The argument previously was that the 1950s style fetish (50SF) was incompatible with reality because there are social and economic constrictions. It was argued that because both partners in the relationship must maintain employment to exist comfortably in the 1950s household, that the relationship could not be a viable economic lifestyle. Social implications for the couple are obvious, for the traditional male-female dynamic, where the male is the head of household (HoH) there are several stigmas attached to this role that may make life in our society quite uncomfortable. Also for the submissive female feels constant pressure by society that says:
“Your submissive instincts are wrong and therefore you are wrong.”
It is possible to maintain the HoH dynamic if the relationship is kept private as most relationships already are, regardless of the kink. The argument against the 50SF is a legitimate one even when kept private. Every kinky bastard out there knows to keep the “life” safe, consensual, and private if they expect to stay employed and living within civilized society. The main argument is the financial one. Therefore the 50SF should be replaced with the modern equivalent, the Head of Household.
The HoH is a unisex term, therefore this person may be either gay or straight, male or female, and the same rules in the 50SF apply. The HoH may not be the soul bread winner, but he is the person in charge and he makes the decisions. He enforces the rules that his partner agree on. He handles discipline, corrections and punishments and sometimes, rewards; when his partner does something above and beyond the call of duty. The topic of this paper is how this can work, and the purpose is to give the author an erection.
Most days start around six in the morning. The submissive will have coffee on, clothing laid out and lunch packed. She will give herself all the time she needs to give her Dominant oral sex, before breakfast, and plenty of time to handle her own morning rituals. This is the first and ironically the last chore of the day. After the HoH has left for work she handles her business. If she works earlier than the Dominant, arrangements may be made to wake her HoH up with the blowjob just before she leaves, though it makes sense for her to do this before she showers to avoid a mess. The breakfast and lunch may be set aside for her Dominant to find after she leaves.
The next chore is shopping for food. This is a simple task all submissive persons should become accustomed too. Clipping coupons and planning meals are an essential part of the HoH dynamic, and a duty best fit for the sub. When the sub gets home she should be prepared to clean and cook dinner for her Dom, serve him, and then clean up after words. The last chore is the preparing of the meals for lunch. And that is it, four simple chores:
1. Make breakfast leave out lunch and blow your Dominant,
2. Clip coupons, do the shopping and have a meal plan
3. Clean and maintain the home
4. Cook dinner, cleanup afterwards
Most Dominants are capable of training their subs to get these tasks completed. The trick is to structure the environment and create patterns that are easy for them follow. Create an assembly line atmosphere in the home so that task are quickly and efficiently accomplished. During the training period it is necessary to correct the submissive when she forgets a task, or makes a mistake, this is usually a spanking, either with a hand, or a belt usually administered over the knee (OTK) or with her bent over the kitchen table. This is not a punishment, it is a correction and the submissive needs to be aware of the difference. A correction is an error, meant to help her remember and learn from this error, while a punishment is reserved for premeditatedly breaking a rule. I reserve the belt for this-unless of course she likes it.
Now stress factors come to play in real life HoH situations. Sometimes it will be impossible to keep to the rules and schedules, pardons may be necessary. I warn the Dominant to avoid this at all costs, because the submissive need this discipline, she needs to be reminded of her place. Yes there are circumstances beyond her control that make it impossible for her to be everything to everyone. Tires blow out, traffic is bad, she had a hard day at work, and things are stressful-tough shit. Corrections will happen and if she cannot handle it she can call red. Never be afraid of her calling red. This is a good thing; it shows she has the confidence to let you know she needs a break. When this happens, make sure you reserve the right to correct her later, and then cuddle and hold her and try to make her feel better. This should encourage her to submit to the correction later, because her Dom had the confidence to stop when she called red.
Lastly, keep it real. It is just sex people. These are basically just living role playing games. Slavery is a travesty. It is blight on humanity, and should be scoured and hated. Real abuse happens every day and real human beings who are not consensual submissives are killed and raped as a result. This is not what we do, but keep in mind when you have your fun. We are simply meeting each other’s needs, by providing the stimuli necessary so our partners may experience a truly exceptional sexual experience. Whatever the kink, whatever the title you go by, Top bottom, Dominant, submissive, master slave, remember, the primary goal is to have an awesome orgasm and a truly cathartic experience!
