Hello and Welcome!

I'm a pretty straightforward, straight-shooting kinda guy. So to start things off here I'm going to lay down some ground rules so you'll know where you stand, exactly what to expect and exactly what to do next. (If I were a submissive woman I would appreciate that.)

First, I'm writing this profile so you can contact me if you think we may be a match. I won't be contacting you from reading your profile. It is my opinion that for a dominant man to contact a submissive woman, basically saying, "please consider me", then that just starts things off on the wrong foot altogether. I think we'll be off to a much better start if/when you decide of your own free will to contact me. As you read below, you will find specific instruction that will tell you what to say when you respond to me.

I'm probably not nearby you but to the right woman that will make little difference. If I say we go live on a sailboat in the Caribbean, we go live on a sailboat in the Caribbean. If I say we go live in an igloo in Alaska, we go live in an igloo in Alaska. In whatever surroundings you find yourself I expect your complete and total devotion. So, it doesn't really matter where we live at this moment in our lives. Yes, this is a test.

When you contact me, I would like you to include the phrase, "My purpose in contacting you is:" and I would like you to finish that phrase/ sentence/ thought. Yes, this is another test.

Second, as far as a relationship with a mate/ wife/ slave/ submissive is concerned, I'm all about dominance. You should be all about submission. You must desire a 24/7, TPE lifestyle/ structure/ relationship. The relationship you seek must be the most important thing in your life. Most of us have children and/or careers and/or other family. We all have responsibilities, hopes, dreams, desires and other of life's complications. But! When you are part of the kind of relationship I demand, all those things become a part of that relationship. There is no conflict! D/s is not something I keep in a closet to be brought out for playtime. D/s has permeated my life. D/s is a part of my very soul and being and part of everything I do. You must want that to rule your life.

When required by what is best for the relationship, we change careers, we relocate, we travel, we do what is best for the kids in the present with an eye to what will be possible as they grow older and become more self sufficient. At all times my focus remains on the relationship and the relationship is inseparable from D/s. You must want this to rule your life.

I am financially secure. If you are destitute, that is no problem. If you are wealthy, I couldn't care less unless you've let it go to your head (which I won't put up with for one instant). If you're in between, it is a nonissue. The issue is, do you need to be in a complete and total D/s relationship?

I have a life. I'm sure you do too, for that matter. Neither of us is without baggage. Together, and under my guiding hand, we will organize, structure and otherwise deal with your "life" baggage. You will embrace my baggage. You will become part of my life. Of course you will change my life. But more so, I will change your life and you will glory in making those adjustments, whatever they may be, in order to be with me, serve me and become my property.

You should not contact me if you do not understand or if you disagree with what I'm saying here. Yes, this is a test.

Feeling secure, feeling loved, feeling controlled, instructed and taught and so on must be the primary internal drive and dynamic of your personality. Having love, service and surrender to give in immeasurable quantities must be the offerings you have to place at my feet.

The woman for whom I write this profile will understand and embrace that her submission is what she needs to make her happy, whole and fulfilled. Being in the type of relationship I describe will reinforce for her every day that she is loved, wanted and cherished. The woman for whom I write this profile will understand the hand-in-glove symbiotic nature of a D/s, M/s, Owner/property relationship. If you think submission is some sort of "gift", then you probably do not understand the concepts I'm describing in this paragraph. Yes! This is a test.

Third, you are going to have to be a very, very special person to pass my tests and become my property. In our society a woman who feels an internal drive to be held as property, to be completely under the control of her owner usually ends up living her life with that passion unfulfilled. Virtually all our society's teaching will guide her away from her instinct. Indeed, she will be taught by society that the only way to self-worth is through her exercising full control over herself. Paradoxically, she submits to society's control when she allows these destructive theories to rule her life.

Likewise, it is only through rejection of society's destructive teachings and through embracing her own internal drive to submit that she is truly what society "says" it wants her to be, i.e., free. It is only through this process of being true to herself that she actually is independent, self-reliant and "equal" to find her own happiness in her own way. Is it any wonder if she ends up unhappy with her life and relationships when she follows society's demands to reject her submission and her longing for control?

The woman for me will be intelligent enough to see through this smoke-and-mirrors charade. And she will be strong enough to reject these self-contradictory, destructive, Victorian values. If you are the woman for me you will understand that like the lioness you must deal with the rest of the world on the basis of survival of the fittest, most aggressive and most competent. And like the lioness to her mate you will crawl to me, lick my feet and offer up all of yourself to my benefit and pleasure. Like the lioness, you will understand there is no conflict or confusion in the difference between the way you deal with the rest of the world and the way you respond to me.

If you feel the need to write in your profile something like "all correspondence and decisions must be approved by my mentor" then you are not showing me the individual strength and resourcefulness of the lioness I describe above. And, you are probably not a good match for me. Similarly, if you feel the need to write within your profile "I am no doormat", then you are not showing me that you understand the lioness' ability to lead the hunt one minute and in the next moment crawl in subjugation to her mate. And, you are probably not the woman for me. Of course, this is a test.

Do not contact me saying, "I am poly and demand a poly freedom". Do not contact me saying, "I am monogamous and will not share my master". Do not contact me saying, "I want to be forced to service all your friends." Do not contact me saying, "I must never be shared." Do not contact me saying, "I must be whipped," or, "I can not bear being whipped." As time goes on, I will be quite(!) interested in your desires, fantasies, inhibitions and so on. I will want to know your deepest, darkest, wildest thoughts, feelings, dreams and fears. But I have no patience with you telling me what will and will not be allowed, or what will or will not be done.

It is my observation that in the vast majority of cases in which a woman submissive accuses a man of dishonesty, her accusation will be somehow related to sex. He had an affair. He had a fling. He had a one-night-stand. He "played" with someone else. He was married. And so on, into infinity. If you read and understood the paragraph above, then you should be able to understand that I do/will have absolutely no reason to lie to you. I am not going to allow you to tell me what I may and may not do. I am going to be the one who dictates your actions, not the reverse. Once you understand the preceding three sentences, then you should be able to understand that I have no need to deceive you. Think about it! I do not lie. I can say that because I am very vigilant about not allowing myself to be put in a situation where I am acceding to your demands.

(And while we're on the subject, if you are not completely honest in every little, tiny way - do us both a favor and just go on to the next profile right now. Hint: Sending me a ten year old picture when you were a hundred pounds thinner is not honest.)

If you want a man who will allow you to tell him how you will submit to him and how he will be allowed to dominate you, then you need look no farther than the next profile. If you want to come into a man's life and be molded into the delight of his life, if you want to be taught to be the possession that lights up his eyes with pride and joy, if you want to be the ecstasy-come-to-life of his passions and fantasies, then perhaps you are the woman for whom I write this profile. Yes, this is a test.

Fourth, let's talk about sex! (And kink!) Like in other areas of my life, in my sex life, D/s has become an indivisible and ever present part of what I am. I love and practice virtually all the sexual activities you will find in vanilla sex manuals. At the same time, these activities are inseparably part of D/s sexuality in my life. Today, both the givers of sexual advice and the practices of the average "Joe" and "Jane" we pass on the street are constantly and continually expanding vanilla sex practices. The blindfold and even the handcuff have become widely accepted. But even beyond the limits of vanilla sex practices, I also enjoy and practice many kinkier activities.

If I am a specific fetishist, it is in the fetishes of control and commitment that I revel. (Surely that is obvious from this profile.) So, if you are a swinger you are probably not the woman for whom I write this profile.

In terms of specific sexual fetishes, I practice and will lead you to experience most of the fetishes you will find in any extensive fetish list. Not all, but almost all. Some to a greater degree, others to a lesser degree depending entirely on what they do for us. I have not reached the end of sexual exploration and I think that for an imaginative, sexually oriented person there is no end to reach in a lifetime. If you are the woman for me, you will eagerly follow me in these explorations of the wild and the wicked! Make no mistake. This is a test.

Love, Sex, D/s and S/m are all so entwined and mutually interactive that they have no separate places in my life. In the basic vanilla missionary position we will also be experiencing a D/s dynamic. And more likely than not, at that same time we will share a S/m experience whether it is as mild as pinching nipples or something more. And, how can I not love the woman with whom I share these emotions and physical experiences? How can I not love the woman who eagerly and passionately follows where I lead?

In my life, Love, Sex, D/s and S/m are things that, like building blocks, build one upon the last and become more and more and more. The next is predicated on the last, which finds its foundation in the previous, and so on. If you can understand the concept I am describing, you may be able to understand that my passion for one-night-stands has vastly diminished from the pre-AIDS, "free love", wild-oats-sowing time of my youth. If you are still into no-commitment sex-for-sport, or if you are a regular at your local bdsm group where you negotiate and submit in temporary play scenes it is unlikely that our philosophies of Love, Sex, D/s and S/m are a good match.

By this point in reading this profile it should become obvious to you that my philosophies and practices in Love, Sex, D/s and S/m are quite different from what you've read online or been told in a bdsm group. If you think a former "dom" or "Master" has "trained" you, you will probably have to rethink and "unlearn" the majority of that before we can make much headway. But I have a passion for teaching, so it is likely we will find your re-education a bonding process. And, if you are new to D/s and S/m we will have an exceptionally erotic and bonding experience in store for us.

You will find me a very patient and thoughtful man when you display a hunger and make an effort to learn and grow. My passion for teaching, guiding, leading is part of what makes me the man I am. Whether you are new to bdsm, or growing in your experience and knowledge, I will teach you that it is not the step we are on that is important. Rather, the important things are taking those steps together and growing closer to each other in that process. To that end, baby steps are just as fulfilling, and sometimes more so, than the longer steps that come later.

I have little interest in cyber, telephone or camera sex. Flesh is what I am, flesh is what I need and flesh is what I require. I have little interest in an interminable internet chat or telephone courtship. We need to meet fairly quickly. That said, I have no requirements for a meeting other than we simply get to know each other. No sex requirements. No requirements of submission. No requirements means no requirements. We should have dinner, take walks, listen to music, have fun together, get to know each other, all in a safe no-pressure public environment. You can't do that worth a damn over the phone or over the internet. We need to each become comfortable with the other person. This is the way we learn to trust and love each other.

It would be potentially confusing and perhaps even a self-destructive decision for me to place an arbitrary time limit on how long our "courtship" should be. Therefore, I will not create an arbitrary time frame for courtship or getting to know each other. It should take however long it takes. At the same time, you will need to show consistent and pleasing progress to hold my interest. I will need to feel you growing closer to me, relying on me, choosing to defer to me. To make me feel these things you're going to have to stop your search here on collarme and also in your everyday life. You're going to need to focuse all your energies on creating something with me. You need to keep these things in mind if you want to succeed in your goal of becoming my property.

You must want to follow this plan for igniting and creating a relationship. Yes, this too is a test.

Fifth, I am an emotionally mature person and I am only interested in an emotionally mature person. If you are very much younger than I am it is unlikely you have attained a comparable level of emotional maturity. You will have to be a very special woman to successfully pass my tests. If you are my age or older but still have not achieved emotional maturity then it is unlikely we will be a good fit.

I do not include a picture here because some of the work I do is in the eye of the public. I am physically attractive and I do expect the same. I have acquired a middle-age roundness. However, I am not huge and would not be interested in a huge person. If you are vastly over weight the first thing I will have you do is diet and exercise. If you are not willing to do these things immediately, do not contact me. Similarly, if you are malnourished the first thing I will have you do is exercise and take in more calories. Either way, I will likely have you see a physician. If you are not willing to do these things, do not contact me. Yes, this is a test.

Sixth. I will make you three promises:

Promise #1: I will be the best owner and master that I can be. As part of that I will guide you and teach you to be the best property/slave that you can be. (They are one thing.) This is a big promise, but at the same time it is just my nature. I could not be otherwise on a bet.