My profile's been glitchy for some time - people who have searched for it have been unable to find it, and direct links have led to "Profile not found" messages. However, I think it *MAY* be working now. If you see this and have a free moment, please drop me a line letting me know it's visible, and how you found it (direct link or preference search). It would seriously help me out. Thanks!

A little more about me:

I can be vicious and selfish in sexual contexts, but I can also be playful and fun. I have a ready laugh and I love to tease more than just sexually. Science fiction is my crack, both to read and to watch, and I love to discuss its implications with others who have similar interests. I love to kick ass in Scrabble, Catan, or Munchkin. I'm feminist and sex-positive and am fascinated by how those intersect.
 
I do fantastic funny voices. The day after laundry day is always rainbow toe sock day, because of course it is! They're the best! I'm a vegetarian. My flat has an inordinate amount of Eiffel-Tower-themed decor for no very good reason. I hate the smell of cigarette smoke but love the smell of a campfire. Sometimes, when I'm startled, tired, drunk, or distracted, my mouth forgets which accent to use. I have never ridden in a roller coaster. Once, when I was five, I decided I wanted to try having a boyfriend and so informed the least-obje.ctionable boy on the playground that he was it. He was rather nonplussed.


(If the kerning in "obje.ctionable" bothers you, try using the word "o b j e c t" or "s c r i p t" in a journal entry to see why I wrote it like that.)

I've been getting messages daily from people who want to spend literally the rest of their lives locked in a room, naked, barely allowed to speak. More frequent are the messages from people who want to spend their days doing housework for a cruel Mistress who will presumably support them financially while harshly finding fault with everything they do, punishing them frequently and creatively.

Many profiles I read are looking for someone who's in scene-mode constantly, perhaps even in fetish wear constantly. In their minds, a Domme's entire life is devoted to fulfilling their fantasies. In their minds, a Domme is never vulnerable. A Domme never laughs except to mock her submissive. A Domme could never fall in love.

I want to fall in love. I want to meet someone spectacular. An intelligent, funny, sweet submissive who makes me laugh and learns to respect me as a person before trusting me with their obedience. Someone I can respect myself.

I want a submissive who has their own life, a job, interests and friends, and doesn't expect to live in a caricatured BDSM scene all the time -- but who does want a Domme who will become the most important person in their world. Someone with a bone-deep need to please, who delights in obedience, who is REALLY good at licking pussy. 

I want someone who will suffer for my pleasure, who will sacrifice themselves to the pain I want to give them because getting me off is just that important to them. I want someone whose heart fills with joy when I tell them what a good little fucktoy they are.

Ideally, I'd like to meet someone who also agrees that Steven Moffat is a dickhead. *grin*

I'm not into female supremacy. I don't need an excuse to hurt and use you; I do it because I want to, because it's fun and it turns me on, and because you want me to. I don't need to build a narrative about how I'm better than you because of my gender, and actually that whole idea is very off-putting to me. If I'm better than you, it's not because I'm a woman.

I'm also not into high-protocol, super-slavery TPE. Submission to my will should be something that flows naturally in our dynamic without an excess of rules or rituals, a simple understanding that I lead in this relationship. 

I'm not looking for someone to subsume their entire self into serving me;  I'm looking for someone whose self is worth keeping as my own and encouraging to grow. I want a whole person whose life enriches my own, not a blank canvas who has nothing to offer but what I add to it myself.

I don't want a worthless toy. Anyone I take on as my submissive will be someone really special. If I needed you to hate yourself in order to serve me, I'd be a terrible Domme and a terrible person. Why should I seek out the useless or worthless? I deserve better. I'm in search of someone wonderful, who recognises their worth and decides to place that valuable gift in my hands.