Disclaimer *I am a out spoken, abrasive, stubborn but friendly caring and wise Dickhead. I am who I am and I make no apologies for being myself; if you have a problem with me; that is on you! I enjoy who I am and your opinion will not change that. Now on with the chaos............. Oh happy, happy, joy, joy!! This is where I get to over indulge my ego on how I want the world to view me. Well for the most part I am a 36 year old Single Father of two wonderful young children. This is very time consuming as most single parents know. My two off springs are my foundation and my inspiration. Providing a secure path for my off springs is my number one priority even when it comes to the lifestyle. This is the biggest reason people do not see me as active in the "scene" as I would prefer However I am not interested in the “normal vanilla” life, it does nothing for me. I seek erotic and kinky moments and high intense excitement of the flesh. I am hedonistic and thrive in chaos but disciplined enough to stay on track and accomplish goals. I wouldn't hold the degree that I do if I wasn't focused! I have been involved in the BDSM lifestyle since I was 16 (20 years) and active with in the lifestyle community for over 10 years. I enjoy the personal interactions and dynamics D’s relationships have and the Social interaction in the BDSM lifestyle offers. Time doesn't mean anything other then that fact to explain/support some of my views of the social growth BDSM has made over the past few years Due to life and the random events that life brings; I go in phases and I will get really active then I will drop out of the scene like I died. So some people may have seen me around while others may think I am new. Once you get the chance to actually carry a conversation on with me you will seen I have spend many years crafting my art and exploring the things I enjoy. I am Switch however my Dominant side is more natural to me and the role suites me well. I enjoy being in control and find it amusing to push peoples limits both physically and mentally. However I have a strong desire to please and want to explore my desire to give up control with the right person. I enjoy pain so I can bottom if the right dynamics are present and I have an intimate and personal connection with the Top or Domme/Domina-This is why I accept the term "switch". I am also brutally honest and I have no issues with forgetting manners and kindness for the sake of Honesty. I am very good at being on your mind, under your skin and in your heart. I have a extreme personality; either you end up adoring me or you end up despising me; either way I am comfortable with it. I am a sadomasochist and enjoy giving and receiving pain. I have been called extreme sadomasochist but I simply like to believe I only step it up a notch. Some of my favorite past times are electric play, fire play bondage, anal play and worship, mental mind fucks and Sensory deprivation, biting, slapping, spanking, canning, flogging, whips, single tails among other things. Basically if I can use it to inflict pain and various sensations I’ll enjoy it. I enjoy pushing ones physical limits and expanding ones mental limitations. I also enjoy having control of my submissive sexuality I like to explore, incorporate peoples fetishes in scenes. I find that play partners with fetishes tend to bring an added element to the scene. I respect and appreciate the art of shibari and other artistic rope bondage but in practice it is lost on me. I generally will lose interest in tying someone up due to my impatiences on wanting to enjoy beating them. So the odds are I will break out duct tape faster then I will use rope!

I am not into Scant; Baby play or Animals

As a Dominant I refuse to be naive to the feel of toys we play with. I think it is important for a Dominant to understand what a submissive goes through. I also think a Dominant should be a quide for self growth and push the submissive to be a better person and have deeper self awareness. BDSM is a journey and the Dominant should be a guide to foster that journey. As a Submissive; My main focus is to please. I feel being topped is a reward for good service. I like having a Mistress that when to push things to the next limit and when to ride that limit out. One that understands my nature and nurtures personal freedom. As stated above I don’t mind being a bottom from time to time and I do have some submissive tendencies however I seldom desire to fully submit to anyone but that is not to say I won’t and in fact I have. I actually started re-exploring my submissive tendencies. I have been called a pain slut but I find that title to be miss leading since every ones pain tolerance is different both mentally and physically. I do have some submissive stories that will either make you excited or scared maybe both.
I find it is important to defend your lifestyle so you force the vanilla world to open their eyes. I enjoy the WIITWD and have work for the WIITWD civil rights for several years. I strongly believe in Gay/lesbian/bisexual and pansexual rights. I believe polygamous relationships should be legal. I do find them personally very complex so good luck for those who find that and make it work! I have a huge tolerance for mistakes, people being naive and learning periods. I have absolutely no tolerance or respect for ignorance or lying. Besides the BDSM lifestyle I am a swinger as well as Polyandrous. I do not believe sex or love is necessary restricted by each other. In any relationship I am in there must be compersion with in each partner to be able to handle and enjoy the dynamics I present. However, if there is going to be a intimate connection of obligations and commitments between I and my partners, there as to be up front honest self acknowledged in depth communication before playing and involving others into the dynamics. I enjoy taking a light hearted approach to BDSM and Scenes. I like to laugh, giggle and goof off for the most parts. I do enjoy having erotic sensual scenes and hard core beatings but prefer those to be in the privacy for intimate reasons.
In most cases I prefer to be able to explore my bottoms/subs sexuality along with BDSM. However that is not always the case and if the right dynamics are present, sex never enters the equation.
I crave new experiences and feelings which is one of my reasons I enjoy the BDSM lifestyle so much. To me; it is extremely important to keep moving and avoid stagnation. I seek change and growth, with out those things I feel life isn't worth living.

On a vanilla aspect:
After ten LONG years of working at various jobs like prison guard semi-driver and machine maintenance for different factories I finally put myself through college and. I am currently working for a non-for profit Community Support Program that helps dual-diagnosed mentally ill clients function in society and do volunteer work on the side, when I have time. During my job I assess and analysis peoples strengths and weakness and work with Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).
I am attempting to wrap up my Masters degree in Social work and Sociology; however that path is on hold at this time. A side project I spend time on is working on research for Chaos theory and how it affects society.
I enjoy a wide range of activities. In my eyes it’s not what you are doing but who you are doing it with. But to answer the question, you can typically find me at the YMCA, at home watching a movie or playing a video game, or going out and playing pool.
I enjoy take walks, riding bikes, picnics in parks, camp outs in the woods, and other common every day explorations of life and its wonders. I like going to dinner, dancing even thou this white boy really can't dance), movies or just staying home and popping in a movie.
Some of my more Normal hobbies or past time leisure’s are: Working out, Disk Golf,

Magic the Gathering card game, Video Games, and camping.