It still amazes me when I get emails from people who CLEARLY didn't read the majority of my profile.
It's not all that hard to read..nor an epic-novel length.
If you'd simply read my intro and this Journal Entry, you'd be on your way to Grab My Attention...
Or, discover that I am Not the Dominant for you.
I don't always check my messages regularly, so write your introductions with LOTs of interesting information!
-I am not interested in people who will need to travel more than an hour to get to me.
-I am not interested in people who send short messages like: "hi" or "nice profile, like your pics"
-Tell me what you are looking for.
-Tell me what your living situation is.
-Tell me what your availability is.
Keep in mind that my primary partner is also Dominant and we are involved in each others life...
so, if you are looking for monogamy; one to one, me and you ALL the time.. keep moving, I am not the right Dominant for you.
I believe service driven people should also have a personality, taste, a sense of humor and a desire to entertain me.
I am looking for SERVICE minded submissive(s)..
You come here and help with yardwork, landscaping, housework, pool/spa maintenance... We offer fun play in return.
- You need to have a car.
- Need to have free time on the weekends.
- Be employed and able to support yourself.
- Care about and practice clean/healthy hygiene.
Let's talk about what you're looking for.. I would guess that if it is reasonable, it can be done.
We have met a few people from here. Not the "perfect match" yet.. However, we've had some fun.
I'd like to add that although it is incredibly HAWT to meet up with under-30 year olds..These meet-ups don't usually last past a second "date".
Therefore, I will be a lot more selective when it comes to answering mail from anyone under 30.
(I just don't want to waste your time, nor mine.)
Also... If you live more than 45 minutes from me, you need to have a way to get to me.. be it a car, train or bus...
Owning a car that is garaged 90 mins away from YOU does not count!
What kinds of things to I want to know about interested submissives?
*What types of real life experiences have you had?
*Are you exposed to the public scene? Or do you want to be?
*What types of past relationships have you been in?
*What is your current living and job situation?
*Do you have friends in the lifestyle?
*How much time are you willing to commit to me?
(Once a week? Weekends only? Once a month?)
*What is your relationship with pain?
*What is it that you are looking to get out of a relationship with me and my primary partner?
*What would you would like to know about me?
A little more clarification:
Under Seeking:
I am already in a poly/open relationship.. so people I am seeking would need to be looking for that too.
Under Likes/Dislikes:
I am not looking for "role playing" men.. while I like to have fun with role-playing, from time to time in my play, it is not the basis of what a relationship means to me.
I am also not looking for a man or woman to "serve me" sexually, as a primary function anyway... that kind of interaction with me, comes later if at all... but anyone interested should be aware that my Partner is Bi and IS interested in being involved that way.
*Canes and Crops - I love using them, could be my favorite toy ever!
*Local BDSM Community - active, was on the board of directors for a local group.. attend lifestyle/scene events, have lots of Scene-Friendly Friends.
*Public Play - as in at a dungeon or scene event where other BDSMers could be around, watching and sometimes participating... not at the local mall or walking down the street...Discretion is important to me.
*Spanking - I like spanking.. as part of a S&M scene, not exclusively/as the scene.
*Uniforms - i totally melt over a man in a uniform.. all kinds.. all flavors.. a total turn on
*Lifestyle BDSM - yes.. I live it 24/7.. This is not an Online Fantasy for me, it is part of who I am.
*Polyamory - I belong to a Chosen Family.
*Blindfolds - I like using sensory deprivation
*Medical Play - Using medical instraments during a scene, also into Infusion, possibly sutures, situation/predicament bondage
*Mental Bondage - not using actual bondage equiptment, just a simple "don't move" command.
*Needle Play - I really enjoy being artistic with needles.
*Water-sports - I enjoy giving and recieving, when in a dirty mood
*Football - watching and creating fun games to play with a submissive, while watching.
*Ass Play - I enjoy playing with an ass and having my ass played with, however this is more intimate form of play reserved for closer relationships.
*Cross-dressing - I am not into forcing someone to crossdress.. I do like submissives who enjoy serving dressed.
*Plastic Wrap - wheee fun!
Also interested in a stunt-cock, bi, Top or bottom, male... A casual sex-play person, interested in spur of the moment fun; a planned night or weekend.. and being with both my partner and I.
Final notes:
Sure, I do like to be sadistic from time to time...
Sure, I really enjoy sexual encounters...
but those two activities, alone or together, do not make my world complete.
I like intellegant conversation, watching action/adventure/thrilling movies, playing board games, taking pictures, and walking on the beach, as well.
If you've made it this far, you just might have what it takes...
...I look forward to hearing from you.
*written March 28, 2011*
