A little history about me may be in order, let's see. I'm professionally trained at a Master's level (that's fun to say, even four years later!) and I am separated from my husband of 18 years, quite amicably, we live 1 mile apart and share custody of our children. Our marriage has always been "open", so even if he and I reconcile, I would not expect to give up any relationships I had established, online or otherwise. We are good friends, but I think full reconciliation is probably unlikely. I am not looking for a new daddy for them or a new, serious vanilla relationship. A nice man to befriend, have dinner with from time to time, and maybe stay in from time to time, is all I am looking for. However, please read my reservations about married men, noted previously.

I think I need to clarify my views on married men. I'm running into this a lot, so please bear with me.

If you are married, and your wife either participates with or without you, fine. If she doesn't participate and you can assure me she has knowledge of your activities, also fine. I understand polyamory and I am not looking for a one-and-only or a new husband. I'd love for us to be safe, sane, consensual, etc.

If you can honestly tell me she doesn't know and you'd rather keep it that way, I understand and I appreciate your honesty. HOWEVER, if you are a Dom, I respectfully must ask: how can I expect to put my trust in you, if you are just looking for a dirty little something on the side? How can I trust you if I know you lie to those closest to you? Please understand and respect that I have been burned this way before. Both Doms and subs, bright, articulate, lovely people by e-mail, became whiny, paranoid bitches in person because they couldn't handle the real thing. 

If you tell me she knows, and it turns out she doesn't, I will not speak with you again. No players, posers, liars. Fini.

I repeat: I'm not looking for cyber. I really, really hate Yahoo IM. I'd rather make a call or get one. If you want to send me saucy texts to liven up your life, we can maybe do that.  But please proceed with caution if you are married and think your spouse doesn't know. If you are separated, divorced, single, of course we can talk.

My thanks to the dozens of gentleman and couples who welcomed me to the site. On the whole I received a very warm, real and sincere greeting from Doms and subs alike. 95 percent were literate and kind. Only a few were immediately deleted.

If I don't respond immediately, it is probably due to distance being a factor. If you are a Dominant, I humbly request your patience.

If you're a sub, what the Hell. You'll wait, won't you? ;)