The following list describes the Duties of a Dominant;
It is the duty of a Dominant to know and understand what the wants and needs of a submissive are. Failure to do so may harm the submissive emotionally and mentally.
It is the duty of a Dominant to control his/her emotions. To punish a submissive in anger or to lash out to anyone is abusive.
It is the duty of a Dominant to remember that submission is a gift. To misuse this gift is abusive. When the submissive is not free to take back the gift it is no longer a gift.
It is the duty of a Dominant to watch over and protect all submissive's. This does not mean to protect them from finding some other Dominant and to keep them for oneself.
It is the duty of a Dominant to take only a submissive that will match him/her. A submissive that is not into whips should not belong to a Dominant that loves to whip submissive's.
It is the Duty of a Dominant to take only the amount of submissive's the Dom/Domme can properly handle, control, love, comfort and care for. Do not keep a submissive hanging, giving false hopes. Free and release the submissive so the submissive can get along with finding the right Dominant.
It is the duty of a Dominant to watch and monitor the scene carefully and to ensure the submissive is not being harmed either physically or emotionally. At any time the slightest thing can go wrong and the scene is ruined for the submissive and pleasure becomes actual pain.
It is the duty of a Dominant after a scene to ensure the submissive is emotionally stable. During a scene the submissive is filled with hormones. Afterwards the body reduces them and may cause severe depression to the extent of being suicidal. The submissive must be made to understand the depression and or emotional release is normal and expected. Normal emotions will return in hours to a day. Anything longer is a sign of emotional instability in the submissive and must be corrected before doing another scene. (A Dominant can also experience this depression after a high from the scene.) Each reacts differently some stay high for weeks and when they come down seek the scene again to regain the high. This also can lead to problems such as longer, more intense and dangerous scenes, with unknown Dominants.
Responsibilities of a Dom/Domme
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure an unowned submissive is guided to a Dominant that is suited to the submissive's wants, needs and desires.
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive knows what being abusive is. To insure this is to insure the submissive knows when to call it quits.
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to ensure the submissive knows what the submissive's rights are.
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to teach the submissive information about the Lifestyle. The best method is to teach the submissive how to acquire this information and where he/she can get it. An ignorant submissive can be an embarrassment to a Dominant.
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive grows and develops under the Dominant's ownership, in both the lifestyle and the public life (i.e., job and family). Being submissive only means being a "doormat" when the submissive has made it clear that is what the submissive is looking for.
Dishonorable Acts
For a Dominant to allow a submissive to be actually harmed in ANY way is dishonourable.
For a Dominant to allow a submissive's rights to be violated is dishonourable.
For a Dominant to play with and discard a submissive just for amusement is dishonourable (exception is a submissive that has declared this is the treatment they need).
Unless the submissive has declared them selves to be unowned, another Dominant's interference in a relationship is dishonourable.
To chase after or scene with Another's submissive without the other Dominant's permission and full knowledge is dishonourable.
No Dominant can be expected to live up to the above 100% of the time, others will respect him/her for trying and the harder she/he tries the more respect all will have for the Dominant and his/hers.
