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Experienced, successful and professional seeking long term with the right person. Into some of the more extreme kinks. Looking for experienced subs/slaves only but will be willing to train a newbie under the right circumstances.. I only exchange pics privately.

1/20/2014 2:42:04 PM So here you are. You have submissive and/or slave tendencies. You feel the pull to have someone dominant you, control you, someone to worship and serve, someone who makes you want to grovel and who fills your world. At the same time you want that someone to cherish you. Love you. Embrace and enhance your submissive nature and nurture the person you are. Can you have it? Absolutely. However…Lets take a look at what you’re asking and what you can expect. Expertise You want someone who has the experience to take you on this journey in the right way for the right reasons and with the right outcome…and who is your age. Well right off the bat that means if you’re 20 something the odds of you finding that massively experienced Master who matches the image in your head is pretty damn small. Experience takes time. Experience in power exchange, learning to Master the Art of Domination, takes time. I don’t care how much potential a young dominant has, they need years of seasoning (and ideally a bit of training) to master their art. Masters are not born in a day. They are taught, refined and seasoned through years. Be realistic. If you’re looking for someone young understand you are going to be part of their early journey and the experiences you have are going to reflect that. That doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing but it very well probably won’t match your expectations. So go on the journey and learn together. Build experience and your relationship over time. Expect less, work at it more. If you’re with the right partner, you’ll both get there in time. If you are older, you have a better shot of finding that “perfect” Master already formed. Relationships But…that brings us to the second part. If you’ve been fortunate enough to find someone who is very experienced don’t expect that you are the first submissive/slave they’ve had. Don’t expect their life to be empty of other kinky people. They got that experience somewhere. The better they are, the more likely they are to have power exchange relationships already and to be less interested in monogamous ones. I’m not saying there aren’t any, but many people got all that experience by engaging widely with many people over time. Does that mean they have no room for you? No, it means you get the benefit of all their experience and learning and, if they have other relationships and they’re like me, inclusive, you get the benefit of the experience of people who have already served under them as well. Some of us have extensive kink networks. You get to be part of all that. What don’t you get? Exclusive attention. You might think that’s a big loss. I can tell you when someone lives this way 24/7, there’s a lot of time to give people attention and a huge appetite to do so. You’d be amazed just how much you can do with 24 hour days. What you won’t get is an unhealthy obsession. On either side. This is a benefit. You won’t be a girlfriend. You won’t be a boyfriend. You may be a partner in power. You may be treated like a lover or you may simply be a sex toy (tell me that doesn’t push your buttons ;). You won’t have equal say. You won’t have authority to make decisions without consultation. You won’t live like vanilla people. It’s a big shift. Which brings me to the next point. Integrating So here you are, you’ve found someone interested and you’re all ready to move in and throw your life in their hands. Stop. Right. There. This is big stuff, lifestyle living. Do you really think I or any other dominant worth their salt, who can have any number of great submissive/slaves serving them because they really ARE that awesome dominant you’re looking for, is going to take you off the street, completely unknown and simply plonk you in the middle of their house and life? Reality, folks, is important. And this kind of decision is important. That kind of person is going to take their time. THEIR time. They're going to want to be sure you’re worth the effort, the expense and the disruption to their life. Yes, it will disrupt their life. And dominants can be persnickity about that. So chill. Answer questions. Expect to be interviewed more than once. Expect to be and even with a cushion). And standing at attention? Not only can that be hard on the knees and back but it can get boring and your attention can wander. Does this mean we don’t do these things regularly? No. It means you’re going to have some unpleasant owies along the way until your body adapts. I just want to give a heads up to all you aspiring slaves that think that saying you want 24/7 is going to be enough to get you into a good D/s relationship with the Master of your dreams. Yes, it can happen. Yes it does happen for some people. Yes, the Master of your dreams may well be out there. But you might just be walking right by them because of some preconceived notions about how it all should work. Have a think about that. Then have another look around. You might just see more than you did before.