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I posted a pic of some toys I made myself. I used to sell them but I couldn't fill the demand for custom orders.
But now back to my current rant;
For the last few years, my pictures on "Collarme" have been removed. My profile contained only a short phrase :"gone fishing", like the sign you would leave in a shop window when you take the day off. After years away, I found I had missed messages from old friends here. I discovered it was fun to check the profiles, listen for buzz and perv the pictures. Years ago, the message boards became tiring for me. To this day I have no real presence.
Still, I enjoy talking about this thing we do and am willing to converse with anyone on the topic. In part this is because when i was a newbie I had people who took the time to help me understand.
Today I was informed that I have been "stinkbombed" in the sub forums by someone I have never met. It would make more sense if I had been slimed by someone I know. Mistakes have been made, tears have been shed. But how does it make sense to suffer at the hands of someone you don't know? Ladies, beyond common courtesy; exactly what do you feel you are owed by any male dominant on this site? I don't demand the old school protocals of respect but a civil tongue is appreciated. My grandmother taught me manners five decades ago, what makes this person think I am in need of lessons?
This person and I shared a few satisfactory messages, but every position she took, every statement she made was like fingernails on the black-board to me. I took a professorial stance, not taking anything personally, seeing it as a challenge to inspire some small insights. But in the end I was reminded the world is a big place. I wished her well; that she should enjoy her half of the world, while I plan to enjoy mine. Life is too short to devote much of it to unpleasant strangers. There are a thousand reasons and a thousand stories, but the bottom line is sometimes the only sensible thing is to bid someone adieu. Surely each one of you ladies have reached that decision point with people tangential to your life and even with important ones. Is it so hard to understand?
Years ago, I hoped everyone would like me, and was convinced that everyone would agree with my views if I only explained them enthusiastically enough.
But then I grew up.
I don't expect pity. Many here have suffered this indignity and much more. I hope some of them take comfort in my words. Feel free to share.
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I have thought for a while about this issue of Dominants in their twenties. And submissives who have served five years at twenty two. One thing I concluded about a beautiful 18 year old whose profile I read here on Collarme, was that she had been abused. The second thing I concluded was that her bonafides as a slave were impeccable.
I think the game is different now. It doesn't take years of pouring through textbooks and Victorian porn to get a feel for this thing we do. They don't have to buy an old paperback of the "leatherman's handbook" and squint at it sideways to glean what you could glean would apply to female submissives. You don't have to apprentice yourself to an old school Dom or Domme, and spend years tonguing asses to learn what you need to know about the facts of life.
Since the AOL days, kink has always been there. Easy, plentiful. There are chatrooms and message boards, novels, fanfics, rulebooks and governing boards. It is a brave new world. It is easier to make a Dom, and painfully easier to equip someone who is not a Dom with the words and costumes to make him look like a Dom. I have thought long and hard about what makes the difference between me and these cyber Dom wannabes, who never had to invest the time to learn their chops.
They have all surfed the web. They know what a gal bound in black straps of leather looks like. They all know what a gal whipped until a fine sheen of perspiration covers her body looks like. They all know what a woman with her rump in the air, reaching back with painted fingernails to spread her cheeks for a man's pleasure looks like.
These things and many others are a common commodity like Walmart underwear.
But me...me I know what she looks like, what she smells like, what she feels like, what she TASTES like. I have in my day thrilled to every aspect of a real woman, not a fantasy And that is something you can't fake. That is a magnitude of difference. |
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Someone asked me a question; why is my profile full of whining about being done wrong by some impolite subby? Well the truth is, this is just a small part of my internet footprint. Before I got stinkbombed, this profile had been sanitized for years with nothing but a sign saying "gone fishing". I really wasn't set up for a big subby search. I was just occasionally connecting with friends and perving the pics. There are people who know me, on other sites and in the real life scene. My friends here are from long ago, when I had a picture here and occasionally met someone new here.
Which is why I felt so aggrieved, I have gone far beyond the stage where newbie doms post "on your knees bitch" to unknown subbies to break the ice. I was just minding my own business.
Once I got stinkbombed, a bunch of supposed subbies, dropped by here to insult me a few more times. I don't have any way of addressing the insults this woman has seeded far out of sight like a cat shitting in the dark. But it occurred to me that her insults were a signpost to my journal, and that in my journal I could post my side of the story for all to see.
In time, her insults to me, will no longer be of interest to anyone, and people will stop dropping by to give me an extra jab, and that will be fine. In time I will find something else to do with this profile. But for the moment, I am content to devote this finite piece of my online presence to airing this bit of dirty laundry. |
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Dominants; You may one day be unable to extricate yourself from a prolonged conversation with a nutbag you wouldn't fuck with somebody else's dick. Don't try to explain the situation graciously. Consider the possibility that this troll is just keeping it rolling so she can dump an edited version on the sub forums, like a cat shitting in the corner.
Keep a watchful eye for a premeditated effort to gather enough verbiage to be able to set off a stink-bomb to sully your reputation . If you think the truth will protect you, it won't. She will sneak back to the the land of the butt-hurt subbies where they all bob their heads and congratulate each other on how brave they all are. There each post is a regurgitation of how much they all suffer. No voice will be raised saying how everyone has a right choose not to talk to someone. The outrageous hypocrisy of how three posts earlier they congratulated some woman for threatening to put a pen in the eye of some guy because he had the audacity to talk to her, will never be voiced. You see, a guy says he doesn't want to talk to a gal, unacceptable. Gal threatens to stick a pen in a guy's eye for talking to her; thundering-round-of-applause! Of course this wouldn't work in the open forums, with dissenting opinions. But that is not where she will go. She knows her audience. I don't suggest you try flowery oratory. My experience is that they neither understand nor appreciate subtlety. Why not go with your first instinct and tell them to eat shit and die? She will stinkbomb you, and lie about the interchange to make the troll look like the victim. But she was going to do that anyway, so really what do you have to loose? |
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Stalker-Troll-Subby of the ....Let's figure the last 9 years, As I have never experienced anything like it.
Did you know that someone can send you an unsolicited message and then blackmail you with stinkbombs in the sub forums if you don't answer how they like?
Did you know that there are female Trolls just as bad as the males?
Did you know, and I admit I didn't, that if someone sends you a provocative graphic about spanking, the graphic disappears from the message record allowing them to cut and paste the messages claiming outrage about a subject while pretending they aren't the ones who brought it up?
The first message she sent me was something referring to my profile, which was cut down years ago, all my photos removed, and nothing but a message saying "Gone fishing". Who knew this was chum in the water for stalker-subbies. All these years I had accepted the common wisdom that if you wanted to meet new people you had to have a profile picture;
"walkerCT on 3/15/13 at 2:56 PM: hows the fishing? catch anything?"
To which I answered something equally trite and mentioned something that was on my mind. I had been composing a paragraph on this thing we do in my head for another forum. I admit my writing gets a bit blue at times For which I apologized. Still I have my fans.But apparently presence on an adult forum, does not guarantee an adult, I asked for a break as it was my birthday, we all wax a bit philosophical on our birthdays. The exchange continued to go south like this:
(walkerCT sends me a suggestive graphic on the subject of birthday spankings
As mentioned the graphic with the picture of the whip disappears from the message log, I didn't know that, did you?)
To which I answered lightheartedly;
"Evlgryn on 3/20/13 at 11:57 PM: Well you know that as a top, I designate a sub to take my spankings. Are you volunteering?"
Which prompts:
"walkerCT on 3/21/13 at 3:53 AM: i DONT KNOW YOU NOR AM I VOLUNTEERING FOR YOU. so what else? or another weak try to break the ice?"
My mistake after this pungent piece of crazy: I continued to converse with the woman like a human being.
But clearly I am at the end of my patience as I write;
"Evlgryn on 3/21/13 at 11:30 PM: As it happens I was very fond of a lady with a similar name. It would have been a pleasant surprise if we had known each other. But it was a long shot. I was just trying to be amusing. If that offends you; it's a big country. No reason for us to ever converse again. You call it."
But incredibly, it doesn't end there. I get back:
"walkerCT on 3/22/13 at 11:57 AM: (T)hat('s) great you had some sort of a play partner or some sort of a garbage with another. I dont play long shots, they never pan out
(M)aybe you need to try a different tact, maybe one with a few manners. you were not so amusing. moreover a bit RUDE
(Y)ou are right it is a big country. maybe you can act like someone I would want to know. (A)nd yet you seem to be amusing to a stranger who does not know your sense of humor nor your style. that makes no logical sense
(S)o if you want to continue try to be real...can you do that?
(Y)ou can call it, pal(.)"
(I am sorry for correcting the grammar, I had to endure the original unwashed version, but there is no reason why you should. It is hard enough to be called stupid by someone who can string a paragraph together, this is intolerable.)
To which I replied;
"Evlgryn on 3/24/13 at 8:11 PM:
Done, enjoy your half of the world."
You would think that would be the end, but astonishingly it was not.
My advice to all of you; beware trolls continuing arguments so they can have something to bitch about when they cut and paste it to others.
I have heard from several geniuses here who claim to have read the whole unedited thing. But somehow, the fact that this woman contacted me unsolicited was a big surprise. And the suggestive graphic she sent me about birthday spankings, with the whip, never made the cut. But that is really the kind of omissions it would take to make this woman look like the sane one.
My advice to all you tops out there. If you get threatening messages, that sound like the person feels they have some kind of power over you. And you when you can't figure out why they keep bothering you; it is because they are planning to blackmail you.
My weakness is I like to talk to people, and talk about this thing we do. So I will generally message back to anybody, even someone like this that has none of the qualities I look for in a friend or submissive. I am a story teller, and I am always looking for a new angle or insight on the truth of what we do. Of that I am guilty.
My advice to WalkerCT; you need a new hobby.
There are plenty of people here pretending to be submissive when they are not; even female when they are not. I am used to it. But walkerCT you have brought the vindictive mendacity here to new heights.
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I have been on Collarme, under the same name since 2004.
In 2013 a bunch of smart subbies discovered the supposed truth about me. That I am a bad bad man.
Nine years and the dozens of people who know me in person have been fooled. A smart smart subbie, edited a few unsolicited messages most of which were me. trying to tell her in an academic tone to go away. I did not suspect she was taking down every message, hoping to get enough to stinkbomb me.
If I knew how underhanded she was I would have told her to fuck-off, after the first two times she sent me messages. I thought there might be some lessons learned. I was still answering her truthfully.
I have heard of others who have been slimed here, I just thought it would take an actual relationship, or someone who knew me to do it. Apparently the standard of truth for the trollls claiming to be females on Collarme is not that high.
Make no mistake, that is what it is a Troll. And the people huddling in the corner whining about their respective butthurts who bob their heads and tell her how brave she is for this piece of premeditated blackmail, are just as much to blame as this bunnyboiler. Does it matter that she has done this to multiple people? |
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My philosophy; Life is short. I got no time for bullshit.
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Mistress, Age:
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