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As my name implies, I'm an emerging Dom.
My first realized interest in the lifestyle came about 6 years ago. Although, when I look back, it can be traced to my high school years. MTV's The Max or video games like Double Dragon brought out this excitement that at the time I repressed. It took many years for me to understand that I should embrace and explore these feelings, emotions and desires.
I would describe my style as unconventional and unique. In a way I feel lucky for having so much time to explore my own thoughts and desires before I brought them to a community. I had no preconceived notions of what it meant to be dominant, it's what I thought it was, it's what was intuitive to me.
And what's that, you might wonder...I think a D/s relationship is, like all successful relationships, based on mutual trust and respect as well as a willingness to expose some vulnerability. Trust is knowing that, ultimately, your partner cares about your well-being and does not judge that which helps make you a more complete and fulfilled person. Respect is about showing consideration for that trust. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, but of great strength - both emotionally and intellectually. If we do not know our vulnerabilities, we can never increase our strengths. Much a like a chain, we are only as strong as our weakest part. Understanding that weakness can only make us stronger.
Being dominant, for me, also has a very strong leadership component to it. Leadership, whether defined in the board room, on the field or among friends is about achieving something as a combined group (whether that's a traditional MF or less traditional poly relationship). It's about recognizing how each person contributes (understanding and incorporating each persons natural skill set) to make the whole better. Trust, respect and vulnerability are foundations for achieving that goal.
I could go on...and maybe I will in journal posts...
My style is not to demean you, make you weak or belittle you, but to have you understand your weaknesses, confront them and make yourself stronger and thus making me and others around us stronger.
I've always felt that submission, much like vulnerability, is not a sign of weakness, but of great strength and in many ways, the most poignant way to show respect.
Finally, more than anything else, I'm a good timer. Life is too short not to laugh, have fun, seek pleasure and maybe push a few boundaries.
That's all I have for now - but feel free to welcome me and say hi!
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