It's up to the Dom to show that he can be trusted with the keys to you. To inspire and deserve the power he desires over you. And apparently I even have to add this: not before you've met face to face, hung out a bit and each decided you at least like the other person. It's up to each to assess the other's potential.

I am seeking an actual LTR with an awesome (and also kinky) girl. Could she be you? A long term relationship. Which requires an initial spark. Physical and mental chemistry. Being in the same range on the kink spectrum (same exact point? Unlikely. Unnecessary.) And spending time doing things, even--gasp, vanilla things--together. I'm not an InstaDim. Not a sadist or micromanager. Not a Free Lord of the Onyx Dagger or whatever (ie Gorean). I am rather sensual, supportive nurturing and generally considerate, but I don't fit other aspects of Daddy Dom. Beyond that... Let's discuss. I won't send you abusive or unimaginative emails. I will correspond respectfully. I will provide g-rated pix with email (or swap if you've posted none). We can chat (decently and politely) on Skype or whatever when you're ready for that. I won't fixate on sex, control or your kink list.

I'm able to meet to see if there's chemistry. I want to date and get acquainted so we can each assess further. I have the time to devote to building a relationship.? Will I inspire your submission? That will depend on our unique chemistry. IF we BOTH wish to proceed, we will negotiate first. Experience and interests. Hard and soft limits. I know that saying this here is o e thing. And backing it up IRL is another. There's more to being a Dom (a good one...who actually gets the privledge to own a girl...and does so, to their mutual benefit) than:
* Ticking a box on a webform:
* Picking an UberDommy nick like SirPainsalot or whatever; and
* Talking smack in your profile and emails about how much you're gonna tie her up, slap her around and shove your x in her y.
... A LOT more.
?A D/s relationship (unless it's just occasional top/bottom playtime)...is still a relationship between people.?It has all the requirements of a vanilla LTR. With, I'd say, added layers of depth, complexity and reward.
?Despite appearances, it's not "all about the Dom". If all that stuff she does for him or he does to her isn't at LEAST as good for her as it is for him...he's doing something wrong. Each party should expect to have his/her wants and needs addressed. And be willing and able to address the wants and needs of his/her partner. Fortunately, yin and yang apply.
?So, having said all that about D/s, I'll reserve further thoughts on that for the journal. And deal with the vanilla and general. Mostly.
?I hope to find a girl who attracts me both physically and mentally (and to whom I'm likewise attractive). A girl who enjoys some, but not all, the things I enjoy. A girl who enjoys things I'm not into...or don't yet know about. Some I may adopt. Learn and acquire from her. And vice versa. Others...well, solo time and activity is also a thing. A girl with whom I can have interesting, stimulating conversations. And vanilla experiences we enjoy together.
I enjoy good food, conversation that starts from knowledge or curiosity and may well lead, via google, to learning a new thing or three. I have travelled some and would like to do more in the future. With a partner would be great.
?I am not into sports. I don't "watch TV". I do enjoy Netflix, YouTube and a variety of downloaded audio and video.?
I'm good with words. I'm often funny. (Alas, not quite as often as I think I am.) I laugh at the world... And at myself. Thanks for checking out my profile. Wow. If you made it THIS far, I must've said something that resonates with you. Feel free to drop me a line if something piqued your interest. Or "drop a hankie" (by viewing my full profile).