With the utmost in humility, I consider myself to be an intelligent, well-educated man with a good sense of humor; and a relatively uninhibited mind.  I am nothing if not patient, caring, compassionate, giving, respectful, trustworthy, sensitive and empathetic.  However, with that being said, I can also have a bit of a sadistic streak - if or when it is called for.  I do take great pride in being an honest and trustworthy man.  Now, lots of men say that; but I guarantee it.  Privacy and discretion are very important to me - just as they should be to you.  Finally, please understand that I am a gentleman first; and a DOM second.  I take both of those roles very seriously.  And ‘Yes’, I have always understood, and appreciated, a woman's need to do her due diligence on forums such as this.  There are just too many "loony tunes" out there today.  I just don't happen to be one of them.  So, all that I can say is: “Choose wisely”.  Remember that sometimes the answer to a problem can be serendipitously staring you right in the face.

I am interested in: straight, female submissives; straight DOM/sub couples; or straight DOM’s and DOMME’s alike (so as to compare notes if nothing else).

So, what do you hopefully “bring to the table”?  Well, for starters, you are preferably a straight woman with innately submissive tendencies.  Ideally, you are an expressively feminine lady with a good sense of humor and exhibited intelligence.  That is, you can spell with admirable proficiency; and can form complete sentences.  As well, you would possess, and be able to exhibit to me, the following traits: Honesty, genuineness, openness, sensuality, good written communication skills, respect for both yourself and me, common courtesy, discretion, confidence; and of course, trustworthiness.  Open, honest and timely communication is still important to me; and it should be to you as well.

In your day to day life you exhibit confidence without being arrogant; and humility without having an inferiority complex.  You are submissive because you want to be; or maybe more so because there are moments in time when you need to be.  In the darkest crevices of your mind do you hunger for a man to take control of both your body and your mind?  Is it possible that the small pleasure center in your brain is throbbing; and in serious need of some soothing and sensual stimulation?  Think about that.  Would you be here - on a site such as CollarMe - if that wasn't the case?  Could it be that this man possesses the cure?  Maybe I do?  But, I cannot offer you any assurances in that regard - at least not until such time as we have had the opportunity to openly discuss your symptoms.

Ideally, I would be looking for a longer-term commitment from you with respect to your participation as a submissive.  After all, it takes considerable time for two people to simply build up the requisite comfort level, and trust, with one another before even entertaining a D/s style relationship.  Now, just to be clear, at this point in time I am not looking for a "live together happily ever after" type arrangement.  For me this is strictly about our potential, mutual growth in our respective D/s roles - however we may jointly agree to achieve that goal.

So, again, IF you are an honest, well-balanced, discerning, proud woman who is both serious and genuine about finding what it is she is looking for within this forum - well - then I may be interested in hearing from you.  Believe me when I say that I don't want to waste your time; but I despise it even more when people waste mine.  Thanks for your anticipated co-operation in this regard.

Finally, it is important for me to re-iterate that I am open to discussions with DOM/sub couples as well – whether the DOM is actively involved or not.  If he is, and is open to working with me during his sub’s training process – that is great!  I have already had several requests from other DOM’s on CollarMe for assistance, or suggestions, as to how to deal with their submissive wife or girl friend.  I am usually quite happy to oblige such requests.   IF I can help you, I will.
 

In the context of a site such as CollarMe, whenever possible I do enjoy mature, open, honest and (hopefully) intelligent discussions about the BDSM lifestyle.  However, with that being said, I am just as happy conversing with others with respect to non-BDSM, “life in general” topics as well.  I have a fairly wide variety of interests (and I hope that you do as well).  So, we can talk about whatever might be on your mind.

As I alluded to earlier, I do like to mentor those who truly want to learn; or simply wish to ask a serious question.  For whatever reason, I have always garnered a lot of personal satisfaction from helping others.  Of course, I cannot offer any guarantees in this regard; but I do try.  Or, maybe you just want a sympathetic soul to bounce thoughts, ideas or feelings off of?  If that is the case - well then - I am someone whom you should feel free to contact.

I am also open to participating in the actual training of any female submissives that have a genuine desire in engaging a DOM in this capacity.  And "Yes", I do have both real-time and online experience in this regard.  With that being said my preference is, always has been, and always will be, to participate with female submissives in “real time”.  However, given the all too often scarcity of compatible, local partners; or the vast distances that separate most of us, the majority of the time such training may (?) need to take place via electronic means.  As unfortunate as that may be for both parties involved, I do believe that such an arrangement is still quite workable.  Due to the wonders of modern technology it is possible to inject healthy doses of reality into a virtual training scenario.  I am of the opinion that the menu of available options is still comprehensive enough to keep both parties’ interest.  Now, for those of you that don't happen to believe that statement, that is not a problem.  If you are seeking "real-time" training only, believe me, I fully understand that.  Just tell me up front if that is the case.

Now, for the record, I do not believe in a "cookie cutter" approach to the training process.  It is my belief that - like snowflakes - no two "submissives" are alike.  Each is unique in her own special way; and in her desires.  That means that a specifically structured and tailored approach to their training must be taken.  It must be both purposeful and methodical.  And, as always, open and honest communication must play an integral part.  I can assure you that your feedback will always be welcomed and considered by me, your questions answered, and your needs respected.  I will do my very best to - over time - earn your trust.  Nor will I ever violate whatever trust you place in me.  I also believe that abuse is just that - abuse; but you will be the judge of that for yourself.  In return for these guarantees by me, I will expect: your patience, respect, discretion, honesty, trust, compliance and a willingness to test your limits.

So, and with all of this being said, I do know that I am willing to put in the requisite time and commitment to the training process - but only IF you are.  I will quite honestly have very little tolerance for anything less then the very best that you have to give.  Oh sure, mistakes will be made - by both of us.  That almost goes without saying.  How we collectively respond and react to these mistakes will play a key role in the success of the training process as well.

I think it is also important to state what might already be obvious to some of you - that being the fact that I work for you; and not vice versa.  It is your decision, first and foremost, as to whether or not you wish to engage me.  Subsequently and secondarily, it is my decision as to whether or not I choose to assume the DOM responsibilities that you may ask of me.  In the end, I am fully prepared to let my CollarMe profile - in its’ entirety - stand on its' own merits; and be open to your own scrutiny and assessment.  You will, or you will not, consider me a worthy contender arising from your CollarMe search.  I both accept and respect whatever conclusion(s) you may come to in that regard.  All I ask is that you please read my profile - all of it.  IF after doing so, you think that I am someone that you would like to enter into a discussion with - well - then please feel free to do so.

Anyhow, I hope that you have found the details of my profile of personal interest to you.  If not, well then I wish you nothing but success in finding exactly what it is you are looking for.  It is not an easy journey; but you must remain steadfast to your personal principles, values and desires.  Thanks for stopping by.