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I've been exploring kink online for about 10 years now with the occasional RL hookup. I'm tired of online play and LDR's. I'm looking for something local. Something Real. I'm A Dominant. That means I want to control you. Primarily in the Bedroom but if you want to be controlled elsewhere, that works for me too. I understand the concept of power EXCHANGE. meaning that I can't use any power that you don't give me. Different people give up different sorts of power. I'm not looking (AT ALL) to have to take the power from you so no struggle play, no brats, no SAMs. If your not comfy on your knees then I don't see why I should have to make you be. That said, I don't expect a doormat. I agree to take ALL the power you give me and do terribly wicked things to do you with it. But I expect you to want it. I expect a little pushback at first (I think that's natural. a lot of guys out there claim to be Doms but arn't really dominant...just pushy. lol) I like mindfuck. I like humiliation. I like bondage. I like light/medium pain play (I'm more of an emotional/mental sadist than a physical one). I like orgasm control. I like dolly play and dehumanization. I like shaping and training. molding. But really, I'm very very flexible. As long as you're willing to be a good girl and try to be pleasing, I'm willing to give you the limits and explore the fetishes you want. I know we don't get to decide what turns us on. I'm willing to explore most fetishes If that sounds like *I* am a doormat, no. not at all. I just figure that there's more things that I'm comfortable doing TO you than you have want done to you. so my kink list would be longer...so its easier at first for me to match up to yours than to expect to do all of mine. If we want to push some boundaries..that can come later. If there's anything that's a deal breaker...well, then better we find out sooner and keep looking than try to make it work. The only thing that I would "require" would probably be oral sex...as I think how much a girl adores that often reflects how deeply she likes to please. You'll notice I've not mentioned what She should look like. That's because submission is an internal trait. And if your pretty...but not into being a submissive....then you're not all that pretty to me. I'm here looking for someone that loves it. :) I'm looking for someone that's truly self-identifying as slave, switch or submissive. (Switchs need love too, but I'm not going to be anybody's boy). You need to own it and embrace it and make it your own. knowing what your kinks are is nice...but if you need a firm hand to help you explore kink..I can do that too. That can be fun sometimes.. that said, I would like someone my age or younger (40s or so) and if you have a daddy thing...all the better. I would prefer someone that keeps themselves healthy so HWP would be desirable. I'm currently only looking for someone to play with now and again. weekends and such. I'm not looking for a 24/7 relationship or anything....and well, someone who would just into that right off sounds a little scary to be honest. I'm generally fun-loving and comfy when I'm not in topspace so hopefully you won't expect me to be scary all the time. Behind closed doors? Personality wise, I'm pretty geeky. sci-fi and fantasy (if you know your daleks from your cylons..we might have something in common). medieval history. computers and games. I'm thoughtful and creative and more of a looking forward than looking back type. I would appreciate someone that's a kindred spirit but that's hardly a need...more of a wish. :)