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Shower in the rain of my mood

Toes tapping to the cadence of my cast reflection

You miss a beat, and now I must prove myself

Today I am Gendarme, tarse ahand.

Bend at the waist

White knuckled at the armchairs grip

You may neither speak nor move you may not make a sound

or we begin again



To ten.






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1/11/2018 6:28:28 PM
This isn't so much a complaint as an observation.   Why is it that 90% of my profile views are from gay/trans men/sh?  Sorry fellas and she-dudes, 50 years straight so far.  One never knows, but I really doubt that's going to change at this point.  

11/9/2016 4:33:51 PM
You elected a celebrity salesman as president of the United States. You stupid cunt fucks.

10/27/2016 4:10:41 PM
I want to strip you
wear you down
break you into pieces
listen to you moan
your sweet tears that
beg your surcease
rip and tear tuck and bundle
the sounds of my never ending hunger

the clang of iron cage shut
your eyes look up
no mercy there, or here
your essence is mine

you make no sound
not a creak, not a crack
no uttered thing
obedience to your nothingness
savage in your discipline
never forget
only in service are you free

9/30/2016 10:22:51 AM
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be isolated from your senses for ever longer and longer periods?  Floating in nothingness, cut off from light, touch, unable to speak, unable to even hear, except the ear buds in your ears that activate via-blue tooth.  The empty void, except the occasional punctuation of my voice in your ears, almost soothingly, "you may exist again when your need to serve is greater than your need to breath."

Eventually released, but only when you have been permitted the priveledge of serving.

9/10/2016 4:33:13 PM
I sent this note to someone and thought it interesting enough to share generally.   It's not intended as dogma, but someone raised the fair point that it might be perceived that way nonetheless.  C'est la vie.
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You may find that amongst dominants in general (as opposed to being a gender-specific quality), that there can be a very particular type of dysfunction.  It seems from your postings that you've run across it in men (perhaps boys?) more frequently than in women.  There are self proclaimed dominants whose primary motivation for entering into a D/s relationship, is actually fear, as opposed to confidence or a natural alpha tendency.  

How this works is roughly as follows: 

Dominant X has been traumatized, usually at some point in their youth, by the loss of one or many loved ones (whether friends/family/pets), in a way that transcends the normal amount of emotional stress one would typically expect.  A direct result of the trauma, is abandonment complex.  Said complex rears its head in different ways in folks who suffer from it.  Sometimes the fear of abandonment feeds directly the need in one side of a romantic coupling, in having the other become helplessly unable to leave.  It may be that the greater such disabling is on one side of this equation, the safer the side with abandonment complex will feel.  

You can see how someone that was suffering from this sort of trauma might find great comfort in "TPE" where the ability for the submissive to leave the relationship becomes ever more impossible.  Through trials of use-abuse, and the structural break-down of a person's will, the ability to leave a relationship can be all but entirely removed, to the point where only the incident of institutionalized slavery actually being illegal, is the separation between the two. 

My contention is that this type of dynamic is actually inhabited by the most fragile of egos, so greatly in need of a comfortable and warm place, that they will do almost anything to get it.  

I suspect this is what you've run up against.  I further contend that it's not at all unique to men, although since the expectation for men to be dominant/alpha types is so pervasive, it becomes more obvious by comparison to this often unrealistic standard. 

All the best, 
Xxxxx

8/18/2016 8:14:18 AM
Tightly bound in misdirection
Loving your own dual cast reflection

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