me, and I seek to make her stronger in personality, confident in herself, and assist her to achieving any and all life’s goals that she seeks to reach for. I will not interfere with her work, nor will I make unreasonable demands upon her time. I am aware that she may dislike some of my choices, and I know that My word is the final authority in all matters. I will, however, listen to her opinions and thoughts with respect and I will consider her opinions. Her needs outweigh her preferences, and it is My duty to ensure she understands that. I will set a routine and rules for My (submissive’s name) and I will let her know what the punishments are for infractions. I will set daily discipline. It is my duty to be constant for her, and to be reliable, sober and caring. I will respect the list of my subs preferences, and discuss them with her.
Rights, Duties, and Obligations ~ (submissive’s name)
- I am to maintain virtual contact with My Dominant at all times when in the virtual world, from the moment I wake until the time I go to rest (taking in consideration of all parties’ time differences). I will ask permission to leave your side. This contact shall not interfere with any real world activities such as school, family activities or any other events that (submissive’s name) is scheduled to attend and/or detrimental to her well-being.
- I promise to obey my ‘Sir’ in all things. I understand that His decisions will be made with the ultimate care and thoughtfulness for my well-being mentally, physically and emotionally, The decisions He makes will be made sober and they will allow me to maintain my career and my business.
- I promise to conduct myself with the utmost respect toward my ‘Sir’. I will address Him as ‘Sir’ when in public room.
- I will act in a manner that will make you proud to have me at your side. I will do nothing to bring unwanted attention to myself from others or embarrass You. I only seek Your attention and praise.
- I understand that, above all else, it is my duty to please ‘Sir’ and I promise I will endeavor to do so. I will speak respectfully and truthfully, conduct my tasks quickly and efficiently, and see to my Sir’s every need. These needs may be social, sexual, or those that fall under service.
- I understand that I am to serve at Sir’s pleasure at all times.
- I will have my phone with me at all times, charged and in good working order. I will respond to any/all text messages when You call. If I am unable to answer I must text back at my earliest convenience with a good explanation as to why I did not answer. Whether my reason for not answering is good or not will be at Your discretion.
- I understand that ‘Sir’ does not feel the need to micro manage me. ‘Sir’ believes me to be an adult. I am to know my duties and responsibilities. I am to execute them without reminder.
- In the event that I am to make a decision without the ability to consult ‘Sir’, I am to consider all options and make the decision that I feel would best serve ‘Sir’ and my commitment to this relationship.
- I understand ‘Sir’s’ reliance on safe-words obligates me to use them and I Promise to do so. I will use “virtual” as a warning word to request that ‘Sir’ slow down, ease up, or change direction while continuing the session. I will use “reality” to immediately end a scene or session.
- I am to give myself freely to ‘Sir’. In doing so, I am to be open and honest about my wants and needs and be secure in the ability of ‘Sir’ to make me feel safe in expressing these things to Him.
- I am free to ask any questions that I have. I have a right to an answer from ’Sir’. He will always answer me taking my feelings and concerns into consideration.
- I am to ensure I eat properly and get enough rest each day to maintain my well-being and be fully capable to properly come to the meet my ‘Sir’ desires/wishes when called upon to do so.
- I am free to choose my own friends. If my “Sir” feel that they are not good for me we will discuss it. If it’s decided in my best interests they need to go then I am to end the friendship
- I am to maintain all schooling and work responsibilities necessary to continue to reach my real life goals and aspirations
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GentlemanDom57: A True Definition of a Man/Dom/Master
The following is My definition who I believe is considered to be a real Man/Dom/Master in the eyes of One who knows what it takes to be called a Master, take or leave it, It’s up to you. A true Man/Dom/Master is 0ne who puts His lady/submissive/slave/kajira needs and desire first before His own. He will be with her from the time she awakes in the morning, until the time He puts her to rest. He will schedule any and all tasks, appointments, errands, and needs to where they are compatible with those of His lady/submissive/ slave/kajira as to where it does not take any time away from the continual building of their basic foundation/journey that they share and work toward having to make their union the most pleasant and enjoyable, rewarding, and solid it can be made possible. He will be there to nurture her, encourage her, control her, comfort her, and standby her throughout each day’s trials and tribulations and times of need. He will nature her when she has interests of things that she wishes to learn and try out new things, encourage her when things seem so daunting to achieve but are possible, You will comfort her during times of disappoint or despair, You will control her during times where she has lost focus of any goals or during times of disobedience, you will comfort her at times of loss or disappoint, you will standby her when there are challenges that she may come across and she has to take actions or make decisions that perhaps she may not be comfortable to do on her own. This Man/Dom/Master will see to it He listens and hears every word that is spoken to Him in being sure He takes in and assigns meaning to each word His lady/submissive/slave/karjira speaks; for it if was spoken, it has meaning to her. This Man/Dom/Master will understand what is important to His lady/submissive/slave/kajira is important to Him as well, and He will treat it as such and do whatever He can act on all such each requests, desires, and needs; and give His due respect and ensure that He does all that is possible to make those things happen for the one He calls His.
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| Age: 22 |
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