7/3/2010 2:14:37 PM

I am a very happy woman!  I have a wonderful girl and lovely husband sub and now I have found My second male, finally.  Life is good.  I just wish I could spend more time with My darling baby girl.  I miss you Quiet Whispers!

6/16/2009 7:29:14 PM

I give up. No one here seems to be real or follow thru.

1/18/2009 5:45:36 PM

FYI I do have another profile, urCougarDomme.? Profiles get stale, I get bored, so periodically I create a new one.? No big thing, so it goes!

12/15/2008 8:12:28 AM

I've heard it all or The Dog ate My homework! Well you subs seem to come up with an amazingly mundane set of excuses and stories and I believe in My time here I have heard most of them! Scenario one:  I am an experienced sub who served my former Mistress until she died tragically insert tragic form of death here.  Now I am ready to move on! Scenario two:  I was raised by My insert female relative here who was very dominant.  Now I am all grown up and I want to serve an older Domme. How about some honesty here.  I am looking for a real companion/submissive/eventual slave.  I am real.  I am honest.  Is it too much to ask that you be the same?

4/5/2008 3:34:59 PM

I was asked recently what I might be looking  for in a sub.  This is how I responded: "A devoted sub who will worship and adore Me and share My lifestyle with My huband/sub and Myself 24/7.  Someone who understands what it means to share a life day to day.  Someone who will give Me free reign with his or her body.  Someone who can eroticize pain into pleasure and seeks intensity.  Someone who shares My vanilla interests because the reality is you really can't be kinky all the time without a basis in shared interests outside the lifestyle.  Someone who understands that if the power exchange is real then mundane things like washing the dishes really IS BDSM because it supports the day to day life of the household and makes My life better." Of course the person who asked Me this question then said 'where have you been all my life." and promptly disappeared.  <sigh>  So many people approach Me and when they realize that I am REAL they vanish.  Well, I have found some very special people here and they know who they are!  Forever in Leather, Mistress Elsie

1/22/2008 8:34:31 PM

Service subs and "do me" subs I love service oriented subs. Give Me a boy or girl who wants to provide Me with service; a massage, a pedicure, cooking a meal, polishing My boots, managing My yahoo group etc, and I am a happy Domme! subs who come with a long laundry list of things they want Me to do to them will very soon find I am bored and pissed off. Trust Me you DON'T want to piss Me off. NO, that won't get you a good beating. It will get you ignored and blocked! Be good! Forever in leather

11/26/2007 6:34:48 PM

S Words It seems that most of what I appreciate in a partner can be summed up in words that start with S! Submissive: This is number one on the list, if a man or woman is not capable of feeling submissive TO ME. Then they might become My friend but nota partner. Note: the fact that you have persistent fantasies about being tied up and having lots of sex does NOT make you submissive, just a horny pervert. Conversely if you have persistent fantasies of tying people up and having lots of sex does NOT make you a Dominant, just a horny pervert. Not that there is anything wrong with that, its just not what I am looking for. Being submissive does not make you a doormat. It means that you desire to give control over parts of your life to someone you trust. Smart: on this point I am a snob. I like very smart people. AVerage nice people make great friends, but with a submissive I find I get bored easily. Sane: this seems obvious, but there are a lot of nut jobs out there! Safe: again obvious. NO I will not meet you tonight to have fabulous (yeah right) kinky sex. Read earlier journal enteries about safe ways to meet people. Sensual: I am a hands on Domme. I like to touch people. Note again wanting to be tied up and have lots of sex is NOT the same as sensual. See above. Self-Aware: Know who you are. Know what you want and what you weaknesses and strengths are. Successful: This is part of My kink. I like people who are are effective and successful. That does not mean you need to have a 6 figure income. It means you are good at what you do. Whatever that is. The fact is there is nothing more exciting to Me than having a smart, successful, sensual, self-ware, sane, man or woman chose to submit to Me. Leather kisses, Mistress Elsie

10/11/2007 1:42:45 PM

HONESTY * DEVOTION * CONSISTENCY These are critical qualites in a submissive/slave. Especially when a relationship starts here on line. Please be honest. If you are not who or what you say you are, or if your situation is not as you have stated then eventually things will go sour. Please, please, please DON"T lie about your age, sex, marital status, height, weight etc. Be who you are. If you want to be Mine (or someone else's for that matter) you must demostrate your devotion. Tell Me that you care about Me, that I am not just a generic Domme, but Someone Special. Show that you want to please Me. Understand that I am not perfect, who is?? That I have a life and needs and that if you are Mine it means I have invested time and emotion in our relationship. Finally, consistency is important to Me. That means the burden of contact is on the sub. Don't send Me 25 messages this week, ignore Me next week and expect to come back and be accepted as if nothing had happened. We don't have to have long deep conversations every day, but a little wave every other day or so is good. If I don't hear from someone for several days I start to think something has happened! Be good and play nice. Forever in leather, Mistress Elsie

10/10/2007 5:40:04 PM

Alright another topic!  What you want vs. what I want!  I realize of course that every relationship is a dance.  Without a willing partner a Domme is just a woman wishing for some attention.  BUT, there is a power dynamic in a D/s relationship that cannot be ignored.  If you claim to be a Sub then let Me lead!  If you want to belong to Me then assume a submissive role with Me.  Don't try to intimidate Me into acting out your kink! I keep getting messages here from boys and girls who have a particular kink and seem determined to make Me act that out for them.  If its not MY kink I am not interested.  Just because I am a Domme doesn't make Me your Domme.  There are a few boys and girls here that I have found worthy of My attention.  They know who they are!  I am always willing to chat and expand My circle of friends and who knows what will come of our chatting, but don't assume that you are Mine and I am going to act out your fantasies just because I am polite enough to chat with you.  Be good, be polite, be honest and be patient! Forever in leather, Mistress E.

9/4/2007 3:28:32 PM

Alright its time for another RANT!? Brace yourselves My darlings.? Please, please, please, don't ask Me to do things that are illegal.? OK, I know that corporal play is illegal.? Technically you can not consent to be beaten.? Occasionally people do get prosecuted for such things, but usually that is more of a means to another end; shutting down a dungeon, entrapment of a pro Domme etc.? What I am talking about is boys and girls here who have fantasies they want to enlist Me to act out.? NO, I am NOT going to lop off body parts for you!? NO, no matter how much money you are willing to pay Me I will NOT keep you locked up in My basement forever!? I have NO desire to castarate you!? I totally understand the desire to change gender.? That is a long involved MEDICAL process.? There are excellent clinics here in Minnesota and other places that I can refer you to if you wish.? I am supportive of anyone who has genuine gender disforia (or whatever the current term may be)? I have had several trans subs over the years and was right there to hold their hands, BUT not to wield the knife! I have NO desire to spend time in prison!!! I know there are all sorts of fantasies out there that you would like to act out.? Great!? Find a nice accomodating cyber Domme who will act it out for you via IM,? but please don't go asking perfect strangers to mutilate you!! Be careful!? Play nice!? In a mean nasty way of course! Forever in Leather, Mistress Elsie

8/10/2007 5:10:57 PM

Ok, this is going to be a "rant"!  I really do appreciate all those who send Me respectful messages.  The only person I have blocked is the man who sent Me a message that said something like "i'm drinking a beer."  Huh???  Anyway, the topic here is submissives who say things like:  "i am ready to come move in tomorrow" when they have no idea who I am or what I am about. I am not a generic Domme, you are not a generic submissive.  you should care very much who I am and what I require in a sub.  Beyond the feeling I get that some subs think of Dommes as a public utility **"where do i sign up for your service?"** there are basic safety concerns that everyone on the internet should be aware of and practice.  My dears you don't know Me from a hole in the ground!!!  I could be a man (I am not) I could be 20 years older or 200 pounds heavier than I say I am (Iam not)  I could be a psycho killer (I am not) I could be a true sadist into maiming and imprisoning My victims or eating them piece by piece (I am not!)  But if I were those things would I list them in My profile???  I think not! Ask questions! Ask for references!  Don't offer to turn your life over to someone you have not even met yet!  If you plan to meet someone set up a safe call!  (If you don't know what a safe call is send Me a message and I will tell you how to do it.) People lie, I don't because I am looking for real people, real relationships.  I list My real age.  I am 57.  If I send you a picture it will be of Me.  The one thing I really cannot tolerate is being lied to.  OK I also can't tolerate drunks (unless they are in recovery.)  So please be honest with Me. And for goodness sake please at least read My profile before you invite Me to a chat!   Please be careful.  Forever in leather, Mistress Elsie

8/2/2007 12:13:47 PM

Just a quick update for all those who know Me. I live in Minneapolis not far from the bridge that collapsed last evening. I am fine and all My family are fine. I cross that bridge often and used to live right next to the north end of it. If you are a spiritual person please send a little prayer for all those effected by this major tragedy. Forever in leather, Mistress Elsie

7/27/2007 8:16:41 PM

Goodness, its been a long time since I made an entry here! I recently returned from Thunder in the Mountains. I drove out with My husband and a lovely Fem sub friend. We enjoyed the journey visiting such local sites as Wall Drug, the Corn Palace in Mitchel S.D. the Badlands and Carhenge a reproduction of Stonehenge made out of old cars on the plains of Nebraska! Very kinky! Thunder is a well run 3 day BDSM convention at a Four Star hotel in Denver. We enjoyed two nights of a first class dungeon party and many interesting workshops. I bought some nice new toys including some canes since the ones I had got left home by mistake. I could have spent a lot of money on toys, but the truth is I have plenty!! I plan to attend a workshop on play piercing next week and I was recently given a how-to book on fire play. There is always somethig new to learn and experience! Forever in leather, Mistress Elsie

6/2/2007 3:21:27 PM

I have returned from a trip out east and I am getting caught up on things around home.  After nearly a week with My vanilla family it feels good to get back to My normal  kinky life.  I am going to a party tonight and look forward to playing with My husband and some other subs that are going with us.  I will be taking My knives and canes and a few other choice items like cuffs and rope and of course some nice floggers.  I find one of the things I enjoy most these days is a devoted sub kneeling at My feet.  One such lovely girl has offered to paint My toenails! Kisses, Mistress Elsie

5/19/2007 12:05:24 PM

I suppose its time to begin a blog here. First let Me say that I have not been able to respond to many who have sent Me messages. There have simply been too many to respond to. I apologize the those I have not replied to and wish you all well. If you want to get My attention please think about what it is that you have to offer. Keep in mind every sub out there has much too offer that is unique about themselves. If you love to cook be sure to mention that, if you write poetry I want to know that about you. What I don't particularly want to know about is the size of your equipment or for that matter your ego! If you want to impress Me please be polite. I expect simple courtesy. I say please and thank you (yes, even to slaves) and if you can't do the same you won't receive a reply. I am a real time Domina, not interested in cyber fun. I am primarily interested in local submissives whom I can take the time to get to know in an organic, natural sort of way. That means I will not meet you in a hotel room for a beating tomorrow! I am interested in a relationship not an encounter. Having said all that, I have chatted with some lovely people here and will continue to respond to those that seem to have potential. I wish everyone well on their journey thru this lifestyle. If you are truly meant for it you will never find anything more rewarding. In leather forever, Mistress Elsie