*This picture is about a month old. I have lost another 10lbs or so since then*
*UPDATE: I am well on my way and have lost about 70+lbs. I run about three to four miles a day, five days a week. My progress has slowed but I AM getting there.
I graduated this last May!
I'm a 31 year old male. I just graduated with my BSBA and I am now heading back for my Master's. Yes, although I am a full-time Graduate student, I am currently unemployed. It happens to all of us at one time or another.
A few years ago, I decided my life wasn't what I thought it should be and I wasn't the man I felt I should be. So, I set a series of goals to mold my life into something I can be proud of. After all, I wouldn't expect a woman to give herself to a man who can't even take care of himself. How could he look after two when he can't look after one?
The first thing was to quit smoking. That was a test of will but all that was required was for me to stop doing something. So I did.
Next on the list was to finish college. I'm fairly intelligent and determined, so I set about taking the required classes. It took a few years but I finished this last May.
Third was to get in shape. This is probably the most difficult goal so far. However, I am making great strides in my personal health. I have lost almost 80lbs in the last year. Not as much as I would like, but it is maintainable and I am not done yet.
Next on the goal list was to advance into a job where I could work on my career. Normally, I try to work on one goal at a time but because of my layoff while trying to finish my bachelor's degree I have to do both.
Since I wrote this profile I had a bit of difficulty getting a position that would pay enough so I have decided to go back for my MBA. So now what I am doing is master's classes and trying to find a Co-Op position that will lead to a nice job after I graduate.
My days are fairly regimented and I find that if you make something into a plan people tend to follow through. So... I enjoy the outdoors as long as there is a plan, like playing disc golf or going for a walk with friends. I enjoy playing soccer even though I haven't been a part of a league in years (I was for 10 years though). I love to cook and I was even a professional chef for quite a while.
If you have any questions about me just ask, I'm not a shy person. Besides, who doesn't like to talk about themselves?
As for what I am looking for, I am more than happy to get to know someone and if it turns out to be someone special enough to create a connection that will last then we both win. I believe that you should meet someone in person in the first six months though because people tend to fall in love with who they think someone is. Then they meet that person and they are just different enough to feel wrong. So even if it is only a single early meeting, you know who you are talking to and we both know if there are going to be sparks.
I'm looking for a woman with whom I can build mutual trust. Someone who is more than capable of holding up her side of the conversation but will be quiet when told to do so. A woman who understands that if I see that I have made a mistake, and apologize, that it is not a sign of weakness. She will enjoy going out but if I decide otherwise then she should enjoy staying home just as much.
We will have to connect in the vanilla way just as much as we have to connect in the BDSM lifestyle. In the end, I want someone who will be mine completely. No part of her is held back, no part forbidden. She sees the importance of giving all of herself to someone who will take care of it. She can trust me to remember her needs.
Now comes the shallow part. I deserve a woman who will be the best she can be for me. This includes physical health and attractiveness. Why would a man accept a woman who is not willing to try? I expect my woman to better herself in every way that we can think of.
We? Did I say we? Yes, I did. If a woman has given herself to me then that includes her mind as well as her body. If the ideas are good then I will consider them, no matter the source. You would think people in this lifestyle would be open minded enough to at least consider others' ideas. Especially ideas that come from people that they own.
Intelligence, beauty, submission. Is that really too much to ask?
I don't think so.
If you have questions, ask.