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EvoJ

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*This picture is about a month old.  I have lost another 10lbs or so since then*

*UPDATE: I am well on my way and have lost about 70+lbs. I run about three to four miles a day, five days a week. My progress has slowed but I AM getting there.


I graduated this last May!

I'm a 31 year old male. I just graduated with my BSBA and I am now heading back for my Master's.  Yes, although I am a full-time Graduate student, I am currently unemployed.  It happens to all of us at one time or another.

A few years ago, I decided my life wasn't what I thought it should be and I wasn't the man I felt I should be.  So, I set a series of goals to mold my life into something I can be proud of.  After all, I wouldn't expect a woman to give herself to a man who can't even take care of himself.  How could he look after two when he can't look after one?  

The first thing was to quit smoking.  That was a test of will but all that was required was for me to stop doing something.  So I did.

Next on the list was to finish college. I'm fairly intelligent and determined, so I set about taking the required classes.  It took a few years but I finished this last May. 

Third was to get in shape. This is probably the most difficult goal so far.  However, I am making great strides in my personal health.  I have lost almost 80lbs in the last year.  Not as much as I would like, but it is maintainable and I am not done yet.

Next on the goal list was to advance into a job where I could work on my career. Normally, I try to work on one goal at a time but because of my layoff while trying to finish my bachelor's degree I have to do both.

Since I wrote this profile I had a bit of difficulty getting a position that would pay enough so I have decided to go back for my MBA.  So now what I am doing is master's classes and trying to find a Co-Op position that will lead to a nice job after I graduate.

My days are fairly regimented and I find that if you make something into a plan people tend to follow through.  So... I enjoy the outdoors as long as there is a plan, like playing disc golf or going for a walk with friends.  I enjoy playing soccer even though I haven't been a part of a league in years (I was for 10 years though).  I love to cook and I was even a professional chef for quite a while. 

If you have any questions about me just ask, I'm not a shy person.  Besides, who doesn't like to talk about themselves?


As for what I am looking for, I am more than happy to get to know someone and if it turns out to be someone special enough to create a connection that will last then we both win. I believe that you should meet someone in person in the first six months though because people tend to fall in love with who they think someone is. Then they meet that person and they are just different enough to feel wrong.  So even if it is only a single early meeting, you know who you are talking to and we both know if there are going to be sparks.


I'm looking for a woman with whom I can build mutual trust. Someone who is more than capable of holding up her side of the conversation but will be quiet when told to do so.  A woman who understands that if I see that I have made a mistake, and apologize, that it is not a sign of weakness. She will enjoy going out but if I decide otherwise then she should enjoy staying home just as much.

We will have to connect in the vanilla way just as much as we have to connect in the BDSM lifestyle. In the end, I want someone who will be mine completely.  No part of her is held back, no part forbidden.  She sees the importance of giving all of herself to someone who will take care of it.  She can trust me to remember her needs.

Now comes the shallow part. I deserve a woman who will be the best she can be for me. This includes physical health and attractiveness.  Why would a man accept a woman who is not willing to try? I expect my woman to better herself in every way that we can think of.

We?  Did I say we? Yes, I did.  If a woman has given herself to me then that includes her mind as well as her body.  If the ideas are good then I will consider them, no matter the source.   You would think people in this lifestyle would be open minded enough to at least consider others' ideas. Especially ideas that come from people that they own. 

Intelligence, beauty, submission. Is that really too much to ask?

I don't think so.

If you have questions, ask. 

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12/12/2010 10:53:34 PM
60 down 26 to go.  Slowly but surely will win the race.  The weight is going slower but the inches are going faster now, which is nice.  Two new belt holes made within the month.  Had to increase the weight I use during lifting and during sit-ups.

Unfortunately, I have had to cut down on the number of walks I have been able to do a week.  Stupid winter.  Actually, I love winter.  The cold breeze that makes your face sting is so exhilarating.  I think I will make a beef stew tomorrow.  Something hearty with lots of veggies.

Wow, Okay... so getting slightly off topic.  Lifestyle change is still going well and I finished taking the GMAT.  Got a 600.  No where near as good as I had wanted and almost 100 points worse than my practice tests, but I got 150 points above what I needed for grad school.

Busy week ahead of me.  At least it won't be boring.

11/8/2010 5:10:42 PM

At least five times a week (normally more), I walk a specific 2.7 mile route for my exercise routine.  Some days I make an effort to run , but most of them are just fast walks.  I figure that no person should have to walk more than 2 and a half miles a day to keep healthy. I know that isn't all I have to do but as for walking/running that is plenty.

Now, I've been doing this for about six months now and I have been making progress on my goals (50lbs Down!).  That isn't why I am writing you today though.  Today I am writing because it is the first time I have ever made my walk in 30 minutes. That is a little over an 11 minute mile!  WOOHOO!

Most of the time I am happy enough with my personal successes that I don't feel the need to tell others about it. I was just so proud this time that I felt like sharing.  So there it is.  Everybody have a great one!


10/13/2010 2:26:54 PM
46lbs down, 40 to go.  It is so nice to be able to modify the weight on my account.

6/28/2010 4:25:57 PM
Have a 4 part plan to get myself to who I feel that I should be. 

Part 1 is quitting smoking. Done.  Was surprisingly easy.  Yes, I miss it but sometimes we have to live without things that we want so that we can have other things we want more.

Part 2, Finish College. Done. Got my BSBA just this last May.  Glad to finally be finished with it. 

Part 3. Lose weight. Started this two and a half months ago.  So far I am down 30lbs with another 60 or so to go.  Not too shabby if I do say so myself.  Had to buy a new belt cause I ran outta holes in mine.  Happiest purchase I have made in years.  I will write again soon how I am doing this part but suffice it to say it is a permanent lifestyle change and not really a diet.

Part 4. Get a real job.  To own someone you must be able to provide for them.   Working on it.  Finishing some Microsoft Certs and such which will help round out my resume and then to send them around.  Middle Management here I come Wooo.

Looks like I have ran outta time.  I will post more later.

12/19/2009 4:20:57 AM
Ah, only 5 months left before I graduate.  I can't express how amazing it feels to finally be entering my last semester.  Not just because I am going to be done with school though, instead I am really excited about starting the other things I have planned that come after.  Three years ago I started working on a plan to make myself the man I wanted to be.  So much more to come but it will come quick, a year, maybe two.  Just to think, by 32 I will be starting to be the man I should be.  I'm very excited.

9/30/2007 11:27:15 AM
As a point of interest.  I was away from collarme for quite awhile and while I was gone I decided to fix a few things.  Lost a bit of weight and quit smoking.  It seems that quite a few women were under the impression that my smoking ment that I could not control myself.  AND if I could not control myself how could I be expected to control them.  Personally, I enjoyed smoking but I thought about it and decided that making my possible submissives feel more comfortable in my abilities would be more worthwhile in the long run. 

I'm back and I will be online more often... when I can be.

2/4/2007 11:53:55 AM
*No names in this journal entry, I don't play that way.  Respect for another human being.*

I found a profile and it was very close to what I wanted in a woman. I messaged her and we began talking. It was wonderful. we talked for hours and our goals and values matched up almost perfectly. We even did the, "you answer first" thing a few times to make sure that each of us wasn't just putting the "I agree completely" answer in. We made promises to be honest with each other. To tell each other what we really felt even if it hurt the other person. We eventually exchanged pictures. And we both though the other person was very attractive.

We were progressing amazingly well. Both of us developing feelings for the other. After a while she said that she needed me to be her owner. She begged me to take her as my slave. I accepted in a probationary period. We had not met yet, we could not be sure we were right until then. She said she understood and agreed. And so I owned her from then on. I laid down rules and regulations... I informed her to call me the next day and gave her my phone number. I wanted her to wish me a good morning. She gave me her number and address. After a while of chatting more that day we ended the chat on a wonderful note.

The next day came... no call. No morning email (which had became standard). I came home that afternoon. We had a time that we met, every day to chat. She was there, I sent the standard invitation to chat. The chat request expired. I sent another, and again it expired. Maybe her comp was messing up. I send a couple of messages her way, to this day she hasn't even read them. Maybe the entire site was messing up for her... Not Unheard of. SO I sent her a couple of emails asking what was up. No response. (mind you, this was over a couple day period. I made sure I wasn't going stalker-esk on her.) I give her a call. I get voice mail and decide to leave her one. Just one.

Day 4 of no communication. I saw her on line and sent her a couple of chat requests... all expired. I think it is time to assume it isn't an error. I hate to assume such a thing. We were getting along so amazingly well. I had gotten to the point of mentioning her to my friends and making plans to visit. I had gotten to the point of thinking about a future.

How could someone do this to another person? WHY would they do it. I just can't understand why. I know why it would end here, the voices in the first call would show the fake OR maybe she got scared and decided to just act like I don't exist. I want to know which. Just a simple message. I would understand if she just didn't want me in her life. I could deal. But I reaaaallly hate not knowing. She could have been the one but now I will never know.

If she isn't interested anymore, I would have appreciated a message, email, anything concrete. I would show no hard feelings even if there may be some. I would take it like a man should.

7/26/2006 4:12:19 PM

Many months have past and I thought I found my perfect little slave.  I was mistaken, it happends.  The important part is to realize when you have made a mistake and correct it as soon as possible.  I will find her eventually, though it is just a matter of time.  Goodluck to everyone else though.  In this lifestyle finding the perfect one is rare but worth it.  And everyone could profit from a bit of luck.




11/29/2005 4:51:17 PM
Well, after a few months it seems that the woman that I was very interested in was not right for me.  Or maybe I wasn't right for her. Either way, it appears that it didn't work out.  So, once again, I am on the quest to find my one.  However long it takes.

EvoJ

10/23/2005 6:03:03 AM
  I have recieved a few emails recently about what I have said in my profile about my weight and my smoking.  I mentioned that I would gladly quit/ lose weight for the right person.  Many people have told me that I shouldn't change for someone else.  And I agree totally.  Noone should change who they are for anyone else.  But these things that I mentioned are not part of who I am.  They are just things that I do.  I am overweight because I do not mind to be.  It is not a part of who I am.  It is just an aftereffect of something that I enjoy.  And smoking is just something I enjoy.  I would change these things because they are just that, things.  They are not who I am.  I would just be changing those things to show that I am not ruled by my urges and I can control myself.  I hope this cleared up the way I feel about this topic.  If it did not and you have any questions, just drop me a line and I will try to explain it further.

I think that is about it for today.  Good luck finding your Ones people.  Everyone needs all the luck they can get.

EvoJ

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LadyGSpot1985
 
 Submissive, Age:  50
 Niagara Falls, Canada
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