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I am currently seeking a dominant female to continue to train me in the ways of chastity and devotion. I found a set of 30 training exercises online at the blog Femdom Fiancee, and list them here as an example of what I am looking for in a Domme/sub relationship. The exact wording, of course, can vary to meet the chemistry of our relationship. What is key is the attention to detail that I find to be quite important in a D/s relationship.
1 Unless expressed otherwise by Mistress, the male sub shall dress himself in a manner he feels will be pleasing to and appropriate for his Mistress. A picture shall be sent to Mistress for approval prior to completing the dressing ritual and any suggestions will be made at that time.


2 The male sub shall endeavor to keep his legs apart and open in Mistress's presence for Her access.
3 The male sub shall not wear undergarments, except when the act of doing so, and the design of the item of apparel are expressly approved by Mistress. Each day Mistress will decide if underwear or girls panties is to be worn or if the male sub is to wear none at all
4 If real men’s underwear is worn that day, the male sub is to inspect crotch at end of day for pre cum and remove any with mouth sucking the underwear clean of pre cum and sending pictures to Mistress before and after.
5 The male sub shall at all times while in the presence of Mistress be required to wear a dog collar and tag, leash, cock cage, cock ring, ball stretching device, nipple clamps or other adornments unless excused by Mistress.
6 The male sub shall keep the male sub's groin area “shorned” and bald at regular intervals to show his submission and that pubic hair is reserved for real men only.
7 At all times the male sub shall sleep with his bottom half naked and exposed and is to sleep on his stomach in the “slut”position with legs spread, signifying his ability to be penetrated by Mistress strap on at Mistress’s will.
8 Mistress has the right to have tattooed or have pierced any part of the male sub’s body.
9 Mistress is in total control of the male sub's sexual release. Release is not included in sessions unless utilized for cum eating, coating the male sub’s body or at the command of the Mistress.

10 When in Mistress' presence the male sub will always stand with heels approximately 18 " apart to give access for Mistress to grab crotch and inspect cock.
11 When told "down" the male sub will immediately drop to his knees at Mistresss feet. Forehead to floor and not move until released with "up."
12 When told "reveal and display" the male sub will immediately at any location pull his pathetic cock out of zipper and lay it on the outside of pants and remain so for the pleasure of Mistress.
13 When told "strip" the male sub will immediately remove all clothing. The male sub is to be available for inspection at all times

14 When told “sniff” the male sub will proceed to delicately and respectfully remove Mistress’s panties and sniff and lick the crotch of panties like a dog in heat. If desired Mistress can command the male sub to masturbate in Her panties at this time and lick clean.

15 When told “eat” the male sub will at any time and location drop to knees and lick Mistress’s pussy in accordance with Her wishes and to increase performance and perfection of cunnilingus. The male sub will keep juices on his face as a sign of devotion and of being marked by Mistress.
16 When told “finger” the male sub will, at any time and any location insert fingers into and bring Mistress to orgasm. Unless otherwise directed the male sub will smell and lick fingers clean at the end of orgasm.
17 When told “fuck” the male sub will enter Mistress with no other words spoken, in the position directed by Mistress and proceed to give Mistress pleasure and orgasms. Afterwards if a condom is used said condom will be opened and spread over the male sub’s cock and balls and/or other body parts directed by Mistress to dry or the cum is to consumed directly from condom. If no condom is used the male sub will lick Mistress’s pussy clean. Cumming in this way is considered a treat and luxury and expressed thankfulness should be shown by purchasing a gift for Mistress
18 When told “Shemar” (or any other name chosen by the Mistress…can be movie star, ex boyfriend, porn star etc) the male sub is put on and wear hollow strap on then present himself to Mistress. After the male sub has used hollow strap on to satisfy Mistress, the male sub will proceed to thank said cock for satisfying his Mistress then the male sub will lick and clean Mistresss juices off strap on, performing fellatio on “Shemar” and praising their ability and his lack thereof.
19 When told “play with clit”the male sub is to stand in front of Mistress displaying his cock and stoke it to entertain Her. Mistress will decide if Her the male sub will play with cock, keep it hard, edge or cum for Her pleasure. If the male sub’s cums he is to clean up with his underwear and lick them clean.
20 At any time Mistress may text or say the word “edge” to the male sub and the male sub is to edge 3 times. Mistress may also say "ride it" and the male sub is to ride edge for an indicated amount of time. After edging the male sub is to remove pre cum from fingers and lick clean in order to keep the male sub’s body primed for Mistresss pleasure and to learn to enjoy and be addicted to the taste of the juices.
21 At any time, Mistress may text or say the word “ruin” to the male sub and the male sub is to ruin orgasm and lick and eat any spilled juice in order to show that the male sub’s orgasm is not important and to remind him that his pleasure is nothing compared to pleasing his Mistress.


22 At any time, Mistress may text or say the word “milk” to the male sub and the male sub is to milk cock of all juices by fucking ass with a prostate massager or dildo and to show that the male balls must be drained properly. Cum is to consumed unless otherwise directed by Mistress.
23 At any time, Mistress may text or say the word “tease” to the male sub and the male sub is to choose a random web tease or tease assigned by Mistress from www.milovana.com and perform it to the best of his ability and report back what the tease was to Mistress.
24 At any time, Mistress may text or say the word “thai soup” to the male sub and the male sub is to immediately stop what he is doing and get a bowl of cold water with ice. The male sub is to tie his balls with a shoelace or rope tighty separating each testicle. He is then to immerse his cock and balls in bowl of ice water for 5 minutes. After immersion he is jack off and ruin his orgasm into said bowl and consume contents of soup.
25 At any time, Mistress may text the word or say “write” to the male sub and the male sub is to take a permanent marker and write a phrase on his cock of the Mistress’s choosing.
26 At any time Mistress may text the phrase or say "suck cock" to the male sub and the male sub is to put on a dry condom and proceed to ruin into the dry condom three times...put cum filled condom on dildo or strap on being careful not to spill a drop, clip small hole in tip of condom and proceed to suck cock hard and suck and eat out all cum, when all cum is sucked out, sub is to remove condom licking clean both condom and cock clean.
27 When not in presence of Mistress and going out with other females the the male sub’s cock cage is to be worn at all times. If the male sub is seeing Mistress after, a metal key lock is to be used. If not, plastic numbered lock is to be used with picture being sent to Mistress before and at end of evening. If cock cage is unavailable the male sub must find a suitable alternative to show Mistress’s ownership.
28 The male sub will be open to and accepting of Mistress introducing Her strap at any time into him. the male sub will learn to praise it, perform fellatio on it, masturbate it and to accept it deep in his ass while also being both verbal and physical in his acceptance of pegging and desire to be taken in such a way.
29 The male sub is to participate in various training exercises during the year including but not limited to; ball stretching, cuckold and femdom hypnosis, ass dialation exercises, kneeling and begging position classes, blowjob and cum consumption lessons, humiliation and pain training, cuckolding as well as other various physical and mental conditioning exercises to learn to bring more pleasure and pay homage to Mistress.
30) The following changes will be made concerning the terminology about the male sub

A) The male sub will no longer refer to his penis as a cock but will refer to is as a clit.
B) The male sub will no longer refer to his testicles as balls but will refer to them as marbles.
C) The male sub will no longer refer to his asshole as his ass but will refer to it as his pussy

D) The male sub will no longer refer to his ejaculate as his cum but will refer to is as clit juice
E) The male sub will not refer to a condom as such but will refer to it as a clit juice catcher

9/4/2012 2:40:58 PM

9/4/12

 

I searching online today and came across this article on the 8 Levels of Castration. It thrilled me to read it. (http://www.femdomale.com/eight-levels-castration.html

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Eight Levels of Castration

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Castration is the supreme symbol of the Othering of the male. The
Other is the one with the Lack--the lack of the phallus, Voice and
Gaze. To be lacking in these is to be castrated. The jouissance of the
Other is in submitting to castration. Sex is a process of Othering as
it is what the Subject does to the Other. This is why matriarchal sex
is so very different from patriarchal sex. Sex keeps the Other in his
or her place as Other.

In working

 towards a more complete theory on matriarchy, an analysis
of castration is needed. Castration, of course, is a complex concept
much like the complexity of the concept of the Phallus. The Phallus,
as a signifier, means more than the mere penis. It entails the Voice
and Gaze as well. So possession of the phallus means having the Voice
and Gaze. Possession of the phallus is synonymous with being the
Subject.

Conversely, castration means not merely the removal of the male
genitals. It means much more than that. It also is a complex concept
and is the signifier for the loss of the phallus. Castration entails
not having the Voice and Gaze. To castrate the male is to Other the
male. When the feme castrates the male, she has the Voice and Gaze.
The Voice and Gaze are not attributes of the male genitals as such. It
is the power to take, or the taking which positions the feme as
Subject. The genitals can still be attached to the male's body, but
still be in her possession and control. If she owns, possesses, and
controls his genitals, she owns, possesses and controls him. That is
what it means to be a Subject as feme, and a male as Other. There can,
therefore, be different levels of castration in terms of different
levels of possession and control:

1. The castration of control

The first level of castration would entail the male giving up control
of his sexuality to a/the feme. He would have no sexual experience
without her permission, and according to her direction. While this is
only the first level, if carried out, the male becomes available to
serve feme desire. If a feme can control male sexuality to even this
degree, she has broken the control of the male over her body, and has
control of his. If a male's sexuality can be controlled, he probably
can be controlled as to almost anything else as sex is an essential
part of the lives of almost all males. As stated by Jean Baudrillard
in his book, Seduction, "in the absence or denial of the orgasm,
superior intensity is possible."

2. The castration of ejaculation

Males can be trained to withold and postpone ejaculation and to
maintain an erection for the length of time desired by the feme. If
males are not permitted to ejaculate but must withdraw and achieve
their climax by masturbation after withdrawal, then there is very
little risk of pregnancy. Eventually, the male will lose the capacity
to climax introvaginally, and can only experience an orgasm through
manual manipulation. The second level of castration is achieved when
the male is no longer able to ejaculate while inside the feme. This
frees the feme from the problems of birth control

. She no longer has
to take chemicals or insert a foreign object such as a diaphragm. At
the same time, it has the advantage over a vasectomy in that the male
can maintain an erection for a very long time.

3. The castration of possession

The third level of castration is achieved when the male willingly
turns over his genitals such that they can be placed beyond his own
control. This is the castration of bondage. The wearing of a Kali's
teeth

 bracelet or some other control device which prevents him from
having a sexual experience or even an erection until the device is
removed.

4. The castration of pain

The fourth level of castration is achieved when the male is subject to
what is commonly known in the Scene as "cock torture." this level
entails the willingness of the male to accept pain applied to his
genitals. The pain at this level is mild, as it serves a symbolic
function. It establishes in the psyche of the submissive that his
genitals exist for the pleasure and enjoyment of the feme.

5. The castration of ownership

Possession doesn't necessarily entail ownership. When one owns
something, they are free to do what they want with it. The ownership
of the genitals establishes the ownership of the male to which they
are attached. This level of castration is accomplished by the feme
lending

 her sub to other femes for their enjoyment and use. This level
of castration establishes that the male no longer owns his self. He
belongs to a feme to do with as she wishes. It also serves the
important function of canceling the vestiges of monogamy/sexual
exclusivity in the psyche of the male. A further step in the
castration process can be accomplished by requiring the sub to witness
the feme enjoying other males. This establishes in the male's psyche
that he has no claim on, or rights over, the feme's body. She is the
free Subject and he is the Other. At this level of castration, any
idea of the male possessing a/the feme should be gone.

6. The castration of blood

The sixth level of castration is achieved through subjecting the male
genitals to piercing and to the placement of rings, frenums,
amphallangs, or other forms of genital jewelry which a feme may wish
her sub to endure or wear. The most ancient form of the castration of
blood is carried out in ritual circumcision. The taking of the
foreskin shows complete ownership of the genitals. When the dried
foreskin is in a jar on her shelf, the phallic serpent is fully in the
grip of her fist.

The point of carrying out the first six levels of castration is to
fully Other the male and in the process for the feme to become fully
the Subject with the Voice and Gaze. As well, they would be carried
out by the feme for her enjoyment--schadenfreude, and if carried out
properly and responsibly it would create for the male joissance of
Otherness.

These first six levels of castration are generally, depending upon how
serious they are, carried out repeatedly. As ongoing fucking keeps the
feme as Other, the repetition of these levels of castration maintain
the male as Other. Seduction into Otherness is the name of the game.
And as stated by Baudrillard in Seduction, "The law of seduction takes
the form of an uninterrupted ritual exchange where seducer and seduced
constantly raise the stakes in a game that never ends." He further
suggests that "sexual pleasure can be just a pretext for another, more
exciting, more passionate game." That "more exciting, more passionate
game" is the one of leading the male through the first six levels of
castration. Levels seven and eight below bring an end to the game.

7. The castration of performance

The seventh level of castration is more permanent. It prevents the
male from having an erection or performing sexually. It is generally
done by deep and radical piercings and the insertion of genital
jewelry. It can also be accomplished chemically. The seventh level of
castration, unless it entails temporary chemical castration, leaves
the male with sexual desire but a total inability or incapacity to
obtain a sexual release or orgasm. [Note: males without Dominas or
Masters will perform these procedures on themselves.]

8. Radical castration

The eighth level of castration, radical castration, entails surgical
removal of the testicles, and possibly more. Radical castration frees
the male from sexual desire as well as eliminating sexual pleasure.
This form of castration is used to create the Gallae, or sexual eunuch
slave of the priestess/Goddess. Such males performed an essential role
in ancient matriarchal societies and would be necessary in future
matriarchies--as well they were found in patriarchates too, e.g., the
Roman temples. Matriarchies need male warriors under their control.
The warrior requires a certain degree of aggression to be in place if
he is going to protect the community. This aggression can take a
sexual form which presents a danger to the femes of the community. The
Gallae are there to be fucked by the males whose aggression may be
needed. Also in a transition from patriarchy to matriarchy, the Gallae
serve a protective function by receiving male aggression which might
otherwise be targeted on femes. This is not homosexuality. The Gallae
function as surrogate femes. Basically, there is a place for every
male in a matriarchy, but every male is kept in his place and under
full control. No violence or force of any kind is required, as the
male is manipulated by and through his sexuality and seduction into
Otherness alone.

Notes to a Scientific Theory of Matriarchy

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