Somewhat sane and quite-old (though not really 90) reasonably proficient dom who sometimes prefers the attentions of a sadistic domme, (or temporarily cooperative sub) in order to be certain that his pain receptors are functioning properly.
I can, therefor, discuss or assume either role with those interested.
Based on inherited genes plus a reasonably and vigorous lifestyle I expect to be around for long enough to be well past my now-claimed 90.
TO FURTHER DESCRIBE MYSELF (AND TO FURTHER MY OWN UNDERSTANDING OF MYSELF I HAVE BEGUN THIS ADDENDUM TO MY PROFILE. IT IS NOT YET COMPLETE.
ANOMALIES:
For me there is no good-pain/ bad-pain distinction. It all hurts, so it's all bad. But why, then, do I yearn, occasionally, for a younger lady, who has a sadistic desire to strap me helplessly down and use two simple nipple clamps to My definition of younger ladies is one between 50 to 75 or thereabout )
Unlike some who claim that BDSM has nothing to do with sex, I find it has everything. That does NOT mean that that a session must end in sex; merely that for me BDSM and sex are inextricably linked in my mind.
SOME THINGS I DO NOT UNDERSTAND … (There are lots more.)
(Nowhere in the list which follows do I mean to criticize those who disagree. Your thing is yours, my things are mine.)
To save my life I cannot understand decorative bondage, I tie, or am tied, so that unrestricted access to a captive body is available without obstruction.. No more, no less. If the bondee is helpless, it is good bondage, Your mileage may vary.
I am surprised that so many recognized their kinkiness late in life. I saw what I now know were evidences of kinkiness in myself perhaps as early as 1940, and well before puberty. The funnies of the time often showed either Tarzan or Jane, Flash Gordon or Dale or even Dick Tracy tied and facing some hideous torture at the hands of a merciless captor. (It quickly occurred to my precociously evil mind that naked captives would be far more vulnerable, an opinion I still hold.)
People who claim to have NO limits.. Bull!!!!! Or even bull____. Start with someone who blinds you with red-hot pokers, then goes on to the really painful stuff. Still no limits.? In fantasy I have none either, but as either binder or bindee I try to keep fantasy and reality a few yards apart.
Frankly I am more than a little suspicious of anyone who independently names himself “Sir,” “Master,” “Lord,” etc. those titles are earned, not self-applied. This hubristic idiocy is mostly a male thing, but I am equally suspicious of the handful of female equivalents, (Of course I think of myself as Overlord of the Universe. (Or Underlord if in bottom mode), so my opinion may be skewed.
Bottoms should be totally naked to enable access to any part desired, and tops should be dressed (or undressed) for their own comfort.. Photos of garter belts, shoes with heels higher than the Matterhorn, overshoes or the like are a turnoff.
I probably wrong a few ultra-young (18 to 24 or so) alleged dommes by thinking them either clueless or fake, but I'll wager I am right about most.
Nor do I understand (or respect) any domme who says that it is ALL about her.. The hell it is. Sane and decent people follow the you-scratch-my itch and I hope this does yours approach.
.......... more to come
